Do you want a Superpower? Something better than flying high with a cape or running faster than the train. In fact, a superpower even better than predicting your own future. Yes, it exists! And it’s called Self-discipline. How? Let me explain it.

Self-discipline is a superpower that not only predicts your future but also helps you in transforming it into a reality. It is a bridge that’ll take you from where you are now, to where you want to be in the future. A famous quote from Spiderman, “With great power comes great responsibility” holds true in case of self-discipline too. It is not easy to be disciplined, and it requires some sacrifices if you want bigger benefits in the future.

What Is Self-discipline?

You have to avoid the temptations that are stopping you from being a better version of yourself. For instance, you have to avoid that one slice of Pizza on your cheat day. You have to resist hitting “snooze” when the alarm hits at 6:00 a.m. You have to stop yourself from texting that toxic person who broke your heart. I know it sounds tough and boring. You may be thinking there’s no harm in making small exceptions. But, you must have noticed that you often fail to control all these temptations. This is where the self-discipline kicks in to save the day.

Abraham Lincoln once said, “Discipline is choosing between what you want now and what you want most.” If you can focus on what you want the most, you’ll understand that most of the daily temptations are nothing but hurdles in your ultimate goal. I’ve heard people debating on the importance of self-discipline as if it’s just an option or a choice. No, it isn’t an option. Self-discipline is a necessity if you want to make the best out of the <a href="https://ankitkhnna.medium.com/how-much-time-do-you-really-have-5484b99d002f">limited time </a>you have. I am sharing below the points explaining why self-discipline is necessary in your life.

The most efficient way to get what you want is by <a href="https://ankitkhnna.medium.com/how-to-avoid-distractions-and-stay-focused-68905a759373">developing a sharp focus </a>that’ll act as a catalyst for your success. In a world full of distractions, self-discipline will help you stay focused on your goal by avoiding distractions.

1. It will help you focus

There are many situations where you want to say NO , but you just couldn’t do it. It might be peer pressure, emotional pressure, or social pressure. Fortunately, self-discipline will allow you to stick to your decision and take a stand for yourself.

2. It will teach you how to say No

When you are self-disciplined, you keep your home clean, regulate your finances, and <a href="https://ankitkhnna.medium.com/health-and-fitness-guide-for-busy-professionals-90c04ac47a45">stay fit and healthy. </a>This will force you to raise your standards and demand better to meet your expectations.

3. It will help you raise the bar

We all admire those who’re willing to make their life better and have long-term plans and goals set up in their mind. If you’re disciplined, focused, and driven, people will automatically start respecting you.

4. It will create respect

When you are self-disciplined, you’ll develop respect for yourself. Self-respect will give you confidence when you’ll talk to friends and colleagues. This will highlight your positivity at work as well as among your family and friends.

5. It will increase your confidence

Emotions play a big role in what we do. No matter how much you love to read, write, sing or dance, sometimes you don’t feel like doing it. Self-discipline will develop a habit that’ll help you bypass your emotions to get important things done even when you don’t want to do them.

6. It will get sh*t done

We all love to have someone to depend on. If you’re disciplined, people will know that you can be trusted to do a job, or they can rely on you for getting things done. It’ll also improve your chances of getting promoted at the workplace.

7. It will make you a valuable asset

When you’re self-disciplined, you keep everything organized and planned. Due to this, you do not have to worry about pending tasks and you won’t waste time daydreaming about potential plans. Therefore, you’ll get enough free time to do whatever you want to do.

8. It will give you freedom

We tend to procrastinate on things as much as we can. Self-discipline kicks procrastination straight out of the window. If you’ll develop a habit to give time and attention to your goal, you’ll start making progress for sure.

9. It will ensure you make progress

Once you start planning before taking action, you also start taking responsibility for your actions. Self-discipline will ensure that all your actions would be well-planned.

10. It will help you become responsible

Your willpower is the ability that keeps you disciplined. However, it is a finite resource and you can’t simply rely on it. That is why you have to develop self-discipline so that the lack of willpower won’t invite procrastination or doubt. Here are the 5 simple yet effective ways to develop self-discipline that’ll make you the best version of yourself.

How to Develop Self-discipline?

