In Zen Buddhism they say that if you have a glass of muddy water, and you let it sit long enough, the silt sinks down to the bottom, and it’s clear enough that you can see through.And I think the analogy here is: in stressful, difficult, annoying, scary situations, if you let it sit long enough, you start to get some clarity that’s not immediately there.

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A Glass Of Muddy Water

Always make those above you feel comfortably superior. In your desire to please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite - inspire fear and insecurity. Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.

1. NEVER OUTSHINE THE MASTER

Be wary of friends - they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.

2. NEVER PUT TOO MUCH TRUST IN FRIENDS, LEARN HOW TO USE ENEMIES

Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defense. Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelop them in enough smoke, and by the time they realize your intentions, it will be too late

3. CONCEAL YOUR INTENTIONS

When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control. Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish.

4. ALWAYS SAY LESS THAN NECESSARY

Reputation is the cornerstone of power. Through reputation alone you can intimidate and win; once it slips, however, you are vulnerable, and will be attacked on all sides. Make your reputation unassailable. Always be alert to potential attacks and thwart them before they happen. Meanwhile, learn to destroy your enemies by opening holes in their own reputations. Then stand aside and let public opinion hang them.

5. SO MUCH DEPENDS ON REPUTATION - GUARD IT WITH YOUR LIFE

Everything is judged by its appearance; what is unseen counts for nothing. Never let yourself get lost in the crowd, then, or buried in oblivion. Stand out. Be conspicuous, at all cost. Make yourself a magnet of attention by appearing larger, more colorful, more mysterious than the bland and timid masses.

6. COURT ATTENTION AT ALL COST

Use the wisdom, knowledge, and legwork of other people to further your own cause. Not only will such assistance save you valuable time and energy, it will give you a godlike aura of efficiency and speed. In the end your helpers will be forgotten and you will be remembered. Never do yourself what others can do for you.

7. GET OTHERS TO DO THE WORK FOR YOU, BUT ALWAYS TAKE THE CREDIT

When you force the other person to act, you are the one in control. It is always better to make your opponent come to you, abandoning his own plans in the process. Lure him with fabulous gains -then attack. You hold the cards.

8. MAKE OTHER PEOPLE COME TO YOU - USE BAIT IF NECESSARY

Any momentary triumph you think you have gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory: The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion. It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word. Demonstrate, do not explicate.

9. WIN THROUGH YOUR ACTIONS, NEVER THROUGH ARGUMENT

You can die from someone else's misery - emotional states are as infectious as diseases. You may feel you are helping the drowning man, but you are only precipitating your own disaster. The unfortunate sometimes draws misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you. Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.

10. INFECTION: AVOID THE UNHAPPY AND UNLUCKY

To maintain your independence, you must always be needed and wanted. The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have. Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity, and you have nothing to fear. Never touch them enough so that they can do without you.

11. LEARN TO KEEP PEOPLE DEPENDENT ON YOU

One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones. Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicions people. Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armor, you can deceive and manipulate them at will. A timely gift - a Trojan horse - will serve the same purpose.

12. USE SELECTIVE HONESTY AND GENEROSITY TO DISARM YOUR VICTIM

If you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to remind him of your past assistance and good deeds. He will find a way to ignore you. Instead, uncover something in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion. He will respond enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.

13. WHEN ASKING FOR HELP, APPEAL TO PEOPLE'S SELF-INTEREST, NEVER TO THEIR MERCY OR GRATITUDE

Knowing about your rival is critical. Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead. Better still: Play the spy yourself. In polite social encounters, learn to probe. Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions. There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.

14. POSE AS A FRIEND, WORK AS A SPY

All great leaders since Moses have known that a feared enemy must be crushed completely. (Sometimes they have learned this the hard way.) If one ember is left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out. More is lost through stopping halfway than through total annihilation: The enemy will recover, and will seek revenge. Crush him, not only in body, but in spirit.

