Self Education is, I firmly believe, the only kind of education there is.

One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful.

No one is coming to save you, to give you permission, to choose you, or validate you. This has always been your job.You must love yourself so fiercely and fully that you have no choice but to be strong for yourself, and to build yourself.

Even if we disagree about everything, we can still be kind to each other.

You can't save people. You can only love them while they learn how to save themselves.

Some people could be given an entire field of roses and only see the thorns in it. Others could be given a single weed and only see the wildflower in it.Perception is a key component to gratitude, and Gratitude is a key component to joy.

I love when I realise I'm handling a situation better than my old self would have.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Three D's Of Success 

Dedication is a quality that you must process in order to set your goal through. From the movement you set your mind on something until you step on that scale and see the number you have been waiting for, you have to be dedicated to the process of achieving that goal.You have to be consistent and dedicated to the plan you have set for yourself.

Dedication 

Determination is often described as the act of Arriving at a decision or a quality that makes you continue to try achieve something that is difficult.You have to be serious and determined if you are going to succeed. Don't waste your time, and money, if you aren't ready for a change

Determination 

Discipline is the consistent application of self control and structured behaviour to achieve your objectives. It involves creating and sticking to a set of rules, routines, and habits that support your goals. Discipline ensures that you maintain focus, make the necessary sacrifices, and avoid distractions or temptations that might hinder your progress.

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Three D's of success 

Villains and heroes actually have the exact same backstory. The villain story and the backstory of the hero are pain. So the difference between the villain and the hero is one thing: it's how they respond to pain. The villain says: “the world hurt me; I'm gonna hurt it back”. And the hero says: “the world hurt me; I'm not gonna let this happen to anyone else”.It's just literally how you decide to react to pain that causes you to be the villain or the hero.

Speaker: Donald Miller on The School of Greatness Podcast with Lewis Howes

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Are you a villain or a hero?

The Difference Between The Villain And The Hero Is One Thing

Trust is built on authenticity.
People appreciate and gravitate toward those who are genuine.
Show up as your true self - people can spot a fake from a mile away.

1. Be Genuine and Authentic

Try to understand and share the feelings of others.
Empathy creates an emotional connection, which is a cornerstone of successful relationships.

2. Show Empathy

The act of listening shows that you value others' opinions and experiences.
Make them feel heard and understood. It's one of the simplest yet most powerful ways to make someone feel important.

3. Be a Good Listener

Go out of your way to be helpful.
This demonstrates your care and concern for others, making them feel valued and appreciated.
Helping others also fosters positive relationships.

4. Offer Help

Reliability is a key trait of a respected person.
Keep your promises and commitments.
It not only shows that you're trustworthy but also dependable.

5. Be Reliable

Kindness is contagious and leaves a lasting impression.
Even small acts of kindness can make a big impact on others' lives.

6. Practice Kindness

Remember, humility is a virtue.
Recognize that we all have strengths and weaknesses.
No one is superior or inferior - humility is respected and appreciated by all.

7. Stay Humble

Gratitude goes a long way. Everyone wants to feel appreciated.
Recognize their contributions and efforts. A simple thank you can make someone's day.

8. Show Appreciation

Clear, direct, and open communication helps to avoid misunderstandings.
It also builds trust and promotes understanding.

9. Communicate Effectively

Everyone deserves respect, regardless of their beliefs, experiences, or perspectives.
Respecting others fosters a positive and inclusive environment.

10. Respect Others

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How to Win Anyone in Life

Thoughts are like dogs. Your pet likes it when you give it what it wants; it's like you're listening to it. After training, they become organized, attentive, and they listen to you.
When you get a thought, hear it, nurture it, tell the thought what you want, and let it pass. There will be more space left in your mind to do more productive tasks throughout the day

I Love Dogs And Thoughts

What to do with negative thoughts?

Beware of looking for goals: look for a way of life. Decide how you want to live and then see what you can do to make a living within that way of life.