Think about all those important things you’ve given up just because of a little discomfort. If you want to be disciplined, you need to practice being uncomfortable. Take a cold shower, ask your crush out, apply for those leaves you’re planning, and bargain for a discount at the mart. What would be the worst outcome? A small itch, a temporary rejection, or a little embarrassment. But if you’ll succeed, I don’t need to remind you of the reward which would be much bigger.

1. Get out of your comfort zone

Start with something small and stick to it. For example, waking up early, meditating for only 15 minutes, or going out for a morning walk. Stick to the schedule and do it daily without any exception. To make it easier for yourself, choose something you’re confident about. Once your tolerance increases, you’ll be able to set up the big goals like exercising daily and planning your diet chart.

2. Learn to make a habit

You’ll need to understand the triggers that are stopping you from being self-disciplined. For example, you can’t plan a healthy diet if your refrigerator is full of cheesecakes and pints of beer. Self-control is easy when you don’t have distractions around you. Make a list of things that are moving you away from your goal and get rid of them as soon as possible.

3. Get rid of temptations

According to <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs">Maslow’s hierarchy of needs </a>, basic needs like food, shelter, warmth and rest comes before your psychological and self-fulfillment needs. You must take care of your basic needs if you would like to be self-disciplined and achieve big in the future. Eat healthy and stay hydrated, do sufficient exercise, and get enough sleep to keep yourself fit and ready.

4. Take care of yourself

It’s important to track your progress and check how far you’ve reached. Make a checklist on an app or keep a calendar to mark your daily routine.Self-monitoring gives you confidence and makes it easier for you to track down your weaknesses and opportunity areas. Once you find out your weakness, it’ll be much easier to tackle it.Remember, self-discipline is not a day’s or a month’s process. It will take time to develop. Have faith in yourself and do not compare your progress with others. You’ll definitely achieve your goals at the right time if you’re willing to work hard for them.

5. Monitor your progress

As quoted by one of the greatest minds in history, Nikola Tesla, “I could only achieve success in my life through self-discipline, and I applied it until my wish and my will became one.”

Thanks a lot for reading! If you like the article, please support by visiting the actual link and liking it there.Or you can simply click <a href="https://ankitkhnna.medium.com/why-is-self-discipline-necessary-5e88cb73bfd6">here</a>.

The End

A complete guide on how to develop self-discipline 

Self-discipline is a superpower that not only predicts your future but also helps you in transforming it into a reality. It is a bridge that'll take you from where you are now, to where you want to be in the future.

personaldevelopment

Personal Development

habits

Habits

timemanagement

Time Management

Why Is Self-discipline Necessary?

Be wise today so you don't have to cry tomorrow.~E.A.Bucchianeri

Some decisions are so simple that you're barely aware you're making them, while others are time consuming, high risk, and can leave you feeling anxious.Decisions can make or break a project or an entire business. And they often involve complex and unpredictable interpersonal issues, too.

<ol><li>Investigate the situation in detail.</li><li>Create a constructive environment.</li><li>Generate good alternatives.</li><li>Explore your options.</li><li>Select the best solution.</li><li>Evaluate your plan.</li><li>Communicate your decision, and take action.</li></ol>

A 7 Step Decision Making Strategy

This process will ensure that you make a good decision in a complex situation, but it may be unnecessarily complicated for small or simple decisions. In these cases, jump to Step 5.

Note

Start by considering the decision in the context of the problem it is intended to address. You need to determine whether the stated problem is the real issue, or just a symptom of something deeper.Look beyond the obivious

1.Investigate the situation in detail.

Can you give your decision the attention it needs? Spend some time preparing yourself before diving in to the facts and figures.Remember that most decisions will affect other people too, so it helps to create a constructive environment in which to explore the situation together.This is especially true when you have to rely on other people to implement a decision that you're responsible for. You'll need to identify who to include in the process and who will be part of any final decision-making group.Enable people to contribute to the discussions without any fear of the other participants.

2.Create a constructive environment.

The wider the options you explore, the better your final decision is likely to be. Generating a number of different options may seem to make your decision more complicated at first, but the act of coming up with alternatives forces you to look at the problem from different angles.These can help you to step outside your normal patterns of thinking and come up with some truly innovative solutions.Brainstorming is probably the most popular method of generating ideas.

