"Love isn't something you find, love will itself find you"

We never feel that anyone in this world is better than the one we love.The world seems beautiful, everything seems good and complete, it has happened to everyone and will continue to happen, I myself have been a part of it.

A Beautiful Feeling.

Honestly, It is a very sweet journey to reach oneself.

But what about that love which sometimes causes pain and sufferings? It does not matter whether it is knowingly or unknowingly, but it is a fact that addiction, pain, separation, and some struggles also emerge in love.

What If It Comes With Pain

Recovering from a relationship that caused pain, separation, and struggles can be an incredibly difficult process. The journey to healing and rebuilding oneself requires time, self-reflection, and a commitment to personal growth. However, with the right mindset and support, it is possible to recover and build yourself again, even from the love that once caused so much turmoil.

Recovering From The Love That Caused Pain.

The first step in recovering from a painful relationship is acknowledging and accepting the pain. It is essential to allow yourself to feel the emotions that arise from the breakup or the struggles you faced in the relationship. Give yourself permission to grieve the loss and process the hurt. This may involve seeking therapy or counselling to help navigate through the emotions and gain a deeper understanding of what went wrong.

Acknowledgement.

Self-reflection is a crucial aspect of rebuilding oneself after a challenging relationship. Take time to reflect on your own role in the dynamics of the relationship. Consider the patterns that may have contributed to the pain and struggles. This self-awareness allows you to identify areas for personal growth and change. It also helps you break free from repeating the same mistakes.

Understanding Where It Went Wrong.

During this recovery period, it is essential to focus on self-care and self-love. Engage in activities that bring you joy and promote your well-being. This may include practicing mindfulness, engaging in hobbies, spending time with loved ones, or seeking professional help if needed. Taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally is crucial in rebuilding your sense of self-worth and confidence.

Self Care And Self Love.

Building a support network is another vital component of recovering from a painful relationship. Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Seek out friends, family members, or support groups who understand what you have been through and can provide empathy and guidance. Having a strong support system can help you through the challenging moments and remind you that you are not alone.

Share What You Feel.

As you work on rebuilding yourself, it is important to set boundaries and establish healthy relationship dynamics. Learn to recognize and prioritize your needs and desires. Communicate your boundaries clearly with others and ensure they are respected. This may involve saying no to situations or people that do not align with your values or contribute positively to your life. By setting boundaries, you protect yourself from repeating past patterns and create space for healthier relationships to flourish.

Setting Firm Boundaries.

Lastly, forgiveness is a crucial step in the recovery process. Forgiving yourself and your past partner allows you to let go of resentment and move forward with a clean slate. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting or condoning the pain caused rather, it is a way to release the emotional burden that holds you back from fully healing. Forgiveness allows you to reclaim your power and focus on building a brighter future for yourself.

Forgiveness.

It is a transformative journey. Which requires self-reflection, self-care, support, setting boundaries, and forgiveness. Through this process, you can emerge stronger, wiser, and ready to face the world again.this time with a deeper understanding of yourself and what you truly deserve. Remember, healing takes time, so be patient with yourself and trust in your ability to rebuild and find happiness again.

Pain Makes Us Human.

It is said that a person either learns from books or from experiences, a person who learns from experiences does not lose mostly, that is why perhaps these words may be useful for someone. 

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In a world that often seems chaotic and overwhelming, simplicity has become a sought-after refuge for many individuals. It is the art of distilling the complex into its purest form, allowing us to appreciate the beauty that lies in the uncomplicated. Simplicity is a mindset that can bring clarity and contentment to our lives.

Embracing the Beauty of Minimalism

At it's core, simplicity is about eliminating excess and focusing on what truly matters. It encourages us to let go of the unnecessary clutter and noise that can cloud our minds and distract us from the essence of life.

What Matters?

By simplifying our surroundings, routines, and thoughts, we create space for what truly brings us joy and fulfillment.

What Makes You Happy..

One of the most prominent areas where simplicity has gained traction is in minimalism. Minimalism is not just about having fewer possessions; it is a deliberate choice to live with intentionality. It encourages us to question our habits and to be mindful of what we bring into our lives. By shedding the excess, we can focus on what truly adds value and meaning to our existence.