Find your path in life, not just your goals. Hunter S. Thompson reminds us to define how we want to live and then seek to make a living that aligns with that way of life. It's about the journey, not just the destination. 🌟

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Embrace a Way of Life, Not Just Goals

I have been doing a lot of introspection lately. Meditation, research and basically understanding how I work. I think this is something truly basic that has gone missing in today's world. A world that has formulas, sigma grind and other self-help materials available that seeks to provide a one solution for all problems. The problem is, that, there isn't one solution to all problems. The only solution according to me, is the solution you can find within you. And to find a solution within you, you have to understand who you are. Here's where my 3 step method comes in.

Introduction

Although, every step in the 3 step process is as crucial as any other. This, is where the foundation is laid. Here, it will be determined whether you have made an honest attempt, or just half-assed your way. Awareness is the key to understanding yourself. Being aware is simply, having a complete understand of who you are as a person. I am lazy, I don't like working out, I hate waking up early, I get frustrated easily. Being aware is observing yourself as a 3rd person, and realizing who you are, without reserving any judgments or biases.

Awareness

When you are aware of who you are, and when you are in the process of becoming aware, there would be a rational part of your brain that would say, it's not true. I am not lazy, I just don't feel like working right now, I am not addicted to smoking, I just do it sometimes, etc, etc. That is your mind pushing against and fighting for you. Your ego won't let you believe things that goes against what you want to think you are. But, here's where the brain plays tricks on you to make you feel comfortable. Let go of that ego, and accept who you truly are. If you are lazy, you are lazy, no ifs or buts

Acceptance

Once you are aware of who you are, and accepted who you are, then and only then you have a true potential for growth. Because now, you know the truth. Now, that you know that you are lazy, and accept it, you can work on it to make yourself more productive. Until and unless you don't see reality for what it is, and let your brain wield the power, it will steer you into a life of comfort, which only leads to despair and depression. Become aware, accept that awareness and let yourself grow. That is my system for growth. The only way forward for you, is for you to know who you truly are.

Growth

These ideas have come after a lot of introspection. I truly believe that everyone, no matter who they are, or where they are have a chance to grow and be happy. This is something I have understood to be the system of growth for me. Check it out!

My Mantra for True Growth!

Your mind, heart and soul. They work like a heartbeat. One high , one low and one flat. These fluctuations are what keeps us normal. So, be the artist of your life and create a beautiful melody where all the three can dance

A Sacred Melody 

Cause words matter and thoughts don't scatter 

What is normal?

We are the ones who built our walls. Don’t ever doubt for a second that we can tear them down.

It took a long time to realize that not everything in life is meant to be a beautiful story.Not every person we feel something deep and moving with is meant to make a home within us or to be forever.Sometimes, people come into our lives to teach us how to love; and sometimes, people come into our lives to teach us how not to love, not to settle, not to shrink ourselves ever again.

Our body is more than just a graveyard for those who could not love it.And our heart is more than just a cemetery for those who disappeared.That essence of matter in this world. We picked it up and lost it —MxGchef WP

The Essence Of Reality

The moment we truly start to believe that we are deserving of happiness, love, or something bigger than what we have been settling for, our heart weeps a little…as if it is the first time in years it has been able to lay down its arms or years it has been able to rest —MxGchef WP

When Moments Turn Into

There is still time for you, to us. We don't have what you have been through. We don’t care about the wounds, pain, scars, or hurt.None of that makes what we are a waste, none of that discounts the fact that we have a purpose, that we mean something.Don’t ever forget that even when we ache all over, even when the world is not kind…you and I are still needed here —MxGchef WP

A Time Of Our Life

Do not be ashamed of what our survival looks like. Do what we have to do.We are clawing ourselves out of the ache, cutting the pain from the bone.It is never going to be pretty, but it will always be you and us the one who survives in the battle of life —MxGchef Wp

The One Who Makes A Life

If you care about someone, make them a priority. Make them a priority not just when it is easy, but when it is difficult as well.If you care about someone, show up for them when you say you will. Show up for them when they least deserve it, because that is when they need it the most.Just be there for them, not because you have to be, but because you want to be. See, the easy things in life hold no weight. It is easy to love someone when they are perfect, soft, and light, and when they are filled with hope and happiness —MxGchef Wp

