I think there’s only 4 main types of people and they’re all hormonal-based. There’s the cortisol-based: I call them the defender or the threat-based; they become very good investigative journalists by the way. There’s the dopamine-based, or the novelty-based: lots of VCs are usually dopamine-based, they fund 300 different companies. There’s the serotonin-based: these are the structure-based planners, who need all the data, and pull them together; they are the engineer-, architect-like types. And there’s the oxytocin-based: the socialite, empathetic person, the person who connects well.

An investor, entrepreneur and author’s theory of archetypes, based on hormones.

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The #1 New York Times bestseller. Over 10 million copies sold! Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results No matter your goals, Atomic Habits offers a proven framework for improving--every day. James Clear, one of the world's leading experts on habit formation, reveals practical strategies that will teach you exactly how to form good habits, break bad ones, and master the tiny behaviors that lead to remarkable results. If you're having trouble changing your habits, the problem isn't you. The problem is your system. Bad habits repeat themselves again and again not because you don't want to change, but because you have the wrong system for change. You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems. Here, you'll get a proven system that can take you to new heights. Clear is known for his ability to distill complex topics into simple behaviors that can be easily applied to daily life and work. Here, he draws on the most proven ideas from biology, psychology, and neuroscience to create an easy-to-understand guide for making good habits inevitable and bad habits impossible. Along the way, readers will be inspired and entertained with true stories from Olympic gold medalists, award-winning artists, business leaders, life-saving physicians, and star comedians who have used the science of small habits to master their craft and vault to the top of their field. Learn how to: <ul><li>make time for new habits (even when life gets crazy);</li></ul><ul><li>overcome a lack of motivation and willpower;</li></ul><ul><li>design your environment to make success easier;</li></ul><ul><li>get back on track when you fall off course;</li></ul>...and much more. Atomic Habits will reshape the way you think about progress and success, and give you the tools and strategies you need to transform your habits--whether you are a team looking to win a championship, an organization hoping to redefine an industry, or simply an individual who wishes to quit smoking, lose weight, reduce stress, or achieve any other goal.

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Nice guys believe that if they are good and do everything right, they will be loved, get their needs met, and have a problem-free life.This attempt to be good typically involves trying to eliminate or hide certain things about themselves (their mistakes, needs, emotions) and become what they believe others want them to be (generous, helpful, peaceful, etc.).

<ul><li>caretaking</li><li>giving to get</li><li>keeping the peace</li><li>avoiding conflict</li><li>seeking approval</li><li>hiding mistakes</li></ul>

2. Behaviors of Nice Guy:

<ul><li>He has a strong sense of self. He likes himself just as he is.</li><li>He takes responsibility for getting his own needs met.</li><li>He is comfortable with his masculinity and his sexuality.</li><li>He has integrity. He does what is right, not what is expedient.</li><li>He is a leader. He is willing to provide for and protect those he cares about.</li><li>He is clear, direct, and expressive of his feelings.</li><li>He can be nurturing and giving without caretaking or problem-solving.</li><li>He knows how to set boundaries and is not afraid to work through conflict.</li><li>An integrated male doesn’t strive to be perfect or gain the approval of others.</li></ul>

3. Attributes of an Integrated Man:

<ul><li>Children are born helpless and fear abandonment and are self-centered.</li><li>Unmet childhood needs create abandonment experiences.</li><li>They blame themselves and feel toxic shame and develop coping mechanisms based on powerlessness.</li><li>They believe they are inherently bad due to shame.</li><li>Cope with feeling defective by being overly nice.</li><li>Hide perceived badness from self and others.</li></ul> Root is toxic shame and fear of abandonment.