3.Generate good alternatives.

When you're satisfied that you have a good selection of realistic alternatives, it's time to evaluate the feasibility, risks and implications of each one.Almost every decision involves some degree of risk. You'll need a structured approach for assessing threats and evaluating the probability of adverse events occurring – and what they might cost to manage. You'll also want to examine the ethical impact of each option, and how that might sit with your personal and organizational values.

4.Explore your options.

the next step is to make your decision!If you have various criteria to consider, use Decision Matrix Analysis to compare them reliably and rigorously. Or, if you want to determine which ones should carry most weight in your decision, conduct a Paired Comparison Analysis.If your decision is being made within a group, techniques such as multi-voting and the Modified Borda Count can help you.When anonymity is important, decision-makers dislike one another, or there is a tendency for certain individuals to dominate the process, use the Delphi Technique to reach a fair and impartial decision.

5.Select the best solution.

The Delphi technique is a process used to arrive at a group opinion or decision by surveying a panel of experts. Experts respond to several rounds of questionnaires, and the responses are aggregated and shared with the group after each round.

What Is Delphi Technique

Now, more than ever, is the time to "sense check" your decision. Before you start to implement your decision, take a long, dispassionate look at it to be sure that you have been thorough, and that common errors haven't crept into the process.Your final decision is only as good as the facts and research you used to make it. Make sure that your information is trustworthy, and that you've done your best not to "cherry pick" data. This will help you avoid confirmation bias, a common psychological bias in decision making.

6.Evaluate your plan.

Discuss your preliminary conclusions with important stakeholders to enable them to spot flaws, make recommendations, and support your conclusions. Listen to your own intuition, too, and quietly and methodically test assumptions and decisions against your own experience. Use Blindspot Analysis to review whether you've fallen prey to problems like over-confidence, escalating commitment, or groupthink. And consider checking the logical structure of your process with the Ladder of Inference, to make sure that a well-founded and consistent decision emerges at the end.

More On '6.Evaluate Your Plan'

Once you've made your decision, you need to communicate it to everyone affected by it in an engaging, informative and inspiring way.Get them involved in implementing the solution by discussing how and why you arrived at your decision. The more information you provide about risks and projected benefits, the more likely people will be to support it.If people point out a flaw in your process as a result, have the humility  to welcome their input and review your plans appropriately – it's much better to do this now, cheaply, than having to do it expensively if your plans have failed.

7.Communicate your decision, and take action.

Taking right decision plays a very crucial role in one's life because life is a matter of choices and every choice you make makes you.❤

Use this seven-step process to make effective, rational decisions in an impartial and comprehensive way.

Understand yourself and those around you.

psychology

Psychology

problemsolving

Problem Solving

communication

Communication

leadershipandmanagement

Leadership & Management

How to Make Decisions: A Model for Making the Best Possible Choices

<ul><li>The key to a good life is not giving a F*ck about more; it’s giving a F*ck about less, giving a F*ck about only what is true and immediate and important.</li><li>The more you pursue feeling better all the time, the less satisfied you become.</li><li>Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires.</li><li>Most of us struggle throughout our lives by giving too many F*cks in situations where F*cks do not deserve to be given.</li></ul>

Disappointment Panda

Do something now, even if it’s really small, and let good actions cascade as a result.

Do Something Principle

"If you want the rewards, but not the struggle, you don’t really want it."

<ul><li>Many self-help gurus teach you new forms of denial and pump you up with exercises that feel good in the short term, while ignoring the underlying issue. Remember, nobody who is actually happy has to stand in front of a mirror and tell himself that he’s happy.</li><li> Pain serves a purpose.</li><li>The path to happiness is a path full of shitheaps and shame.</li></ul>

Self Awareness Onion

<ul><li>The way to be happy and fulfilled, Manson says, is to not give a F*ck about everything we’re told to care about.</li><li>Instead, get clear on what truly matters, focus your choices on those few priorities, and accept that in spite of that, you’ll still make stupid mistakes and suffer occasionally.</li></ul>

Focus On What Matters

<ul><li>If you are able to not give a F*ck about the pain your goals require, you become unstoppable.</li><li>Finding something important and meaningful in your life is perhaps the most productive use of your time and energy.</li><li>You can’t merely be in love with the result. You have to love the process.</li><li>Rejection of alternatives liberates us.</li><li>Commitment to one thing offers more freedom than anything else.</li></ul>

Rejection Of Alternatives

<ul><li>But when we choose better values, we are able to divert our F*cks to something better—toward things that matter, things that improve the state of our well-being and that generate happiness, pleasure, and success as side effects.</li><li>When you give better F*cks, you get better problems, when you get better problems, you get a better life.</li></ul>

Good Values

"Action isn’t just the effect of motivation; it’s the cause of it.”