Minimalism

Simplicity also extends beyond material possessions. It can be found in the way we structure our daily routines, seeking to streamline and prioritize tasks that align with our values and goals. By simplifying our schedules, we create more time and mental space for activities that truly nourish our souls – whether it's spending time with loved ones, pursuing hobbies, or engaging in self-care.

It's All In Your Daily Routine

In a world that glorifies busyness and constant productivity, simplicity reminds us to slow down and savor the present moment. It encourages us to find beauty in the little things – a quiet walk in nature, a heartfelt conversation with a friend, or the taste of a homemade meal. Simplicity teaches us to appreciate the richness of life's simple pleasures, reminding us that true happiness lies not in the accumulation of things but in the moments we savor and the connections we foster.

Slowing Down

Moreover, simplicity can have a profound impact on our mental and emotional well-being. By decluttering our physical spaces and organizing our thoughts, we create a sense of calm and clarity. It allows us to let go of the unnecessary worries and stress that often plague our minds, enabling us to focus on what truly matters. It provides a sense of freedom and liberation, allowing us to live authentically and in alignment with our values.

It's Mental Too

In a world that often values complexity and excess, embracing simplicity can be a radical act. It challenges social norms and encourages us to redefine our priorities. Reminding us that less is often more, and that true beauty lies in the unadorned and genuine.

Keep It Simple

So, let us embrace simplicity in all its forms – in our possessions, routines, thoughts, and interactions. Let us seek to simplify our lives, not for the sake of deprivation, but to create space for what truly brings us joy and fulfillment. In doing so, we may discover that the truest form of beauty lies in the simplicity that surrounds us every day.

Let's Do It

Simplicity: A Path to Clarity and Contentment

There is no straight path to how one can become strong spiritually but everyone has different experiences and according to them some things can be told.
All these things are the result of my own understanding and thinking, not being bothered by anything, but to understand, things that bother us are also the part and lessons of our journey.

Spiritually Strong People

First what i understand is..
Spiritually strong people regularly take time to reflect on their thoughts, emotions, and actions, and always believe to be in present moment

Practice Mindfulness And Self-reflection:

They actively practice gratitude and say thank you to the universe, focusing on the positive aspects of their lives. Understanding whatever they gone through was important for thier own uplifting.

Showing Gratitude

Spiritually strong individuals prioritize inner peace and work towards finding balance and harmony in their lives. They may engage in practices such as meditation, yoga, or prayer to achieve this.

Seek Inner Peace

They understand the power of forgiveness and choose to let go of grudges and resentments, both towards themselves and others.

Embrace Forgiveness

Spiritually strong people set clear intentions for their lives and make choices that align with their values and beliefs.

Live With Intention

They recognize the beauty and interconnectedness of the natural world and often spend time in nature to rejuvenate and gain perspective.

Connection With Nature

Spiritually strong individuals find joy in serving others and making a positive impact in their communities. They may engage in acts of kindness, volunteer work, or support charitable causes.

Serving Others

They prioritize self-care activities that nourish their mind, body, and spirit, such as exercise, healthy eating, adequate rest, and engaging in hobbies they enjoy.

Practice Self Care

Spiritually strong people value deep connections with others and invest time and energy into cultivating meaningful relationships based on love, compassion, and understanding.

Foster Meaningful Relationships

They have faith in the journey of life and trust that everything happens for a reason. They embrace challenges as opportunities for growth and remain open to the lessons and experiences that come their way.

Trust The Journey

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"This is a book about failing: messing up, disappointing others, letting ourselves down and ruining our lives. This is far from a dry, academic exercise or psychological treatise. It's a letter written by one set of desperate humans to another."

True freedom comes from the knowledge that we can get through the worst stuff life throws at us. We can fail profoundly and still find things, in a way, bearable. But we are taught so much about how to succeed. All the energy and inventiveness of our time is focused there. In fact, no one wishes to speak about the less likely, but far more important, possibility that we will witness the destruction of our carefully made plans.