4. Childhood Origin of Nice Guy Paradigm:

<ul><li>Industrialization & urbanization disrupted traditional family structures.</li><li>Absent fathers and lack of male role models.</li><li>Being raised by women without male guidance.</li><li>Radical feminism portrayed men as "bad".</li></ul>

5. Societal Changes Leading to Nice Guy Syndrome:

<ul><li>Disconnected from manhood and masculine identity.</li><li>Comfortable being defined by women's approval.</li><li>Confused about how to be men and seeking validation through women.</li><li>Hiding "bad" male traits to be "nice" for women's love.</li><li>Dependent on women's approval due to lack of male guidance.</li></ul>

Effects on Men:

<ul><li>Requires constant monitoring of women's sexual availability and moods.</li><li>Gives women power to control the relationship tone.</li><li>Links men's moods to women's moods.</li><li>Allows women to define men's worth.</li><li>Sacrifice own needs to please women.</li><li>Creates self-doubt when women critique men.</li><li>Leads to rage towards women when expectations aren't met.</li><li>Turns women into false gods then despises them for failing.</li></ul>

6. Problems with Seeking Women's Approval:

<ul><li>What do I want?</li><li>What feels right to me?</li><li>What would make me happy?</li></ul>

7. Start asking yourself these important questions:

<ul><li>I am lovable just as I am.</li><li>I am perfectly imperfect.   </li><li>My needs are important.</li><li>I am a strong and powerful person.</li><li>I can handle it.</li><li>People love and accept me just as I am.</li><li>It is OK to be human and make mistakes.</li><li>I am the only person I have to please.</li></ul>

8. Some possible affirmations:

Nice Guys need safe, trusting relationships to reveal their shame and humanity in order to change their core belief that they are bad and unlovable.

Helpless, whiny, wimpy, and needy are not attractive on a man. Confidence and self-assurance are. Most folks are attracted to men who have a sense of self. Putting the self first doesn’t drive people away, it attracts them. Putting the self first is essential for getting what one wants in love and life.

Nice Guys want smooth lives but it's impossible - life is unpredictable. Their childhood made them think if they did everything right, life would be smooth. These beliefs help cope but don't work as adults. Nice Guys use childhood mechanisms, ensuring failure. This failure perpetuates fear and ineffectiveness in a vicious cycle.

Nice Guys need to learn how to set boundaries to take control of their lives. At first, they might go to extremes, but they learn to use the right amount of resistance. Setting boundaries is about changing themselves, not others, and taking responsibility helps relationships grow and get better.

In order to reverse the effects of the Nice Guy Syndrome, Nice Guys have to reclaim their masculinity. Reclaiming one’s masculinity involves:<ul><li>Connecting with other men.</li><li>Getting strong.</li><li>Finding healthy male role models.</li><li>Reexamining one’s relationship with one’s father.</li></ul> As Nice Guys reclaim their masculine energy, everyone wins. Not only does the recovering Nice Guy get to experience deeper bonds with men, but his relationships with women grow too.

Nice Guys struggle to find love because of their feelings of shame, problems in relationships, difficulty setting boundaries, repeating childhood patterns, strong connection to their mother, and challenges in ending things positively.

<ul><li>Avoiding sexual situations and opportunities</li><li>Trying to be a good lover</li><li>Hiding compulsive sexual behaviors</li><li>Repressing their life energy</li><li>Settling for bad sex</li></ul>

15. What prevents Nice Guys from getting the sex they want?

In nature, the alpha male and the bull moose don’t sit around trying to figure out what will make the girls like them. They are just themselves: fierce, strong, competitive, and sexually proud. Because they are what they are and do what they do, prospective mates are attracted.Self-respect, courage, and integrity look good on a man.

<ul><li>Release your sexual shame and fear</li><li>Take responsibility for your own pleasure</li><li>Refuse to settle for bad sex</li><li>Practice being  just who you are</li><li>Put yourself in the position to embrace this cosmic force without fear or reservation</li></ul>

17. This is when the sex really gets good:

Fear is the main thing that holds Nice Guys back. It affects everything they do or don't do. They fear making mistakes, failing, or even succeeding because they worry about being exposed as frauds or not living up to expectations. Instead of facing these fears, Nice Guys settle for less than what they could achieve.This keeps them from being creative, focusing on their mistakes, and taking risks or trying new things.

Nice Guys think there are strict rules for a happy life, but successful people make their own rules based on what works.