15. CRUSH YOUR ENEMY TOTALLY

Too much circulation makes the price go down: The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear. If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired. You must learn when to leave. Create value through scarcity.

16. USE ABSENCE TO INCREASE RESPECT AND HONOR

Humans are creatures of habit, with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people's actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control. Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable. Behavior that seems to have no consistency or purpose will keep them off-balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves. Taken to an extreme, this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.

17. KEEP OTHERS IN SUSPENDED TERROR: CULTIVATE AN AIR OF UNPREDICTABILITY

The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere - everyone has to protect themselves. A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from - it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target. Better to circulate among people, find allies, mingle. You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.

18. DO NOT BUILD FORTRESSES TO PROTECT YOURSELF - ISOLATION IS DANGEROUS

There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way. Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge. They are wolves in lambs’ clothing. Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then - never offend or deceive the wrong person.

19. KNOW WHO YOU'RE DEALING WITH - DO NOT OFFEND THE WRONG PERSON

It is the fool who always rushes to take sides. Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself. By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others - playing people against one another, making them pursue you.

20. DO NOT COMMIT TO ANYONE

No one likes feeling stupider than the next person. The trick, then, is to make your victims feel smart - and not just smart, out smarter than you are. Once convinced of this, they will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives.

21. PLAY A SUCKER TO CATCH A SUCKER - SEEM DUMBER THAN YOUR MARK

When you are weaker, never fight for honor’s sake; choose surrender instead. Surrender gives you time to recover, time to torment and irritate your conqueror, time to wait for his power to wane. Do not give him the satisfaction of fighting and defeating you - surrender first. By turning the other cheek, you infuriate and unsettle him. Make surrender a tool of power.

22. USE THE SURRENDER TACTIC: TRANSFORM WEAKNESS INTO POWER

Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their strongest point. You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper, than by flitting from one shallow mine to another - intensity defeats extensity every time. When looking for sources of power to elevate you, find the one key patron, the fat cow who will give you milk for a longtime to come.

23. CONCENTRATE YOUR FORCES

The perfect courtier thrives in a world where everything revolves around power and political dexterity. He has mastered the art of indirection; he flatters, yields to superiors, and asserts power over others in the most oblique and graceful manner. Learn and apply the laws of courtiership and there will be no limit to how far you can rise in the court.

24. PLAY THE PERFECT COURTIER

Do not accept the roles that society foists on you. Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience. Be the master of your own image, rather than letting others define it for you. Incorporate dramatic devices into your public gestures and actions - your power will be enhanced, and your character will seem larger than life.

25. RE-CREATE YOURSELF

You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds. Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cat's-paws to disguise your involvement.

26. KEEP YOUR HANDS CLEAN

People have an overwhelming desire to believe in something. Become the focal point of such desire by offering them a cause, a new faith to follow. Keep your words vague but full of promise; emphasize enthusiasm over rationality and clear thinking. Give your new disciples rituals to perform, ask them to make sacrifices on your behalf. In the absence of organized religion and grand causes, your new belief system will bring you untold power.

27. PLAY ON PEOPLE'S NEED TO BELIEVE TO CREATE A CULTLIKE FOLLOWING

If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.

28. ENTER ACTION WITH BOLDNESS

The ending is everything. Plan all the way to it, taking into account all the possible consequences, obstacles, and twists of fortune that might reverse your hard work and give the glory to others. By planning to the end you will not be overwhelmed by circumstances, and you will know when to stop. Gently guide fortune and help determine the future by thinking far ahead.

29. PLAN ALL THE WAY TO THE END

Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease. All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed. When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more. Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work - it only raises questions. Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.

30. MAKE YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS SEEM EFFORTLESS

The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice: Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets. Give people options that come out in your favor, whichever one they choose. Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose. Put them on the horns of a dilemma: They are gored wherever they turn.

