“Whenever you are about to find fault with someone, ask yourself the following question: What fault of mine most nearly resembles the one I am about to criticize?”

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Personal Development

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Mindfulness

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Motivation & Inspiration

Quote of the day.

Change will come when each of us has the courage to question our own fundamental values and beliefs. And then see to it that our actions lead to our best intentions.

I am just one of millions of people who have been told that in order to fulfill my dreams, in order to contribute my talents to the world I have to resist the truth of who I am. I for one, am ready to stop resisting and to start existing as my full and authentic self.

My identity is my superpower. Because the truth is, I am what the world looks like. You are what the world looks like. Collectively, we are what the world actually looks like. And in order for our systems to reflect that, they don't have to create a new reality. They just have to stop resisting the one we already live in.

Watch the full talk: http://tedtalks.social/superpower A clip from America Ferrera's TED Talk "My identity is a superpower -- not an obstacle" from TED2019 Hollywood needs to stop resisting what the world actually looks like, says actor, director and activist America Ferrera. Tracing the contours of her career, she calls for more authentic representation of different cultures in media -- and a shift in how we tell our stories. "Presence creates possibility," she says. "Who we see thriving in the world teaches us how to see ourselves, how to think about our own value, how to dream about our futures." The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. You're welcome to link to or embed these videos, forward them to others and share these ideas with people you know. Become a TED Member: http://ted.com/membership Follow TED on Twitter: http://twitter.com/TEDTalks Like TED on Facebook: http://facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: http://youtube.com/TED TED's videos may be used for non-commercial purposes under a Creative Commons License, Attribution–Non Commercial–No Derivatives (or the CC BY – NC – ND 4.0 International) and in accordance with our TED Talks Usage Policy (https://www.ted.com/about/our-organization/our-policies-terms/ted-talks-usage-policy). For more information on using TED for commercial purposes (e.g. employee learning, in a film or online course), please submit a Media Request at https://media-requests.ted.com

Watch the full talk: http://tedtalks.social/superpower

A clip from America Ferrera's TED Talk "My identity is a superpower -- not an obstacle" from TED2019

Hollywood needs to stop resisting what the world actually looks like, says actor, director and activist America Ferrera. Tracing the contours of her career, she calls for more authentic representation of different cultures in media -- and a shift in how we tell our stories. "Presence creates possibility," she says. "Who we see thriving in the world teaches us how to see ourselves, how to think about our own value, how to dream about our futures."

The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. You're welcome to link to or embed these videos, forward them to others and share these ideas with people you know. 

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The TED Talks channel features the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and more. You're welcome to link to or embed these videos, forward them to others and share these ideas with people you know.

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Your identity is your superpower | America Ferrera

We are more often frightened than hurt; and we suffer more from imagination than from reality.

We often find ways to scare ourselves into inaction or inappropriate action based on what we think might be happening. That is our imagination fearing the worst. But how often is it really that bad?

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Philosophy

Thought of The Day - October 6, 2022

You have to fail more to succeed more. Our greatest moments of growth often stem directly from our greatest moments of failure.Don’t fear failure. Learn to fail smart and fast—never fail the same way twice.

The Paradox of Failure

Persuasive people don’t argue—they observe, listen, and ask questions.Argue less, persuade more. Persuasion is an art that requires a paintbrush, not a sledgehammer.

The Paradox of Persuasion

Parkinson's Law says that work expands to fill the time available for its completion.When you establish fixed hours to work, you'll find unproductive ways to fill them. Work like a lion instead—sprint, rest, repeat.

The Paradox of Productivity

You have to put in more effort to make something appear effortless.Effortless, elegant performances are simply the result of a large volume of consistent, effortful practice.Small things become big things. Simple is not simple.

The Paradox of Effort

The more you learn, the more you are exposed to the immense unknown.This should be empowering, not frightening. Embrace your own ignorance—embrace lifelong learning.

The Paradox of Wisdom

Taking more advice can leave you less well-equipped.<ul><li>Most advice sucks. It's well-intentioned, but it's dangerous to use someone else's map of reality to navigate.</li><li>Winners develop filters and selectively implement advice—take the signal, skip the noise.</li></ul>

The Paradox of Advice

More connectedness, less connected.<ul><li>Social media has created more connectedness than ever before—a constant dopamine drip.</li><li>We have more connectedness, but we feel less connected to those around us.</li><li>Schedule time to disconnect, and feel the connection.</li></ul>

The Paradox of Social Media

“We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.” — EpictetusIf you want your words and ideas to be heard, start by talking less and listening more. You’ll find more power in your words.