<ul><li>If it frightens you, do it.</li><li>Don’t settle. Every time you settle, you get exactly what you settled for.</li><li>Put yourself first.</li><li>No matter what happens, you will handle it.</li><li>Whatever you do, do it 100%.</li><li>If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got.</li><li>You are the only person on this planet responsible for your needs, wants, and happiness.</li><li>Ask for what you want.</li><li>If what you are doing isn’t working, try something different.</li><li>Be clear and direct.</li><li>Learn to say «no.»</li><li>Don’t make excuses.</li><li>If you are an adult, you are old enough to make your own rules.</li><li>Let people help you.</li></ul>

20. 30 Personal Rules to achieve everything you want:

<ul><li>Be honest with yourself.</li><li>Do not let anyone treat you badly. No one. Ever.</li><li>Remove yourself from a bad situation instead of waiting for the situation to change.</li><li>Don’t tolerate the intolerable —ever.</li><li>Stop blaming. Victims never succeed.</li><li>Live with integrity. Decide what feels right to you, then do it.</li><li>Accept the consequences of your actions.</li><li>Be good to yourself.</li><li>Think abundance.</li><li>Face difficult situations and conflict head on.</li><li>Don’t do anything in secret.</li><li>Do it now.</li><li>Be willing to let go of what you have so you can get what you want.</li><li>Have fun. If you are not having fun, something is wrong.</li></ul>

<ul><li>Give yourself room to fail. There are no mistakes, only learning experiences.</li><li>Control is an illusion. Let go; let life happen.</li></ul>

If others can do it, so can you. It's time to take control, make your own rules, and turn dreams into reality.

21 Important Lessons of "No More Mr Nice Guy"

Originally published as an e-book that became a controversial media phenomenon, No More Mr. Nice Guy! landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O'Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show. Dr. Robert Glover has dubbed the "Nice Guy Syndrome" trying too hard to please others while neglecting one's own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It's no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential.

Dr. Robert Glover is the author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life (Running Press, 2003) and Dating Essentials for Men: The Only Dating Guide You Will Ever Need. Dr. Glover is the creator of Dating Essentials for Men and the director of TPI University.

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"There is one skill that lies at the heart of any healthy person, family, school, community organization, or society: the ability to see someone else deeply, and make them feel seen - to accurately know another person, to let them feel valued, heard, and understood."

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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A practical, heartfelt guide to the art of truly knowing another person in order to foster deeper connections at home, at work, and throughout our lives—from the author of The Road to Character and The Second Mountain As David Brooks observes, “There is one skill that lies at the heart of any healthy person, family, school, community organization, or society: the ability to see someone else deeply and make them feel seen—to accurately know another person, to let them feel valued, heard, and understood.” And yet we humans don’t do this well. All around us are people who feel invisible, unseen, misunderstood. In How to Know a Person, Brooks sets out to help us do better, posing questions that are essential for all of us: If you want to know a person, what kind of attention should you cast on them? What kind of conversations should you have? What parts of a person’s story should you pay attention to? Driven by his trademark sense of curiosity and his determination to grow as a person, Brooks draws from the fields of psychology and neuroscience and from the worlds of theater, philosophy, history, and education to present a welcoming, hopeful, integrated approach to human connection. How to Know a Person helps readers become more understanding and considerate toward others, and to find the joy that comes from being seen. Along the way it offers a possible remedy for a society that is riven by fragmentation, hostility, and misperception. The act of seeing another person, Brooks argues, is profoundly creative: How can we look somebody in the eye and see something large in them, and in turn, see something larger in ourselves? How to Know a Person is for anyone searching for connection, and yearning to be understood.

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• Don't criticize, condemn or complain.• Give honest and sincere appreciation.• Arouse in the other person an eager want.

Essential Techniques For Handling People

🔝 Criticizing often breeds resentment and does not result in positive change. It’s important to remember that when dealing with people, we’re dealing not with creatures of logic, but with creatures of emotion, who are motivated by pride and ego.<ul><li>When we deal with others, we should keep in mind their pride and ego.</li><li>🤐 Criticism can be futile and dangerous, often putting a person on the defensive mode.</li><li>🎉 People learn best through positive reinforcement, not punishment.</li></ul>🧠"The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated."- William James

Criticizing Others Doesn’t Yield Anything Positive 

The only way to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.To convince someone to do something, we have to frame it in terms of what motivates them. And in order to do that, we have to be able to see things from their point of view as well as our own

Arouse In The Other Person An Eager Want

To form meaningful relationships, it's important to show genuine interest in others. Here's how:
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 <li>Be attentive and listen to what others have to say</li>
 <li>Show empathy and ask questions about their lives</li>
 <li>Offer your time, energy, and support</li>
 <li>Be thoughtful and considerate</li>
 <li>Invest in building mutual understanding and trust</li>
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When you show interest in others, they are more likely to reciprocate and a true connection can be formed. So remember, it's not about you, it's about them!