The only way to achieve meaning and a sense of importance in one’s life is through a rejection of alternatives, a narrowing of freedom, a choice of commitment to one place, one belief, or one person.

The Importance of Saying No

<ol><li>Pleasure is a false god: People who focus their energy on superficial pleasures end up more anxious, more emotionally unstable, and more depressed.</li><li>Material Success: Many people measure their self-worth based on how much money they make or what kind of car they drive etc..</li><li>Always Being Right: People who base their self-worth on being right about everything prevent themselves from learning from their mistakes.</li><li>Staying Positive: Denying negative emotions leads to experiencing deeper and more prolonged negative emotions and to emotional dysfunction.</li></ol>

Shitty Values

<ul><li>Fault is past tense.</li><li>Responsibility is present tense.</li></ul>Maturity == to become more selective about the F*cks you are willing to give.

Fault Vs Responsibility 

Depth is where the gold is buried. And you have to stay committed to something and go deep to dig it up. That’s true in relationships, in a career, in building a great lifestyle— in everything.

Freedom Through Commitment

<ol><li>Be comfortable with being different, not being indifferent.</li><li>Find something meaningful to give a F*ck about – otherwise you’ll waste energy on meaningless worries.</li><li>You always have a choice over what to give a F*ck about – as we get older, we realise what matters are the simple things.</li></ol>

What Not Giving a F*ck Means?

<ul><li>If someone is better than you at something, then it’s likely because she has failed at it more than you have.</li><li>If we’re unwilling to fail, then we’re unwilling to succeed.</li></ul>

Failing Is The Way Forward

<ul><li>Instead of striving for certainty, we should be in constant search of doubt: doubt about our own beliefs, doubt our own feelings, doubt about what the future may hold for us unless we get out there and create it for ourselves.</li><li>Openness to being wrong must exist for any real change or growth to take place.</li></ul>

You’re Wrong About Everything (But So Am I)

“The acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”<ul><li>Being open with your insecurities paradoxically makes you more confident and charismatic around others. The pain of honest confrontation is what generates the greatest trust and respect in your relationships. </li><li>Suffering through your fears and anxieties is what allows you to build courage and perseverance.</li></ul>

The Feedback Loop from Hell

….…“The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid it.”<ul><li>The more options we’re given, the less satisfied we become with whatever we choose, because we’re aware of all the other options we’re potentially forfeiting.</li><li>Once we understand that root cause, we can ideally do something to change.</li></ul>

Law Of Avoidance

<ul><li>Confronting the reality of our own mortality is important because it obliterates all the crappy, fragile, superficial values in life.</li><li> Simple optioning for your own values in life, already makes you beautiful, already makes you successful, and already makes you loved. Even if you don’t realize it.</li></ul>

… And Then You Die

“Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a F*ck about what’s truly F*ckworthy”

Only give a f*ck about what’s truly f*ckworthy :)

#1 New York Times Bestseller Over 1 million copies sold In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people. For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up. Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek. There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