The Paradox of Words

What allows a Formula 1 driver to fly around the track It's not the engine, the tires, or the suspension. It's the brakes. Strong, reliable brakes allow you to go fast.Build brakes into your life that allow you to accelerate and hit turns without fear.

The Paradox of Speed

Success doesn’t come from taking on every opportunity. It comes from focusing energy on the opportunities that matter—the 10x opportunities.Time and energy are finite. Say yes to what matters & no to everything else.

The Paradox of Opportunity

You have to lose money in order to make money. Every successful investor & builder has stories of the invaluable lessons learned from a terrible loss in their career.Sometimes you have to pay to learn. Put skin in the game.

The Paradox of Money

The thing we fear the most is often the thing we most need to do.<ul><li>Fears—when avoided—become limiters on our growth and progress.</li><li>Make a habit of getting closer to your fears. Treat them as magnets for your energy. You'll find growth on the other side.</li></ul>

The Paradox of Fear

We assume that more choice is a good thing, but research has shown that more options lead to less happiness with whatever option is selected.In a world of abundance, what we truly crave is scarcity.

The Paradox of Choice

Sometimes you have to stop looking in order to find what you're looking for.Stop looking—what you’re looking for may just find you. This applies to love, business, happiness, & life.

The Paradox of Pursuit

Growth takes a much longer time coming than you think but then happens much faster than you ever would have thought. Growth happens gradually, then suddenly.The best things in life come from allowing compounding to work its magic. Let it work for you.

The Paradox of Growth

<ul><li>The more you can't trust others, the less you can be trusted.</li><li>Challenges with trusting others can often stem from our own distrust of ourselves.</li><li>We reflect outward when we need to reflect inward.</li><li>Build trust in yourself to learn to trust others.</li></ul>

The Paradox of Trust

Intelligent people are more likely to fall victim to stupidity by convincing themselves they are smarter than the system.They create complexity vs. doing the boring, easy thing that works.

The Paradox of Intelligence

The more available something is, the less we want it.Ever want something so badly, only to lose interest once it is right in front of you? You're not alone--our desire for what we can't have is strong.This applies to love, business, happiness, & life.

The Paradox of Availability

The more you brag, the less people think of you.<ul><li>Successful people rarely feel the need to brag about their success.</li><li>If someone brags about their wealth or success, the reality is likely a small fraction of what they claim.</li><li>Brag less, impress more.</li></ul>

The Paradox of Bragging

<ul><li>You must know your death to truly live your life.</li><li>Memento Mori is a Stoic reminder of the certainty and inescapability of death.</li><li>It's not intended to be morbid--but to clarify, illuminate, and inspire.</li><li>By accepting our time as finite, we are able to live.</li></ul>

The Paradox of Death

The most creative, captivating ideas stem directly from periods of intense boredom.You’re bored, your mind wanders, your thoughts mingle - creative insight strikes. Boredom sparks creativity.

The Paradox of Boredom

<ul><li>The more news you consume, the less well-informed you are.</li><li>More data leads to a higher noise-to-signal ratio, so you end up knowing less about what is actually going on.</li><li>Want to know more about the world? Consume less news.</li></ul>

The Paradox of News

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Problem Solving

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Society, Arts & Culture

Sahil Bloom: Powerful paradoxes

The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature.

Thinking positively is an important aspect of greatness. It’s not easy, but we should try to be calm and compose during times of distress and develop positive thoughts in our minds. If you see the human mind, it is like a storehouse of intelligence and wisdom. So, it’s necessary that from a very young age, a child should be fed with positive and quality concepts about life and living. It’s very usual that life will teach you lessons, and we should accept and learn from them. Do remember being happy is a state of choice of the mind.

Thought of The Day - October 5, 2022

When you have free time, you have the headspace and bandwidth to pursue new ideas. Free time increases your serendipity surface area.The idea that free time is bad is one of the greatest lies you’ve been told.

Free time is a “call option” on future interesting opportunities

Ideas are executed during periods of work but formed during periods of free time & boredom.<ul><li>Muscle is trained during exercise, but grown during recovery.</li><li>Minds are engaged with togetherness but fortified with solitude.</li></ul>Find balance—find growth.