Tips for Making Genuine Connections

Smile to show you like someone - smiling is a powerful way to make someone feel good
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<li>smiling genuinely says "I like you, you make me happy"</li>
<li>avoid fake smiling - we know it's not real (and we hate it)</li> 
<li>it feels good to show people you're happy to see them, too</li>
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Make sure the next time you meet someone, smile as it can make a huge difference in establishing a positive connection. 
Remember, the power of a smile is bigger than you think 😉

The Power of Smiling

Remembering and correctly using someone's name can make them feel valued and respected. However, forgetting or mispronouncing a name can have the opposite effect.Why Remembering Names Matters:<ul><li>It's a way to show you care </li><li>It makes people feel important </li><li>It can positively impact your relationships </li><li>It helps you to stand out in a good way </li><li>Builds trust and connection</li></ul>🔑🗒️✨

Remembering Names

👂 To be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.💬 Most people would prefer a good listener to a good talker.👉🏻 "The royal road to a person’s heart is to talk about the things he or she treasures most." - THEODORE ROOSEVELT• It could be a hobby, a favorite movie, or even a pet.• Next time you want to make a connection, ask about what they treasure most.

Encourage Others To Talk About Themselves

- People desire validation from those they interact with. - They crave acknowledgement of their value and significance. - But, they do not seek superficial compliments , they crave sincere appreciation & genuine recognition.

Make People Feel Important

💡Win an Argument without Arguing<ul><li>Getting the best out of an argument? Avoid it! </li><li>Respect others' opinions</li><li>Avoid saying "You're wrong"</li><li>Admit when wrong</li><li>Be friendly</li><li>Say "yes" often</li><li>Let them do most of the talking</li><li>Make them feel the idea was theirs</li><li>See things from their perspective</li><li>Sympathize and appeal to their better nature</li><li>Dramatize your ideas</li><li>Challenge them in a positive way</li></ul>

How to Win People To Your Way Of Thinking

Arguments can never truly be won, we either lose or make others feel inferior and resentful. Best course of action: avoid them entirely! Key Takeaways: • Winning arguments is impossible • Arguments can damage relationships • Try to understand the other person's perspective instead of trying to prove them wrong.

🙅🏻‍♀️Don't Argue, Just Avoid

When talking with people, it's important to focus on the points on which we agree rather than starting with disagreements. This will help to establish a common goal and avoid the difficulty of overcoming a "no" response.

👥 Emphasizing Points of Agreement

"One of the fundamental keys to successful human relations is understanding that other people may be completely wrong, but they don't think so. Put yourself in their shoes. Success in dealing with people depends on a sympathetic grasp of the other person's perspective."

Don't Condemn, Try To Understand

Begin with showing appreciation and acknowledging others good qualities.Speak indirectly about faults, and share your own past mistakes before offering criticism. <ul><li> Instead of giving direct orders, ask questions for a more open dialogue. Allow the other person to preserve their dignity by letting them "save face".</li><li>Acknowledge and praise any improvements, no matter how small.</li><li>Give the other person a positive reputation to strive for.</li><li>Use positive encouragement and make the mistake seem easy to correct.</li></ul>Remember to focus on the solution rather than the problem.

How to Give Constructive Feedback to Avoid Offense

<ul><li>👥 Be genuinely interested in others by listening and asking questions.</li><li>😊 Smile! A simple gesture can go a long way in making someone feel comfortable.</li><li>🗣️ Remember that a person's name is the sweetest and most important sound in any language.</li><li>👂 Be a good listener; encourage others to talk about themselves.</li><li>💬 Talk about subjects that the other person is passionate or interested in.</li><li>🎖️ Make others feel important and do it sincerely.</li></ul>

Quick Tips on How to Make People Like You

Once I did bad, that I heard ever.
Twice I did good, that I heard never.