#1 THOUGHT: Acceptance

How have other people managed not to mess up as badly as we have? Well, we might be indoors, crying and hitting the walls or biting our hands, but outside, children are going to playgrounds, birds are singing, families are laughing, youngsters are planning fifty years of success, bartenders are wishing their customers a good day and there will be parties to attend at the weekend. Off course, we feel terrible about ourselves, but people react different when they experience failure and they don't necessarily do it visibly. This may be another reason why we are fooled that everyone else is fine.

#2 THOUGHT: The Controversy Of Failure

"Failure may seem like the exception when it's being experienced - when we are in a profound crisis - but let there be no misunderstanding: messing up is what humans do and have been doing since the start of our adventure on the planet.

Success requires a rare combination of talent and stubborn grit and relentlessness. We may fail, but not because the lack of vision or talent, but because our hearts are too tender. This sensitivity may stop us from going against all odds, just to reach our goal.

#3 THOUGHT: Work Failure

For a long time in our lives, most of us lack a reputation of any kind. Our name is simply a blank. No one knows how to feel about us, even the internet is silent about our identities. This is a momentous freedom - though it's rarely appreciated. Until one day we make a mistake - perhaps not a very large one, but just like death, reputational extinction can happen in an instant. There can be rumours about us, or even articles in the newspaper. Then, we want or even begin to protest. We may try to explain the truth to others, but we will soon realise that our efforts are entirely worthless.

#4 THOUGHT: Reputational Failure

"People aren't getting us wrong for sensible reasons. They are generally doing it on purpose, to have a bit of fun because their own lives are filled with boredom, suffering and humiliation. They simply believed a public opinion when we were supposedly marvellous, and they are happy to continue to believe in it. It's just easier."

For most of our lives, if we are lucky, our minds do roughly what we want them to. They come alive and fall asleep as we command; they go in the direction we steer them towards. Until, for some of us, our minds become our enemies. They can be instruments of torture. When our mind breaks down, we find ourselves unable to work, go out in public or build new relationships. We start to feel drained or that nothing we do is good enough. The importance of this is that it doesn't happen because of the so called outside world, but because the mind through which we perceive it, have turned against us.

#5 THOUGHT: Mental Health Failure

We normally don't notice ourselves wanting far too much when it comes to admiration, money, acclaim. It happens - as it tend to with sins - slowly and inperceptibly. Because when we are proud, we stop noticing how we humiliate others. Then there's no wonder why we build up a store of anger in those people around us. So, we have enemies - there is blood in the water - and when we make a mistake, they will be ready to destroy us. To speak in more psychological language, it's very easy to ruin our lives - and as no one really tells us how not to, most of us at some point eventually will.

#6 THOUGHT: The Sins Of Our Minds

This book was like a friend to me during the hard times, so I want to give you the closest introduction to the story as well. I hope you find these ideas interesting and helpful. In short, please believe as this book says: "Self-help fulfils its true promise when we are being helped to find a way out of despair."

A guide to the art of failing well--with actionable tips and a gentle approach This is a hopeful, consoling, gentle book about failure. Our societies talk a lot about success, but the reality is that no one gets through life without failing - in small and usually also in large ways. Sometimes our failures are very obvious, at other times, we feel we have to conceal them out of shame. This book encourages us to accept the role that failure plays for all of us and to feel compassion for ourselves for the messes we can't help but make as we go through our lives. Full of actionable tips on how to approach life's inevitable failures from small to large, this is the perfect volume for anyone who has ever gone through a breakup, suffered a career crisis, made enemies, fumbled a project, or wasted their time. (In other words: everyone.) There is nothing more human than failing--and nothing wiser and more necessary failing well. <ul> <li>PRAGMATIC ADVICE ON how to be resilient and endure regret, so we can recover and move on from despair and catastrophe.</li> <li>WE ARE NOT ALONE explores various examples of real-world failure and reminds us that we are not alone in making mistakes.</li> <li>EMPATHETIC AND REAL written from the perspective of those who have failed and survived their failure.</li> <li>CHAPTERS INCLUDE How to Deal with the Meanness of the World, What Love Really Is and Why It Matters, Finding Perspective, Fear and Self-Hatred, and Self-Compassion.</li> </ul>

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"Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice."