All growth requires balance

Many of history’s highest achievers were aware of the value of rest:John D. Rockefeller would take regular breaks from his notoriously demanding schedule to mill about in his garden—it was his personal escape.Takeaway: When you sprint, sprint hard. When you rest, rest hard.

The value of rest

It’s an asset, not a liability. It’s not about a “break” from productivity.It’s an integral part of your productivity.

Embrace the role of free time and rest in your life.

In his calendar, work periods were broken up by periods of rest, conversation, reading, and boredom.

Benjamin Franklin’s calendar

We have to reframe rest and recovery as a core part of our daily systems, not a reward for our efforts.We don’t need to “earn” our recovery—it should be a central part of our ritual that allows us to thrive.

A major key to avoiding burnout

<ul><li>Take 15-minute tech-free walks throughout the day to break up blocks of focused work.</li><li>The walk will provide a reset and let your thoughts and ideas mingle.</li><li>The walk is just as much a contributor to the output as the focused work itself.</li></ul>

One idea to try

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Career

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Time Management

Sahil Bloom: Guilt for free time

To learn anything:<ul><li>Step 1: Identify a topic</li><li>Step 2: Try to explain it to a 5-year-old</li><li>Step 3: Study to fill in knowledge gaps</li><li>Step 4: Organize, convey, and review.</li></ul>True genius is the ability to simplify, not complicate.

The Feynman Technique

The goal is to minimize the number of regrets in life.When faced with a difficult decision:<ol><li>Project into the future.</li><li>Look back on the decision.</li><li>Ask "Will I regret not doing this?"</li><li>Act accordingly.</li></ol>

The Regret Minimization Framework

Learn the difference between urgent and important.Place tasks on a 2x2 matrix:<ul><li>Important & Urgent</li><li>Important & Not Urgent</li><li>Not Important & Urgent</li><li>Not Important & Not Urgent.</li></ul>Prioritize, delegate, or delete accordingly.

The Eisenhower Decision Matrix

These are:<ul><li>Financial (money)</li><li>Social (relationships)</li><li>Physical (health)</li><li>Mental (health, knowledge, faith)</li><li>Time (freedom).</li></ul>Money is NOT the only type of wealth. The pursuit of financial wealth can rob you of the others.

The 5 Types of Wealth

<ul><li>Black Lines = Paths Closed</li><li>Green Lines = Paths Open</li></ul>Stop focusing on the black lines behind you. Start focusing on all of the green lines before you. It is a future with immense opportunity.

Green Lines vs. Black Lines

Work expands to fill the time available for its completion.When you establish fixed hours, you find unproductive ways to fill them. Work more, get less done.If your goal is to do inspired, creative work, work like a lion instead: Sprint. Eat. Rest. Repeat.

Parkinson’s Law

When faced with chaos, ask yourself whether you're a local or a tourist.Tourists flee bad weather. Locals are aware of the season's change.Play games where you're a local. Never be a "Stubborn Local”—ignoring evidence that something has fundamentally changed.

Local vs. Tourist

Extraordinary achievements are often just the result of a large volume of tiny actions.Small things become big things.

Compounding

Imagine a rock is thrown into a lake. The splash is the first-order effect—the ripples are the second-order effect.The world is filled with first-order thinkers. Dig deeper—ask "and then what?” Second-order thinkers will always be in short supply.

Second-Order Thinking

You have to put in more effort to make something appear effortless.Effortless, elegant performances are simply the result of a large volume of consistent, effortful practice. Simple is not simple.

The energy required to refute bullshit is much larger than the energy required to produce it.This is why BS spreads so easily—especially on social media. It's also why we need to make a deliberate effort to fight back against it.

BS Asymmetry Principle

Most of us need fewer friends and more intellectual sparring partners.<ul><li>Friends are easy to come by.</li><li>Intellectual sparring partners are harder to find. They will call you on your BS, question your assumptions, and push you to think deeply.</li></ul>

Intellectual Sparring Partners

<ul><li>Occam's Razor: The simplest explanation is often the best one.</li><li>Hanlon's Razor: Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity.</li><li>Hitchens' Razor: Anything asserted without evidence can be dismissed without evidence.</li></ul>

The Big 3 Razors

Much of what we call "luck" is the macro result of 1,000s of micro-actions.<ul><li>Your habits put you in a position where luck is more likely to strike.</li><li>If you want to create more luck, increase your luck surface area.</li><li>Open up the aperture to let more luck in.</li></ul>

Luck Surface Area

When faced with two options, choose the one that’s more difficult in the short term. Naval calls this making "uphill decisions”.It requires a forced override of your pain avoidance instinct. It's worth it—short-term pain creates compounding long-term gain.