31. CONTROL THE OPTIONS: GET OTHERS TO PLAY WITH THE CARDS YOU DEAL

The truth is often avoided because it is ugly and unpleasant. Never appeal to truth and reality unless you are prepared for the anger that comes from disenchantment. Life is so harsh and distressing that people who can manufacture romance or conjure up fantasy are like oases in the desert: Everyone flocks to them. There is great power in tapping into the fantasies of the masses.

32. PLAY TO PEOPLE'S FANTASIES

Everyone has a weakness, a gap in the castle wall. That weakness is usually an insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need; it can also be a small secret pleasure. Either may, once found, it is a thumbscrew you can turn to your advantage.

33. DISCOVER EACH MAN'S THUMBSCREW

The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated: In the long run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you. For a king respects himself and inspires the same sentiment in others. By acting regally and confident of your powers, you make yourself seem destined to wear a crown.

34. BE ROYAL IN YOUR OWN FASHION: ACT LIKE A KING TO BE TREATED LIKE ONE

Never seem to be in a hurry - hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time. Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually. Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power. Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.

35. MASTER THE ART OF TIMING

By acknowledging a petty problem, you give it existence and credibility. The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it. It is sometimes best to leave things alone. If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it. The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem.

36. DISDAIN THINGS YOU CANNOT HAVE: IGNORING THEM IS THE BEST REVENGE

Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power - everyone responds to them. Stage spectacles for those around you, then, full of arresting visuals and radiant symbols that heighten your presence. Dazzled by appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.

37. CREATE COMPELLING SPECTACLES

If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them. They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior. It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness.

38. THINK AS YOU LIKE BUT BEHAVE LIKE OTHERS

Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive. You must always stay calm and objective. But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm yourself, you gain a decided advantage. Put your enemies off-balance: Find the chink in their vanity through which you can rattle them, and you hold the strings.

39. STIR UP WATERS TO CATCH FISH

What is offered for free is dangerous - it usually involves either a trick or a hidden obligation. What has worth is worth paying for. By paying your own way, you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit. It is also often wise to pay the full price - there is no cutting corners with excellence. Be lavish with your money and it circulating, for generosity is a sign and a magnet for power.

40. DESPISE THE FREE LUNCH

What happens first always appears better and more original than what comes after. If you succeed a great man or have a famous parent, you will have to accomplish double their achievements to outshine them. Do not get lost in their shadow, or stuck in a past not of your own making: Establish your own name and identity by changing course. Slay the overbearing father, disparage his legacy, and gain power by shining in your own way.

41. AVOID STEPPING INTO A GREAT MAN'S SHOES

Trouble can often be traced to a single strong individual - the stirrer, the arrogant underling, the poisoner of goodwill. If you allow such people room to operate, others will succumb to their influence. Do not wait for the troubles they cause to multiply, do not try to negotiate with them - they are irredeemable. Neutralize their influence by isolating or banishing them. Strike at the source of the trouble and the sheep will scatter.

42. STRIKE THE SHEPHERD AND THE SHEEP WILL SCATTER

By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack. Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move. Accept the fact that nothing is certain, and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order. Everything changes.

48. ASSUME FORMLESSNESS

Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you. You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction. A person you have seduced becomes your loyal pawn. And the way to seduce others is to operate on their individual psychologies and weaknesses. Soften up the resistant by working on their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear. Ignore the hearts and minds of others, and they will grow to hate you.

43. WORK ON THE HEARTS AND MINDS OF OTHERS

The mirror reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy. The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact. By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson. Few can resist the power of the Mirror Effect.

44. DISARM AND INFURIATE WITH THE MIRROR EFFECT

Everyone understands the need for change in the abstract, but on the day-to-day level, people are creatures of habit. Too much innovation is traumatic, and will lead to revolt. If you are new to a position of power, or an outsider trying to build a power base, make a show of respecting the old way of doing things. If change is necessary, make it feel like a gentle improvement on the past.

45. PREACH THE NEED FOR CHANGE, BUT NEVER REFORM TOO MUCH AT ONCE

Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no fault or weaknesses. Envy creates silent enemies. It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable. Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.