Make One Life Into Being

You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people.Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or doesn’t want to be with you.All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming—that you like yourself and you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your validation. —MxGchef Wp

Who Must Decide What

Life taught us to become: Stronger, More resilience, Be braver enoughIt's a matter of being enough for ourselves. A matter of taking resilience in our battle.And a matter of being brave enough to be our shield and sword on our battlefield —MxGchef Wp

A Life Of Being 

Too much caring for others ruined us in the blink of an eye. It's not about being bad for others or not giving compassion to others. Instead, we do what we do for us to be happy and free. No matter how good, or kind we had to them there is no rule of perfection in this world —MxGcheF Wp

Too Much Ruined Us

We decide what we do. We create what we want too and lastly, it's our responsibility to take consequences into responsibility

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A MAN DOES WHAT HE DOES

“How dare I play small. How dare I don’t go as big as I possibly can.” – Trav Bell When we play small, we are living our life in a state of fear. Our actions become motivated by our low self-worth, the need for outside validation, desire for temporary comfort, and avoiding those influences at all costs that cause us distress and trepidation.Playing small is being indifferent and living in existence without passion. It is settling for a life that is ok but not great, existing but not feeling fulfilled.

What Does Playing Small Mean?

We’ve all done it. We’ve all dimmed our light and given our power away. It leaves the bitter taste of self-betrayal in our hearts. And it creates a false foundation for connections with others. The truth is that when we’re playing small, we give the green light to others to do the same. We show others that it’s not safe to believe in ourselves, and it’s selfish to explore our greatness. But what kind of legacy does this create? reading these words, are one of the game-changers. The change begins with each of us. And so, let’s break down why do we play it small in interactions with others.

3 Uncomfortable Truth about Playing Small

One of the biggest reasons for playing small is a desire to be loved, accepted, and understood. We emphatically feel what others want from us, and we give it to them, hoping it will bring us something. All this is masked as innocent. But let’s take a closer look at what happens here.

1. Desire to Be Loved and Accepted

The subconscious mind holds a belief that if you just figured out what others need or expect from you, you’ll be safe and loved. When we’re too big, too shiny, the mind sends us a signal that it’s too much. We’ve crossed an imaginary border, and it can remove the love or acceptance of others, so now we have to retreat into our shells.But here is the truth, you can’t make others like you by being out of integrity with yourself. Others aren’t attracted to how small you can become – and if they do, then run and run fast. Others are attracted to that which makes you, you.

Playing small is a subtle form of manipulation. Because when we play small in relationship dynamics, the truth is we want or need something from others. And we don’t know how to fulfill those needs on our own. So we project that need onto somebody else, raising them on a pedestal while shrinking ourselves. When we become someone else to get something from others (approval or even to avoid a conflict), we manipulate them by projecting a false image of who we are. Covering up the truth, which we believe isn’t good enough.

2. Playing Small is Manipulative

By being kind, small, and submissive, the subconscious programming tells us we can get our needs met. But it’s time to stop playing small and step into your greatness. Playing small isn’t a good foundation for any relationship. If being in your power means that someone gets upset with you, withdraws their love, then it isn’t a real bond between you and them. It’s built on illusions that are so fragile that the truth can burst them into dust.

There is that pervasive collective belief that you have to suppress yourself continually to be enlightened. But this is not so. Because through suppressing the self, we can’t find the true self. Thus the ego keeps us in a vicious loop. When you know thyself, the false image of self falls away. It has no other option but to do just that. And so, when we’re playing small, we can sometimes fall victim to the ego’s idea that it’s spiritual. This false modesty and kindness are being projected onto others because we actually are afraid to dive deep to find out what we’re made of.

3. It Isn’t Enlightened, It’s an Ego

This life is about finding inner alignment with the language of the soul. When we are connected to the center of our being, we know who we are and walk our path with integrity. Playing small limits the actual expression of the soul and give space for the shadow to rise. Where do you play it small in your life?What are you afraid would happen if you stepped into your full soul’s expression?Which relationships would be shaken if you stepped into your power?What might you be unconsciously trying to protect from by playing it small?