Uphill Decisions

<ul><li>The British offered bounties for cobra heads—so locals bred cobras to turn in their heads.</li><li>A policy designed to reduce the cobra population had the opposite effect.</li></ul>Lesson: When a measure becomes a target, it ceases to be a good measure.

The Cobra Effect

Tiny deviations are amplified by distance and time.A 1-degree error in heading will cause a plane to miss its target by 1 mile for every 60 miles flown.Small miss now = large miss later. Always make real-time course corrections and adjustments.

The 1-in-60 Rule

Observe the weekend projects of the smartest people in your circles. Odds are those will become a key part of our future.Invest accordingly.

The Weekend Test

<ul><li>Old Way: Learn to Play.</li><li>New Way: Play to Learn.</li></ul>We are living in an unprecedented era—historical boundaries are being broken, enabling anyone to participate.If you're trying to learn anything new, insert yourself into the game. It's the only way.

Play to Learn

Skin in the Game means that the key principals participate in both the upside and downside associated with any decisions.<ul><li>Always look for its presence in any new situation.</li><li>Avoid games where those making the rules don't have any skin in the game.</li></ul>

Skin in the Game

Jerry Seinfeld hangs a calendar on the wall and uses a red marker to put an X over every day that he completes his daily writing.It's not about quality, it's about consistency. If you want to improve at anything:<ul><li>30 days</li><li>30 min per day</li></ul>Build the habit.

30-for-30 Plan

Asking great questions uncovers the truth—bias for action builds upon it.The four quadrants:<ul><li>Q1: World-changers (rare!)</li><li>Q2: Grinders/hustlers</li><li>Q3: Philosophers/thinkers</li><li>Q4: Dead zone</li></ul>Invest behind Q1s, hire more Q2s, spend time with Q3s, and avoid Q4s.

Question-Action Matrix

Your Zone of Genius is where your interests, passions, and skills align.<ul><li>Operating in your Zone of Genius means playing games you are uniquely well-suited to win.</li><li>Once you identify it, you can stop playing "their" games and start playing "yours".</li></ul>

Zone of Genius

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Leadership & Management

Frameworks for thinking

<ul><li><a href="https://deepstash.com/idea/203934/reciprocity">You give, give, give. Why? Because It‘s not a strategy, it‘s a way of life. And when you do, then very, very profitable things begin to happen.</a></li><li>In fact, most people just laugh when they hear that the secret to success is giving. ―Then again, most people are nowhere near as successful as they wish they were.</li><li>It never hurts to be kind to people.</li><li>Love to give. That‘s why they‘re attractive. Givers attract.</li></ul>

The Go-Giver

<ul><li>All the great fortunes in the world have been created by men and women who had a greater passion for what they were giving–their product, service or idea than for what they were getting.</li><li>Personal wealth is the by-product of making the world a better place.</li><li>Everyone likes to be appreciated.</li><li>People will do business with and refer business to those people they know, like and trust.</li></ul>

Give,give,give

THE LAW OF VALUEYour true worth is determined by how much more you give in value than you take in payment.THE LAW OF COMPENSATIONYour income is determined by how many people you serve and how well you serve them.THE LAW OF INFLUENCEYour influence is determined by how abundantly you place other people’s interests first.THE LAW OF AUTHENTICITYThe most valuable gift you have to offer is yourself. THE LAW OF RECEPTIVITY The key to effective giving is to stay open to receiving.

THE FIVE LAWS OF STRATOSPHERIC SUCCESS 

They are the three universal reasons for working.<ol><li>Survive—to meet your basic living needs.(most people )</li><li>Save—to go beyond your basic needs and expand your life.( A smaller number)</li><li>Serve—to make a contribution to the world around you.(rare few who are truly successful—not just financially, but genuinely successful in all aspects of their lives)</li></ol>

Survive, save and serve

<ul><li>The only winning proposition is one hundred percent. Make your win about the other person, go after what (s)he wants. Forget win-win — focus on the other person’s win.(especially in relationships)</li><li>Because if you place the other person‘s interests first, your interests will always be taken care of Always.</li></ul>

Fifty-fifty‘s a losing proposition. 