Today, I was busy taking a session, and the person with whom I was talking asked me a question.
I gave him an instant reply according to my understanding, but when I looked back and introspected my words, I found something very interesting, which I thought must share.
Let me call it...
'How can we be deeply connected to our inner calling?'

The Power of Self-Reflection

Soul calling means finding the right pre-defined path or a way of living where we are in our full potential, feeling happy and content physically, mentally, and emotionally.
See below the 7 key facets that can guide you towards discovering your inner calling:

Unveiling Your Soul Calling

Universe and our higher self is continuously talking to us in signs and symbols, we are keep getting sign related to our 'calling' (what is meant for us) we just need to recognise them.

1. Signs By Higher Self

when facing our dark time or pain we generally start having clarity which help us to grow,
the time before new beginning is very painful but lead us to pleasure.

2. Pain And Discomfort

Sometimes we feel that we are not meant for this world and we can't fit in with everyone. 
this indicates that our inner calling is something else,
most of the time with whom we do not match vibrationly are not our companion in the journey.

3. Feeling Different

We do not get our interest and passion just like that there is definitely some reason behind that
what do we like?
what attracts us?
there must be some reason for it.
According to one of the spritual law nothing happens without any solid reason.

4. Interests And Passion

This world is a place of magic and divine meetings sometimes we meet people who are connected to us spiritually from past many lifetimes.They may guide us,where to look and where to gothese souls encourage and help in our journey.

5. Social Encounters

it is said that the deepest truths are hidden in the unknown.
and if anyone is most ignorant about anything today is 'themselves'
so dealing with our fear may take us to hidden world of wisdom, and by using that wisdom we can transform ourselves.

6. Exploring The Unknown

Only the person who can live alone knows how to live with other people.
Solitude tell us what is really calling us from within

7. Solitude

So, sit with yourself if you have time and listen to what your consciousness is saying to you.
Taking a moment to look within, understand ourselves, and listen to the voices coming from inside is important.
Perhaps we will find our calling someday.

Exploring Your Inner Voice

Sometimes we feel as if there is something which has been calling us for a long time, we generally ignore that but after a while it starts calling us more loudly. It was only this voice of mine that said loudly today to write about this.

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I am an introvert and I love it. And I'm not alone, introverts are everywhere...
I understand myself better, I am deeply grateful for how I am.

WHO I AM = HOW I AM

Instead of filling up space with small talk, I listen patiently and make my words matter. I have few friends but our connection is deep. I love spending time alone. It's where the chaos of a long day can finally settle. I can reflect and listen to my thoughts and eventually reconnect with myself II have learnt strategies for finding comfort in our noisy world- from using music to create bubbles of peace, to escaping quite place...I adore the intensity and chaotic beauty of the world. But it's in quite places where I feel truly at home!!

The Quiet Power Of Introverts 

In a gentle way, you can shake the world.

Acceptance of who you are and the way you are is aesthetic... embrace the solitude

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I have practice jiu-jitsu for many years, and I think that I have learned something

Things I learned in jiu-jitsu.

The basis for learning a new position in jiu-jitsu is repetition, i.e. there's no point in training the position just once, to execute it "perfectly" you need to repeat and repeat and repeat...

Repetition

Yes, limits. My limits and those of my training partners, each with their own conditions and goals.

Limit

Perhaps this is the most important thing, learning that there will be good days and bad days and that each one is important to evolve.

Resilience 

Pain is part of a jiu-jitsu practitioner's daily life. Either you live with the pain or you stop training.

Living with pain.

In jiu-jitsu you have the chance to do the three slaps, but if you do that every time you're in a complicated situation you won't evolve as a person and as a fighter.

Resist 

I've left this one last because it's a bit controversial. We always hear that giving up is not an option. But there are situations where it doesn't make sense to insist if it's going to harm you. In jiu-jitsu, when the blow is landed and could hurt you, what's the option? The three slaps, it's part of the game. That way you maintain your integrity so you can fight again. You give up in the moment so that you can continue training, learning and fighting.

Knowing how to give up

I hope that make sense to you. If you don't practice any martial arts, you maybe can use these lessons in your personal life.

Does That Make Sense? 