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone, and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same.

By contrast to playing small, playing big is living a NO Regrets Life. It is existing in a state of high performance where we live to our true capability and aspirations. It is the willingness to face short-term discomfort head-on, knowing there will be risk and uncertainty but persevering nevertheless — It is the very definition of being Passion Struck. “Playing big is living a NO Regrets Life. It is existing in a state of high performance where we live to our true capability and aspirations.” – John R. Miles

What Is Playing Big?

It is feeling so passionate about your life and having the willingness to choose to pursue it and implement the steps it takes to achieve it. It is that feeling of being alive, experiencing a great love of self and others, and a sense of accomplishment and confidence. It ends up bringing feelings of greater freedom and a deep understanding of self.

So how do we start playing Big? How do we take those steps we need to becoming passion struck?

How Do You Play Big?

Envision the experiences you want most in your life — to feel accessible, alive, loved, connected, and have peace of mind. Envision how you will feel when your vision becomes your reality, and let the experience along the way be in service of this. Don’t think of your plan in a linear sense. Be willing to change your plan through your experiences.

Envision the Experience

we need to face whatever obstacles and fears are holding us back.It is vital that we stop pointing fingers at others and instead focus on how we will change. We must acknowledge our problems, ask ourselves what we want, then take action.

Face the Brutal Reality of Whatever you are facing

Once you envision the experiences you want in your life, you need to start prioritizing them. No one does everything on their bucket list or life-plan in a day or a week. It is about action stacking. By prioritizing your actions, you can sequence them in a way that allows you to progress on them. You can sequence them based on what is most important, on momentum, or whatever it may be.

Prioritize Your Plan

We live in a frantic state of mind instead of taking the time to calm down our state of mind. The movie called Sound of Metal about a heavy metal drummer who loses his hearing. One of the things that silence finally brought him was the ability to calm his state of mind. It is a choice between our old life and our new normal.

Stop Living For the Urgent

How often do we develop life-changing ideas and aspirations only to burn them down through our actions? Whether intentionally or unintentionally, we create fires that burn down the very hope and aspirations we want out of life. This comes in many forms. It can be self-doubt, continually changing our plan, allowing beliefs to cloud our judgment, or losing focus on keeping the main thing the main thing. All of these are signs we are being a visionary arsonist to living a no regrets life.

Don’t Be a Visionary Arsonist to Your Dreams

We are responsible for our own happiness. No one will create it for us, and if we think that is the case, we will forever be dependent on others to bring us fulfillment. This is a powerless, victim mentality. Instead, put the focus on what you truly want and take personal responsibility for achieving it. This likely means you will need to audit out many of the people, influences, and habits that are keeping you stuck.

Take Personal Responsibility

This starts with being kind to yourself. It’s a giant trap to attach our self-worth and well-being to our accomplishments and the judgments of others. When we have a negative self-image, it can create self-doubt and negativity that destroys everything we care about. It is vital to understand that your important relationship is with yourself. This is why it is so vital to be your own best ally.

Love Yourself Unconditionally

Let go of that idea that you will enjoy your bucket list “someday;” it is up to you to alter your mindset and live your life-plan now. It’s time to tap into the brutal reality that your past doesn’t define you and that you are part of something larger. Joseph Campbell, an American professor of literature, said it best: “The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are.” Stop listening to your inner critic and start playing big.We only get one shot at this life. It is time for you to make a choice, do the work, and step into your sharp edges.

If You Find Yourself Playing Small

There is no passion to be found playing small - in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living.

A universe where if you set your mind to it, you can achieve anything. Realize your life is NOT based on short-term discomfort. Rather, it is the sum of your hopes, dreams, goals, and aspirations. Slow down. Relax. And be grateful for what you have in life.

Do you live with no regrets? Or do you play small? Playing small is dismissing that passion struck life for one filled with security, acceptance, or control.

WHY DO WE KEEP PLAYING SMALL?

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