<ul><li>If you need money, add value. And if you need a lot of money, add a lot of value.</li><li>Reaching any goal you set takes ten percent specific knowledge or technical skills (ten percent, max). The other ninety-plus percent is people skills.</li><li>What you focus on is what you get.</li><li>Ultimately, the world treats you more or less the way you expect to be treated.</li></ul>

Authenticity

<ul><li>Appearances can be deceiving.</li><li>It‘s not about seeing. It‘s about doing.</li><li>It‘s not just a question of their value. It‘s a question of impact.</li><li>If you want more success, find a way to serve more people. It‘s that simple.</li><li>Your compensation is directly proportional to how many lives you touch.</li></ul>

Doing > Seeing

<ul><li>Good people give and don‘t think of receiving.</li><li>Receiving is the natural result of giving.</li><li>The secret to getting is giving. And the secret to giving is making yourself open to receiving.</li><li>Being broke and being rich are both decisions.</li></ul>

Give and you shall receive

<ul><li>Your business will succeed when you find out what others want and try to satisfy their demands. Put concisely, you need to stop being a go-getter and start being a go-giver.</li><li>Sometimes you feel foolish, even look foolish, but do the thing anyway....</li><li>What‘s inside that makes you beautiful, not the wrapping.</li><li>Everybody can be successful because anybody can give.</li></ul>

Stop Being A Go-getter

The Go-Giver is a heartwarming and inspiring tale that brings new relevance to the old proverb Give and you shall receive……

The international bestseller with a radically simple message. The Go-Givertells the story of an ambitious young man named Joe who yearns for success. Joe is a true go-getter, though sometimes he feels as if the harder and faster he works, the further away his goals seem to be. One day, desperate to land a big deal at the end of a bad quarter, he seeks advice from the enigmatic Pindar, a legendary consultant referred to by his devotees simply as the Chairman. Over the next week, Pindar introduces Joe to a series of 'go-givers': a restaurateur, a CEO, a financial adviser, a broker, and the 'Connector' who brought them all together. Pindar's friends share the Five Laws of Stratospheric Success and teach Joe how to open himself up to the power of giving. Joe learns that changing his focus from getting to giving - putting others' interests first and continually adding value to their lives - leads to unexpected returns. Imparted with wit and grace, The Go-Giveris a heartwarming and inspiring tale that brings new relevance to the old proverb 'Give and you shall receive.'

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Books

The international bestseller with a radically simple message. The Go-Giver tells the story of an ambitious young man named Joe who yearns for success. Joe is a true go-getter, though sometimes he feels as if the harder and faster he works, the further away his goals seem to be. One day, desperate to land a big deal at the end of a bad quarter, he seeks advice from the enigmatic Pindar, a legendary consultant referred to by his devotees simply as the Chairman. Over the next week, Pindar introduces Joe to a series of 'go-givers': a restaurateur, a CEO, a financial adviser, a broker, and the 'Connector' who brought them all together. Pindar's friends share the Five Laws of Stratospheric Success and teach Joe how to open himself up to the power of giving. Joe learns that changing his focus from getting to giving putting others' interests first and continually adding value to their lives, leads to unexpected returns.

Bob Burg

John David Mann is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. John David Mann has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. John David Mann's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

John David Mann

The eyes are said to be the "GATE" to inside soul. They tell much more about person than himself.Hopeless eyes , energetic eyes, enthusiastic eyes, Hopeful eyes, etc are there always besides us.

Gate To Inside Soul

<ul><li>Today I found an interesting link about eyes & our experiences. </li><li>I was sitting in front of an “old man” in e-rickshaw. His eyes were “half-opened" and yellowish-red ,loose skin with wrinkles on head, tanned brown face and lean body in silent thought observing outside. </li><li>And also a "young boy" of maybe 10 years of age with “Completely open, wide, clean”, no wrinkles on face,healthy body having enthusiasm in eyes.</li><li>And in between an "adult" with no expressions, some wrinkles and eyes “down" and silently watching phone. </li></ul>

An INTERESTING Link

When rickshaw started , after some time “dust" started to get in “eyes" and their reactions are interesting:

<ul><li>Child starting crying “mama! Theirs dirt in my eyes”</li><li>Adult man silently rubbed his eyes like nothing bothered by it.</li><li>But old man didn't do anything because he had “closed his eyes" before rickshaw started.</li></ul>

Here eyes giving us 3 life lessons: <ol><li>As you become old , your open eyes will start folding & eventually shut down.</li></ol>The eyes that were “full of hope" at start ,with course of time start losing "trust" & gaining “experience" as the time passes.