46. NEVER APPEAR TOO PERFECT

The moment of victory is often the moment of greatest peril. In the heat of victory, arrogance and overconfidence can push you past the goal you had aimed for, and by going too far, you make more enemies than you defeat. Do not allow success to go to your head. There is no substitute for strategy and careful planning. Set a goal, and when you reach it, stop.

47. DO NOT GO PAST THE MARK YOU AIMED FOR; IN VICTORY, LEARN WHEN TO STOP

A very good book for self discovering and understanding of different perspectives of various topics. 

THE MILLION COPY INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER Drawn from 3,000 years of the history of power, this is the definitive guide to help readers achieve for themselves what Queen Elizabeth I, Henry Kissinger, Louis XIV and Machiavelli learnt the hard way. Law 1: Never outshine the master Law 2: Never put too much trust in friends; learn how to use enemies Law 3: Conceal your intentions Law 4: Always say less than necessary. The text is bold and elegant, laid out in black and red throughout and replete with fables and unique word sculptures. The 48 laws are illustrated through the tactics, triumphs and failures of great figures from the past who have wielded - or been victimised by - power. ___________________________________ (From the Playboy interview with Jay-Z, April 2003) PLAYBOY: Rap careers are usually over fast: one or two hits, then styles change and a new guy comes along. Why have you endured while other rappers haven't? JAY-Z: I would say that it's from still being able to relate to people. It's natural to lose yourself when you have success, to start surrounding yourself with fake people. In The 48 Laws of Power, it says the worst thing you can do is build a fortress around yourself. I still got the people who grew up with me, my cousin and my childhood friends. This guy right here (gestures to the studio manager), he's my friend, and he told me that one of my records, Volume Three, was wack. People set higher standards for me, and I love it.

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Amoral, cunning, ruthless, and instructive, this multi-million-copy New York Times bestseller is the definitive manual for anyone interested in gaining, observing, or defending against ultimate control – from the author of The Laws of Human Nature. In the book that People magazine proclaimed “beguiling” and “fascinating,” Robert Greene and Joost Elffers have distilled three thousand years of the history of power into 48 essential laws by drawing from the philosophies of Machiavelli, Sun Tzu, and Carl Von Clausewitz and also from the lives of figures ranging from Henry Kissinger to P.T. Barnum.   Some laws teach the need for prudence (“Law 1: Never Outshine the Master”), others teach the value of confidence (“Law 28: Enter Action with Boldness”), and many recommend absolute self-preservation (“Law 15: Crush Your Enemy Totally”). Every law, though, has one thing in common: an interest in total domination. In a bold and arresting two-color package, The 48 Laws of Power is ideal whether your aim is conquest, self-defense, or simply to understand the rules of the game.

Robert Greene is an American author of books on strategy, power, and seduction. He has written six international bestsellers, including The 48 Laws of Power, The Art of Seduction, The 33 Strategies of War, The 50th Law, Mastery, and The Laws of Human Nature.

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The 48 Laws of Power

The 48 Laws Of Power

Freud believed that when we sleep, the Ego's defences are lowered and the repressed material comes through to awareness in distorted form.Dreams provide valuable insight into individuals desires and conflicts (this is Freud's interpretation, but every psychologist/psychiatric had his own idea, for example Jung had different ideas regarding the meaning of dreams)

Why Do We Dream?🌝

During the day, our life is controlled by the Ego, our conscious mind, which hardly hide a lot of information about ourself which are considered unacceptable and they could ruin our self image.

How The Unconscious Talks With Us🗣️

How many times have you had nightmares?Well, when I was a child I had at least 5 nightmares a week for a certain period, but I used to say that I was an happy chiald...Nightmares shows us our fear, bad experiences we have lived in past and parts of our personality our Ego doesn't accept. It's important to write down this dreams and try to face what we don't want to see when we are awake 🙈.