Life Lessons from Jiu-jitsu: Resilience, Limits, and More

“When you’re comfortable, and life is behaving in ways that are preferable to you, your brain can release chemicals like dopamine and serotonin, which lead to feelings and sensations that are perceived as good,” Scott Trettenero <a href="https://www.psychreg.org/comfort-zone-personal-growth/">The Comfort Zone and Personal Growth</a>

Comfort Is The Devils lettuce! 

It’s killing you slowly . And it’s often untraceable .It’s your comfort zone — and stepping outside of it is key to discovering your passion, accomplishing your goals, and finding happiness .But it’s not so bad, right? I mean, you’re comfortable, so you must be happy?If only it worked out that way. Unfortunately, the longer you stay within your comfort zone, the less happy you tend to be.

Identify

Without the proper motivation, we’re willing to stay in a situation that doesn’t make us completely happy , for fear that the discomfort we’ll feel by stepping outside of our current circumstances will be greater than the discontent we feel now, however unfulfilled we are.But by not stepping outside of your comfort zone, you’re costing yourself three of the greatest gifts life has to offer.One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again.

Motivate

In life, you’re either growing or dying. That might seem a bit exaggerated — and it is — but it’s not meant to be taken literally.The primary ingredient for a happy life very well may be progress, as recent positive psychology studies have pointed towards. Shawn Achor, positive psychologist and author of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Advantage-Principles-Psychology-Performance/dp/0307591549">The Happiness Advantage </a>, refers to happiness as “the joy you feel moving towards your potential.”Growth is about progress .Progress is about movement .

Grow or perish

The trick is, to making it a habit of stepping outside of yourself and growing consistently.Try these 3 basic steps for developing the strength to step outside of your comfort zone –habitually:<ol><li>Make a procrastination list: Make a list of tasks you’ve been procrastinating on.</li><li>Do one (or more) of the smallest items on your list: If you’re afraid of calling someone and telling them how you feel. Make the smallest simplest task easy. </li><li>Keep taking steps: By doing that simple task, and stepping outside your comfort zone ever so slightly, you gain energy and confidence.  </li></ol>

Execute

“Comfort is the enemy of progress.”― P.T. Barnum

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Stepping outside your comfort zone is key to discovering your passion and finding happiness. Learn how to beat it with three simple steps.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Comfort can kill you! Why you should pay attention. 

Life is a one time gift for all of us and in this life, The village life VS city life is a fantastic difference to broadest meaning of life and that difference lies in the way of living, cost of living, experiences in living, and finally the environment of living.

Life

Village life : this life is just the amazing way of living where people live through farming which is a helping everyone around the country, Small business which are helping large business In cities, and more interactive within each other. When we talk about the experiences, these are the best an individual can get in a life which leads to a meaningful outcome for each experience, and example is the family importance and the bond between a person to person. The best part of this life is obviously environment as each individual needs oxygen to live and the best oxygen we can get.

Village Life

Today, most of the people live in cities and this is moreover a contrast to the village life. In this everyone lives individually and work a 9-9 job, business, less interaction between people which lacks a bond, not to forget the dangerous and unavoidable pollution due to population. The city life will let a person experience the good and bad in people, its hard to know what is right or wrong since all eyes just confuse In a city, always busy in mornings which compress the thoughts/vision of an individual and on my observation, this is what happens to most of the people who live in city life.

City Life

The cost of living is just too expensive and as for village life it's contrast. Most of The people in city also needs to eat the food comes from a village and people just ignore this and live life as nothing is related them to a village. The pollution is the main reason for health issues in the city life and less trees even though the awareness campaigns happens people tend to live a city life as it is since, everyone's busy in a city and less cared about what others want to tell let it be whatever.

City

The best part of city life is the buildings/malls/restaurants with an great ambience, parks, movie theatres, and best ways to earn a good income and every one with potential has an opportunity once in a while to explore their greatest strength through their skills.

Best Part 

In conclusion, the best part of life can be the village life and the need of an individual is the city life which helps them to grow stronger and achieve what they believe in. Village life is the foundation of life and city life is the appearance of life. As we know, for today's life as much as we need the city life, we even need the village life for the better living for us and the future generations.

Conclusion

Just two life's from a general perspective.

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