2) The eyes becomes “Muddy” which were "clean” once.The pure heart full of “helping nature" start not believing & helping others.

3) The gain of “dirt" aka "experience”.

"The life is full of experiences , we have to just OBSERVE around us

People're becoming busy in their Phones, but experience comes from OBSERVATIONS . 

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Health

The Unspoken Eyes

If you’re an introvert, striking up a conversation with a stranger at a crowded event might sound like a nightmare. But that’s what networking is all about — and a networking coach says you’re fully capable of mastering the skill. While networking might not be your strong suit, Allen says it’s a skill you can pick up in a few small steps. Here are her seven top tips:

We Need Networking

Small statements that reinforce positive thoughts about yourself can help you get rid of your negative thoughts over time, Allen says — whether you’re fighting harmful misconceptions about introverts or other personal insecurities. Allen recommends writing down your affirmations in a journal, an index card or even somewhere on your phone. Read them as often as possible, especially when you’re having negative thoughts. The result, she says: You’ll start to carry yourself with more confidence, and that will only draw more people to you.

1. Create a few affirmations for yourself

As much as you might want to avoid attending networking events with large groups of people, they’re still a great way to make business connections, Allen says. To ease your stress, ask a close work friend to come along so you can help each other navigate the event — or even approach strangers together if that’s more comfortable, Allen suggests. Try to schedule networking events when you’ll have enough energy to do something that doesn’t come naturally to you. Consider avoiding events right after work, when you might be too tired to put forth your best effort. Allen also recommends creating specific goals to help you make the most of attending. That might mean staying at the venue for at least one hour or getting contact information from at least two people before the event ends.

2. Have a strategy for networking events

After you make those new business connections, the next step is to schedule one-on-one meetings with them. Allen recommends meeting at least one networking connection weekly, for roughly 30 minutes each. Getting to know your new connections better will help you build a network that can help advance your career or business, she says. Try preparing some questions in advance to make the conversation easier, Allen suggests. Focus on learning more about them, their line of work and what advice they may have for you. Be prepared to share information about yourself and your career goals. You’ll come away knowing whether you could work together or assist each other in some way, Allen says.

3. Schedule one-on-ones

Always following up after connecting with someone at an event or one-on-one meeting can make you stand out, Allen says. It’s a simple step that can make others remember you in a positive light.  Send an email, a text message or a handwritten note that thanks them for connecting with you, and either initiates another meetup or lets them know you’ll reach out again in the future. Make it a habit to send those follow-up messages within 24 to 48 hours of connecting, Allen says.

4. Make following up a habit

Social media can’t fully replace networking in person, but it’s a free and “low-energy” alternative that still allows you to make connections and promote your career and business.Some platforms might be more useful than others: People in your industry may be most active on Twitter, while people from another industry might frequently post on LinkedIn.After you’ve connected with someone, send them a direct message thanking them for connecting with you and explaining why you wanted to connect. Then, stay engaged: Regularly post about your ongoing projects or comment on other people’s posts.

5. Take advantage of social media

Remembering people’s names and pronouncing them correctly is a simple way to make a great lasting impression on someone, Allen says. She acknowledges that it can be difficult, so she has a few strategies for what to do after someone introduces themselves to you. Ask them how to correctly pronounce their name, and repeat it back to them to make it easier for your mind to remember. Find a few opportunities to use their name in your conversation with them, she adds: It can make you more personable while increasing your chances of remembering it.

6. Pay attention to names

Smiling may not be appropriate in all situations, but Allen suggests making it a goal to smile more often during conversations with new connections. It’ll make you appear more confident, she says. A <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/02699931.2013.817383">2013 study </a>by researchers in Switzerland presented different faces with varying happiness to a group of participants. They found that participants preferred faces with a stronger smile.  “Everybody appreciates the smile,” Allen says. “I would love more introverts to get out there and show your smile because it will only help you make those connections you want.”

7. Don’t forget the power of a smile

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Introverts may struggle more with networking than extroverts. Professional networking coach Jevonya Allen says these seven tips can help.

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