"Nightmares"🌑

MANIFEST CONTENT:what we see in our dreamsA door, other people, a house and every other things we can see in our dreams is part of the manifest content, that we can easily understand because we know it.LATENT CONTENT:the meaning behind what we dreamEvery object we dream has a meaning, every person is a part of our personality with which we come in conflict, every situation and everything that we dream has to be interpreted because it has a hidden meaning. Latent content can be analysed with a professionist who knows us and it's trained for this task.

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There are a lot of interesting sites on the web which deeper explain this topic, and you can try your hand reading The interpretation of dreams by Sigmund Freud.
Thanks for reading, let me know what do you think in comment, I would like to create a collaborative community to share opinions about certain topics.
Online <a href="https://www.simplypsychology.org/sigmund-freud-dream-theory.html">article</a>
M.👋🏻

Part of the bestselling Capstone Classics Series edited by Tom Butler-Bowdon, this collectible, hard-back edition of The Interpretation of Dreams provides an accessible and insightful edition of this important work of psychology Sigmund Freud's The Interpretation of Dreams introduced his ground-breaking theory of the unconscious and explored how interpreting dreams can reveal the true nature of humanity. Regarded as Freud's most significant work, this classic text helped establish the discipline of psychology and is the foundational work in the field of psychoanalysis. Highly readable and engaging, the book both provides a semi-autobiographical look into Freud’s personal life – his holidays in the Alps, spending time with his children, interacting with friends and colleagues – and delves into descriptions and analyses of the dreams themselves. Freud begins with a review of literature on dreams written by a broad range of ancient and contemporary figures – concluding that science has learned little of the nature of dreams in the past several thousand years. Although the prevailing view was that dreams were merely responses to ‘sensory excitation,’ Freud felt that the multifaceted dimensions of dreams could not be attributed solely to physical causes. By the time Freud began writing the book he had interpreted over a thousand dreams of people with psychoses and recognised the connection between the content of dreams and a person’s mental health. Among his conclusions were that a person’s dreams: <ul> <li>Prefer using recent impressions, yet also have access to early childhood memories</li> <li>Unify different people, places, events and sensations into one story</li> <li>Usually focus on small or unnoticed things rather than major events</li> <li>Are almost always ‘wish fulfilments’ which are about the self</li> <li>Have many layers of meaning which are often condensed into a single image</li> </ul> The Interpretation of Dreams: The Psychology Classic is as riveting today as it was over a century ago. Anyone with interest in the workings of the unconscious mind will find this book an invaluable source of original insights and foundational scientific concepts. This edition includes an insightful Introduction by Sarah Tomley, a psychology writer and practicing psychotherapist. Tomley considers paints a picture of Freud's life and times, reveals the place of The Interpretation of Dreams in the context of Freud's other writings, and draws out the key points of the work.

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

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Creativity

Sigmund Freud

The Interpretation of Dreams

An idea is any conception existing in the mind as a result of mental understanding, awareness, or activity – a thought, concept, or notion.
(from dictionary.com)

Idea

Imagine if all ideas ever were published: it would probably take years to actually find the good ones and it would be a never-ending process to search through them all.

Everything Ever Thought Of

Still, I think there have been amazing ideas by people out there that were not even written down and now we will never know what they were, though they could've been revolutionary. I feel like it's the same with dreams: you wake up knowing what happened but in a couple minutes it's all gone. (Personal experience)

Unwritten

Children also often think of great ideas. They don't have as many limits on their imagination as we do yet.As we get older, our creativity decreases in certain aspects because we know the reality of how things are "supposed to" work and are used to them. But what if we left that behind? What if we actually started breaking down those limits that were set by our environment?

Imagination

Try to imagine you're a completely different person: from another country, lifestyle etc. and try to think of ideas in a way that they would.Changing the perspective of how you think can be quite refreshing for your mind. It can help think of ideas you wouldn't have thought of otherwise.

Change Your Perspective

Doing something with your ideas is important or else it will always just stay an idea. This doesn't mean that you need to completely think out every idea you get, but if you genuinely like it, do something with it.