productivity

Productivity

motivationandinspiration

Motivation & Inspiration

books

Books

#1 New York Times BestsellerOver 10 million copies soldIn this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be "positive" all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.For decades, we’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy, rich life. "F**k positivity," Mark Manson says. "Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it." In his wildly popular Internet blog, Manson doesn’t sugarcoat or equivocate. He tells it like it is—a dose of raw, refreshing, honest truth that is sorely lacking today. The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is his antidote to the coddling, let’s-all-feel-good mindset that has infected American society and spoiled a generation, rewarding them with gold medals just for showing up.Manson makes the argument, backed both by academic research and well-timed poop jokes, that improving our lives hinges not on our ability to turn lemons into lemonade, but on learning to stomach lemons better. Human beings are flawed and limited—"not everybody can be extraordinary, there are winners and losers in society, and some of it is not fair or your fault." Manson advises us to get to know our limitations and accept them. Once we embrace our fears, faults, and uncertainties, once we stop running and avoiding and start confronting painful truths, we can begin to find the courage, perseverance, honesty, responsibility, curiosity, and forgiveness we seek.There are only so many things we can give a f**k about so we need to figure out which ones really matter, Manson makes clear. While money is nice, caring about what you do with your life is better, because true wealth is about experience. A much-needed grab-you-by-the-shoulders-and-look-you-in-the-eye moment of real-talk, filled with entertaining stories and profane, ruthless humor, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F**k is a refreshing slap for a generation to help them lead contented, grounded lives.

Mark Manson (born 1984) is a professional blogger, entrepreneur, and former dating coach. Since 2007, he's been helping people with their emotional and relationship problems. He has worked with thousands of people from over 30 different countries. He regularly writes and updates his blog at: www.markmanson.net

Mark Manson

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

Reason to not able to study for an hour1. You are working person and didn't have time to study 2. You are working person and , you basically didn't have time to study all day.3. You are housewife and didn't get any time to study.4. You have time but don't have idea how to mange to give 1 hour.5. You get exhausted while studying for straight 1 hour

How To Find 1 Hour A Day To Study Any Language 

What's sukima time . Sukima time is a Japanese word, Sukima means "a gap" . So "Sukima time" ( gap time ) means a short period of free time in your schedules.If you have a tight schedule , so it's hard to find any time to study , and that's why you can use Sukima time

Sukima Time 

<ol><li> You can watch YouTube while brushing your teeth for 10 minutes.</li><li>You can memorize words with flashcard while commuting to work/job.(10 minutes)</li><li>Write a short diary entry in your target language . (15 minutes before going to bed)</li><li> Listen to podcast while doing chores (10 minutes)</li><li> 15 minutes after lunch.</li></ol>And it's hour in total. You can give time to study your target language by this method giving 10-10-15-10-15.

How To Use Your Time Wisely To Study

It's easier to make studying habit if you combine studying your target language with what you do everyday

Sukima 

I watched this youtube video and it's really help when you trying to learn a new language but sitting in one didn't help at all

Time management tips from Tanaka-san! To be honest, I wanted to make today’s episode not only for you guys but for myself as well, because recently I‘ve been just like Egg-san - using the “I don’t have time” excuse and procrastinate so many things in life😂 Hope today’s video will become a small reminder for you and me that the effort we put in every little すきま時間 (“gap time”) makes a big difference someday. ====================== Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/learn_japanese_with_tanaka_san/ Support the creator: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanakasan Merch on Redbubble : https://www.redbubble.com/people/jp-tanakasan/shop?asc=u #japanese #learnjapanese #japaneselistening #anime #日本語 #languagelearning

Time management tips from Tanaka-san!

To be honest, I wanted to make today’s episode not only for you guys but for myself as well, because recently I‘ve been just like Egg-san - using the “I don’t have time” excuse and procrastinate so many things in life😂 Hope today’s video will become a small reminder for you and me that the effort we put in every little すきま時間 (“gap time”) makes a big difference someday. 

Study Tips Playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLkK7KO2TnEcyaotL2WO-AHScggSsr12cN

======================
Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/learn_japanese_with_tanaka_san/

Support the creator:
https://www.buymeacoffee.com/tanakasan

Merch on Redbubble : 
https://www.redbubble.com/people/jp-tanakasan/shop?asc=u

#japanese #learnjapanese #japaneselistening #anime #日本語 #languagelearning

Hey guys! My name is Tanaka, a tiny sushi who teaches Japanese.
If you want to learn Japanese in a fun way, you are in the right place.

🍣 Character Profile
Tanaka-san: Tuna sushi nigiri. Likes coffee.
Egg-san: Egg sushi nigiri who's learning Japanese from Tanaka-san. A bit lazy.

Business Inquiries:
https://forms.gle/asz6Q7mv4FP6dtHp8



Learn Japanese with Tanaka san

How to Find 1 Hour A Day to Study Japanese | Study Tips

Seeing this reminded me that I'll never get to where I want to be as an introvert if I keep letting fear control me

Become Confident As Introvert

People will try and encourage you to be more social, which definitely isn’t a bad thing. However, it’s important to remember that introverts derive energy simply from time spent alone. Don’t change who you are in the pursuit of fitting in.