How to Win Friends and Influence People' is one of the first best-selling self-help books ever published. Just after publishing, it quickly exploded into an overnight success, eventually selling more than 15 million copies worldwide, and pioneering an entire genre of self-help and personal success books. With an enduring grasp of human nature, it teaches his readers how to handle people without letting them feel manipulated, how to make people feel important without inspiring resentment, how win people over to your point of view without causing offence, and how to make a friend out of just about anyone. Millions of people around the world have improved their lives based on the teachings of Dale Carnegie. This classic book will turn your relationships around and improve your interactions with everyone in your life. ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Dale Carnegie (1888-1955) was an American writer and lecturer and the developer of famous courses in self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training, public speaking and interpersonal skills. He was born in an impoverished family in Maryville, Missouri. Carnegie harboured a strong love and passion for public speaking from a very early age and was very proactive in debate in high school. During the early 1930's, he was renowned and very famous for his books and a radio program. 'When How to Win Friends and Influence People' was published in 1930, it became an instant success and subsequently became one of the biggest bestsellers of all time. Carnegie loved teaching others to climb the pillars of success. His valuable and tested advice was used in many domains and has been the inspiration of many famous people's success. One of the core ideas in his books is that it is possible to change other people's behavior by changing one's reaction to them.

Updated for today’s readers, Dale Carnegie’s timeless bestseller How to Win Friends and Influence People is a classic that has improved and transformed the professional and personal and lives of millions. One of the best-known motivational guides in history, Dale Carnegie’s groundbreaking book has sold tens of millions of copies, been translated into almost every known language, and has helped countless people succeed. Originally published during the depths of the Great Depression—and equally valuable during booming economies or hard times—Carnegie’s rock-solid, time-tested advice has carried countless people up the ladder of success in their professional and personal lives. How to Win Friends and Influence People teaches you: -How to communicate effectively -How to make people like you -How to increase your ability to get things done -How to get others to see your side -How to become a more effective leader -How to successfully navigate almost any social situation -And so much more! Achieve your maximum potential with this updated version of a classic—a must-read for the 21st century.

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2024 is going to be a great year!

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The more a person understands their own value, the less likely they are to be discouraged by critics.

Self-Value Shields Against Critics

𝐀𝐦𝐚𝐳𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐅𝐚𝐜𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐤𝐧𝐨𝐰...

Embracing Self-Discovery Through Circumstances

<ul><li>Reflecting on ongoing unresolved arguments.</li><li>Noting a tendency for an inability to compromise.</li><li>Recognizing a scarcity of emotional connections.</li></ul>

Person's Thoughts:

Full Attention<ul><li>Actively listening without distractions during conversations.</li><li>Example: Putting away phones when talking.</li></ul>Face-to-Face Communication:<ul><li>Prioritizing direct and in-person discussions.</li><li>Example: Having important conversations in person rather than over text.</li></ul>Honesty and Openness:<ul><li>Being truthful and transparent in communication.</li><li>Example: Sharing feelings openly rather than hiding them.</li></ul>

Examples of Good Communication in Relationships: Part 1

24-Hour Rule:<ul><li>Resolving conflicts within a day to prevent prolonged tension.</li><li>Example: Discussing and settling disagreements before bedtime.</li></ul>Discussion of Little Things:<ul><li>Talking about small, everyday aspects of life.</li><li>Example: Sharing details about each other's day or interests.</li></ul>Overall Impression:Contemplation on communication challenges alongside practical examples of positive communication strategies in relationships.

Examples Of Good Communication In Relationships: Part 2

Sometimes, relationships have problems like fights that never get fixed and difficulty finding middle ground. But good communication can help. It means listening well, giving space, talking face-to-face, being honest, and solving arguments within a day. These things make relationships stronger and happier.

Communication is essential for building long-lasting & fulfilling relationships. Here are reasons which highlight the importance of communication in relationships.

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