Conclusion

It's quite sad that so many things that have been thought of — so many ideas — have never been written down.

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Reading & Writing

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Problem Solving

The mystery of forgotten ideas

If a 5- or a 6-year old asks why the moon is round or why grass is green, the usual adult answer, at least in my experience, is to discourage the child; to say “What shape did you expect the moon to be? Square?” or “What colour did you expect the grass to be? Blue?”Instead of saying that, say “Those are interesting questions; let’s try to find out the answer” or “Maybe nobody knows the answer and when you grow up you will be able to discover the answer”.It would be very healthy for the human species if there were less discouragement and more scientists.

Less discouragement. And more scientists. 

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Science & Nature

Astronomer Carl Sagan On (Children And Their) Curious Questions

Spending time alone to think about your feelings, ideas, problems, friends ecc... is an opportunity to know yourself better. For many of us is difficult to be alone, because of social media addiction and the urge of being always in touch with somebody. Today staying alone is not well seen by our society, a society understood as common thoughts and behaviors.

Being Alone With Youself

I think I've always been introverted and I've always liked spending time alone doing what I love. Sometimes is hard because of too many thoughts, but I'm learning to listen them and understand what my mind is trying to tell me. I write my thoughts and I read them to join my unconscious.

Personal Experience 🙋🏻‍♀️

Of course I don't mean we must isolate ourself from other people, but learning to balance time with people and time with ourself.

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2017/03/the-virtues-of-isolation/521100/https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/psychology-behind-loneliness-positive-solitude-martina-maurer Thanks for reading, let me know what do you think in comment, I would like to create a collaborative community to share opinions about certain topics. M.👋🏻

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Love & Relationships

The art of being alone

Most of our communication is nonverbal through gestures and facial expressions. Understanding nonverbal behaviour comes with lots of benefits:<ul><li>Understanding emotions and feelings of other people. Hence, you can improve your relationships.</li><li>Detecting lies and understanding someone's true intentions. With that, you can protect yourself better from harmful situations.</li><li>Using body language for your own advantage so that you can appear a certain way and come off as more confident etc.</li></ul>

Nonverbal Communication

<ol><li>Make sure to observe someone closely.</li><li>Consider the context of your observation. For instance, someone might sweat because they just ran to the bus stop and not because they are lying.</li><li>Watch out for universal nonverbal behaviour such as stepping away.</li><li>Watch out for idiosyngratic behaviour that is typical for that person.</li><li>Consider multiple tells. Watch out for more than one behaviour.</li><li>Find out someone's normal behaviour.</li><li>Watch out for sudden changes in their behaviour.</li><li>Know when behaviour is authentic or acted.</li><li>Notice the difference between being comfortable and being uncomfortable.</li><li>Observe discreetly.</li></ol>

Rules For Analysing Behaviour

Our lymbic system controls our emotional responses and impulsive actions and hence, most of our nonverbal behaviour. We have no control over them, which is why they are so reliable.We are born with three instinctive behaviours that we use when being confronted with dangerous situations or problems:<ol><li>Our first reaction is to freeze. We stop all of our movements, try to hide ourselves and consider our actions.</li><li>We go into flight mode. We run away, turn away or try to get out of the situation.</li><li>If this doesn't help, we go into fight mode. We fight, argue or try to prove our point.</li></ol>

The Lymbic System

<ul><li>We tend to control our face the most which is why it is the least reliable. However, our feet are often forgotten, which is why they are most reliable. The deeper the body part, the more reliable it is.</li><li>Body language is dependent on culture. Consider the context.</li><li>Keep in mind the rules mentioned above. Sudden changes in behaviour as a reaction to a question or situation are very reliable. Find out why they occured.</li><li>The first reaction is usually the most authentic and reliable. When behaviour appears both positive and negative, the negative one is often more reliable.</li></ul>