1. Accept who you are 

Most introverts will try extremely hard to fit in and not stand out. They want to blend into the background and not be noticed by others. Do not do this. Otherwise, what’s the point in going out in the first place?

2. Don’t be afraid of standing out 

When you find yourself in a new or uncomfortable setting, take note of the conversation starters and topics that keep interesting conversations flowing. This is a good way to learn more social skills especially if you tend to be observant and introspective.

3. Observe others

Whether you go traveling, start a business, change careers or tackle a new project, it doesn’t matter. As long as you’re out of your comfort zone, you will grow. You will NEVER be able to change when you're comfortable.

4. Leave your comfort zone

It may sound weird but speaking properly isn’t always easy, especially if you’re not used to it. Most people will mumble, stutter or simply speak too fast when they're nervous. This then makes them even more nervous.

5. Speak properly

Introverts will often have very negative body language, which then makes them look more nervous, unconfident, and awkward. Stand tall, push your shoulders pack, and keep your head up. My eBook The Art of Body Language goes into much more detail on this.

6. Change your posture

You don’t need to go over the top, but what you wear can have a large impact on how confident you feel. So pay attention to grooming and dress appropriately for the occasion.

7. Work on your appearance

Confidence like a gift Confidence is like “Show up in every single moment like you’re meant to be there.”

7 Ways to Become Confident

Every day you face battles--that is the reality for all creatures in their struggle to survive. But the greatest battle of all is with yourself--your weaknesses, your emotions, your lack of resolution in seeing things through to the end.

SPIRITUALIZE YOUR WARFARE

You must declare unceasing war on yourself. As a warrior in life, you welcome combat and conflict as ways to prove yourself, to better your skills, to gain courage, confidence, and experience. Instead of repressing your doubts and fears, you must face them down, do battle with them. You want more challenges, and you invite more war. You are forging the warrior's spirit, and only constant practice will lead you there. <a href="https://tinyurl.com/2qya96fr">LISTEN TO THE PODCAST HERE </a>

Battle your weakness

Extracted from the podcast : the warrior Within by life upgrade

Life is hard.Life is challenging.Life is mostly too difficult for many of us to handle We Push through oppositions, struggle for relevance and fight for limited opportunities.But many people give up and stop fighting settling for a life of mediocrity.If  we can only realize that there’s a warrior Within us that seeks expression, that aggressive part of us that is activated in moments of vengeance, pain or life threatening situation. If we can connect to the warrior Within us and channel that aggressive energy to the right stuff we can become almost unstoppable. This episode is for those who want to put up a fight against every limitation and challenges that's making thier life empty and frustrating.Listen to this episode and become an upgraded version of yourself.Listen on all podcast player : http://bit.ly/fopodcThat is your legacy on this Earth when you leave this Earth: how many hearts you touched.Support us by giving a donation so we can continue to impact the world  for free. These donations will help us to upgrade our studio gadgets and help us to render high sound and video quality DONATE : https://barter.me/fulfillmentobi This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit fulfillmentobi.substack.com

loveandrelationships

Love & Relationships

Upgrade your life, stand out, be exceptional, be an outlier Live the best life you can live and daily become a better version of yourself.  This podcast is for knowledge seekers, those who are hungry for a change and those who don't want to fit in and be normal.   WE WILL BE FEATURING.  Inspirational content.  Motivational content.  Growth processes.  Business mentoring.  Financial growth.  Books, reading and education.  Life principles.  Productivity and Time management. Spirituality and faith.  Mindset hack. fulfillmentobi.substack.com

Life Upgrade

The Warrior Within You - become an unstoppable force

We develop a more realistic view of where we are in the grand scheme of things during our life. We go from “the way to make progress is to keep going when you start to feel tired!" to I am okay with how I am.

Wisdom is quiet and knows that life is complicated

Growing mature follows a pretty standard path: in short, we develop a more realistic view of where we are in the grand scheme of things. When we’re babies, everything is black and white; we’re the center of the worldOver time, we acknowledge other people, with their own perspectives:Later, our identity gets wrapped up in the group — we want nothing more than to belong because our group is the best in the world:The next step: we feel comfortable being ourselves.

