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The monkey mind seeks instant gratification. It is resetless, self-absorbed and worried. Negative tendencies in thinking and feeling as well as indecisiveness are characteristics of the monkey mind.
The monk mind is focused. It is striving towards a higher purpose such as serving and is willing to take the risk. Being highly empathetic, decisive and strategic, the monk mind seeks purpose.
Your goal should be in cultivating the monk mind.
"I am not who I think I am, and I am not who you think I am. I am what I think you think I am."
You should be your most authentic self unapologetically at all times possible. Who we are is defined by our values.
Figure out what you value most in your life:
We are surrounded by negativity most of the time and get infected by it easily.
What are you really afraid of? Ask yourself this question during meditation until you get to the very root of your fear. Watch out for common patterns in your anxiety and how you react to it (by repressing it, fighting against it etc.)
We are often afraid of something because we are attached to it. Know that nothing in life is permanent and that nothing is truly yours, all that you have is borrowed until you die.
Take a look at how big your fear is by placing it on a scale from 0 (=not bad at all) to 10 (=the worst thing that could possibly happen).
We are motivated to take actions because we are either driven by fear (such as the fear of death), desire (success, money, statisfaction), duty (gratitude, responsability) or love.
The first two are "bad" intentions as fear isn't lasting and success is an illusion. With these intentions you will never be truly happy but when doing things out of duty or love, you will feel happy.
Find out your biggest why: Ask yourself why you want to do something. Follow up your response with another why until you reach the true intention behind your action.
"You can't be anything you want but you can be everything you are."
Your Dharma is basically your purpose on earth. When living in your Dharma, you will find fulfillment. It will make you feel alive, in flow, comfortable, steady, positive and it will help you grow.
Your Dharma consists of passion, competence, empathy and usefulness. It is what you love doing and what you are good at and can be described as your talent or your Varna. There are four Varnas: Producer, designer, manager and teacher.
Don't try to follow someone else's Dharma and also don't blame anyone because you can't follow yours. Your Dharma is your responsability.
Wake up a little earlier in the morning and fill your morning with T.I.M.E. = Thankfulness, Insights from a book, podcast etc., Meditation and Exercise. Don't look at your phone first thing in the morning.
Before going to sleep, reflect on your day, write down your tasks for tomorrow and practice gratitude.
Places carry energy: Dedicate a certain place to one activity only, for instance in your bed you are only sleeping and not working or eating.
Time has a memory: Do something at the same time every day and you won't forget about it.
We are often driven by what we perceive through our senses. We are acting out of impulses without thinking of possible consequences. We want instant gratification instead of patiently waiting and working towards our goals.
Control the negative thoughts in your unconscious mind, write them down and turn them into nicer statements. Be compassionate with yourself.
Live in the present moment as you cannot change the past or control the future.
As soon as you do something good, it goes to your head. Your ego makes you lie about and to yourself as it is a mask that protects you. You think you are superior to other people when in reality noone is below or above you. It blocks your growth and isolates you as you think you know it all.
Practice humility but keep in mind that true humility can never be reached. As soon as you think you are humble, you are not.
Build true confidence instead of feeding your ego. Figure out areas you want to be more confident at and work on them. Make small wins and thank the people that helped you with it.
Gratitude is the best medicine as it heals you both mentally and physically.
Practice gratitude: Every evening, write down what you are grateful for. Write a letter to someone and thank them. Meditate on what you are truly grateful for.
"You are who you are when noone is watching you."
You are always getting back the love that you give but not always from the person you gave it to. This is called the cycle of love.
We are naturally looking for these four qualities: Consistency (always being there for you), strength of character (strong morals/values), competence and caring. Nobody has all four of them.
Find someone you are emotionally and spiritually attracted to, not physically, materialistically or intellectually.
Strengthen your current relationships by making new memories together.
Healing your wounds is the key to letting go of love and finding new love.
Our main purpose in life is to serve others. Give without expecting anything in return. There are so many benefits to serving as it makes not only the other person happy but also yourself. You need nothing in order to give. In fact, studies have shown that the less someone has the more they are willing to give. Serve according to your Dharma.
You can also combine these three meditation practices and practice each of them seven minutes a day which is 21 minutes in total.
Think about your death: What would you regret? How do you want to be remembered? This should be enough motivation to improve your life.
At the very end, Jay Shetty says that once you know yourself well, you will no longer ask yourself "What would a monk do?" and instead "What would I do now?".
Psychology student with a passion for learning and developing as a person.
Former monk and self-help influencer star Jay Shetty shares various practices he learned in his monk years and makes them suitable for our modern world.
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