Key Takeaways

In the book, Navarro goes in-depth on all and more of these behaviours. This is a very brief summary, which is why I highly recommend reading the entire book.<ul><li>Behaviour that displays discomfort or stress: Hiding yourself, creating distance, turning away, closing your eyes. This includes self-soothing behaviour such as fixing your appearance or touching your neck or any other body part.</li><li>Behaviour that displays happiness or comfort: Any behaviour that goes against gravity such as lifting your feet up, wide arm movements, raising eyebrows, a smile with the eyes involved.</li></ul>

A Few Behaviours Explained

Detecting lies is very hard as there is no specific behaviour to it. Be very careful with who and why you judge.Sudden changes in behaviour that display discomfort or stress followed by self-soothing behaviour or fewer movement because of freeze mode might be good indicators.Watch out whether or not someone's behaviour matches their words and their emotions, for instance:<ul><li>Saying they went in the right direction put pointing with their hand to the left.</li><li>Saying they are very sad but lifting their toes up like a happy child.</li><li>Saying "no" but nodding with the head or shaking their head afterwards.</li></ul>

Detecting Lies

Former FBI agent Joe Navarro explains various nonverbal behaviours as well as why and how to analyse them. I highly recommend reading the entire book.

Joe Navarro, a former FBI counterintelligence officer and a recognized expert on nonverbal behavior, explains how to "speed-read" people: decode sentiments and behaviors, avoid hidden pitfalls, and look for deceptive behaviors. You'll also learn how your body language can influence what your boss, family, friends, and strangers think of you. Read this book and send your nonverbal intelligence soaring. You will discover:<ul><li>The ancient survival instincts that drive body language</li><li>Why the face is the least likely place to gauge a person's true feelings</li><li>What thumbs, feet, and eyelids reveal about moods and motives</li><li>The most powerful behaviors that reveal our confidence and true sentiments</li><li>Simple nonverbals that instantly establish trust</li><li>Simple nonverbals that instantly communicate authority</li></ul>Filled with examples from Navarro's professional experience, this definitive book offers a powerful new way to navigate your world.

Joe Navarro is an author, public speaker and ex-FBI agent. Navarro specializes in the area of nonverbal communication or body language and has authored numerous books.

Joe Navarro

Librarian Note: There is more than one author by this name in the Goodreads database.Marvin Karlins is a best-selling writer and co-author of two poker books, Read ‘em and Reap and Deal Me In, as well as the pioneering text, P$yching Out Vegas. He was also senior editor and columnist at Gambling Times/Win Magazine for a decade. His poker articles have been featured in Cardplayer and Bluff magazines.

Marvin Karlins

What Every BODY is Saying

The mistake most of us have is wanting to do something instead of actually doing it. We want to know the in’s and out’s of what we are getting ourselves into other than executing on it. We’ll be left entertaining the thought in our heads for years but never taking action because of fearing the unknown

Just Dive In

• Let go of the irrational belief of figuring everything out before you start. You can’t figure out all the questions until you just start.• Focus on step one and then jump to the next depending on the progress you have made. This reduces the levels of anxiety and stress which lead to burn out, confusion and cause us to give up before we even start.

Focus Only On The Task At Hand

• You want to start a business? Act on it right now, today.• You want to become a content creator? Send out that post today.• You want to start tomorrow? What’s the first thing you’ll do tomorrow in-order to get it done? Do it today.

Act Right Now

• Wrong❌ : Learn, then start.• Right✅ : Start, then learn.• You cannot learn to ride a bicycle by reading a book on how to do it rather you learn to ride a bicycle by doing it consistently• Linear growth and development isn’t the only way the achieve your goals.

Clarity Comes Through Engagement 

All through life, we’ve been taught consciously and subconsciously that in order to learn something we have to know everything about it when that’s not always the case. Andrew Kirby hits the nail on the head in this linked video.

Update: Someone made fan art about this video! https://twitter.com/IAmAndrewKirby/status/1434256893044830210

Start, then learn. Don't learn, then start.

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