The Path Of Psychological Maturity

Wisdom is growing out of the bubble that insists we have access to The One True Worldview. If we have an answer, a data point, we acknowledge that it’s just a momentary snapshot of precision, rather than an all-encompassing truth about the universe. When we can accept that all existence is temporary and all lives have innate value, we are freed of the need to feel special or accomplished. We understand that we’re just a drop in the ocean.

Growing Wisdom

A few years ago when I was a full-blown gym rat, I was horribly obnoxious. (I still am, but for other reasons.) I used to try to encourage people during classes by reminding them “the way to make…

mentalhealth

Mental Health

Don’t Listen to Anyone Who Claims to Have the One Neat Trick

Research has shown that the act of ignoring or excluding activates the same area of the brain that is activated by physical pain.The best predictor of divorce isn’t whether a couple fights – arguments are inevitable – but how a couple fights. The key to being closer in the good times lies in the way a couple treats each other during the bad.

Good Times + - Bad Times

The silent treatment can tend to present itself as a response more fitting of the ‘high road’, one of grace and dignity, but research has shown it is anything but.

Its Not What It Seems

‘Excluding and ignoring people, such as giving them the cold shoulder or silent treatment, are used to punish or manipulate, and people may not realise the emotional or physical harm that is being done.’

The silent treatment, even if it’s brief, activates the anterior cingulate cortex – the part of the brain that detects physical pain. The initial pain is the same, regardless of whether the exclusion is by strangers, close friends or enemies.

Does Rejection Hurt?

The ability to detect ostracism is hardwired in us – it doesn’t matter if you’re being ignored by a group or a person you can’t stand, the pain still registers.The silent treatment happens when one partner pressures the other with requests, criticism or complaints and the other responds with silence and emotional distance.

Iced Out

Paul Schrodt, PhD, Professor of Communication Studies reviewed 74 relationship studies which involved more than 14,000 participants.Findings from his in-depth analysis revealed that the silent treatment is ‘tremendously’ damaging to a relationship. It decreases relationship satisfaction for both partners, diminishes feelings of intimacy, and reduces the capacity to communicate in a way that’s healthy and meaningful.

The Loudness Of Silence

‘It’s the most common pattern of conflict in marriage or any committed, established romantic relationship. And it does tremendous damage.’

It doesn’t matter which partner demands or which one withdraws, the damage to the relationship is the same. It’s the pattern itself that’s the problem, not the specific partner. The silent treatment should not be confused with taking time to cool down after heated or difficult exchange. Williams suggests that instead of reverting to the silent treatment, try ‘I can’t talk to you right now, but we can talk about it later.’

Try This Instead

The silent treatment is a way to inflict pain without visible bruising – literally.

mindfulness

Mindfulness

The Surprising Truth About The Silent Treatment - Hey Sigmund

Find  Self Improvement Tips - Curated from popular Books like Atomic Habits, 48 Rules of Power, Deep Work, Rich Dad Poor Dad and way more!

Why Is Self-discipline Necessary?

How to Make Decisions: A Model for Making the Best Possible Choices

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

How to Find 1 Hour A Day to Study Japanese | Study Tips

7 Ways to Become Confident

The Warrior Within You - become an unstoppable force

Don’t Listen to Anyone Who Claims to Have the One Neat Trick

The Surprising Truth About The Silent Treatment - Hey Sigmund

Charlie Munger: Mental Models for the Rest of Your Life

4 Common Tactics of Psychological Manipulators

It's time to
Read like a Pro.

Why Is Self-discipline Necessary?

How to Make Decisions: A Model for Making the Best Possible Choices

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

How to Find 1 Hour A Day to Study Japanese | Study Tips

7 Ways to Become Confident

The Warrior Within You - become an unstoppable force

Don’t Listen to Anyone Who Claims to Have the One Neat Trick

The Surprising Truth About The Silent Treatment - Hey Sigmund

Charlie Munger: Mental Models for the Rest of Your Life

4 Common Tactics of Psychological Manipulators

It's time to Read like a Pro.

It's time to
Read like a Pro.