The night guard needs to be cleaned daily, with weekly deep cleaning.The same bacteria in your mouth will be transferred onto your night guard after wearing it all night.If your guard is not cleaned daily, the following can occur:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Bacteria buildup</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Bad taste and/or odors</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Mold and mildew</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Plaque buildup</li><li class="ql-align-justify">The guard becomes discolored or stained</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Reduced lifespan for your guard</li></ul>

The Why?

The best time to clean is first thing in the morning . If you wait until later, you place it at higher risk for bacterial growth. As it dries, the residue hardens and becomes hard to clean.Simply brush the guard thoroughly with a toothbrush and toothpaste. Brush gently all sides and angles, not just the portion that comes in contact with the teeth. Afterrwards, let it dry completely before storing the clean night guard in its case in a cool, dry place.If in a rush, quickly rinsing the guard with water, but do your best to brush it when you have time.

The Dailey Routine

Clean the night guard with denture cleaner or mouthguard cleaners. Avoid mouthwash that contains alcohol as this may damage the guard.Also, regularly clean the guard's case by washing it with dish soap then thoroughly rinse it off.To deep clean organically:<ol><li>soak in white vinegar for 30 min</li><li>Rinse and soak in hydrogen peroxide for 30 min</li><li>If the guard is starting to smell or turn colors, soak in water and baking soda solution for 30 min</li></ol>Set a timer and do not over-soak in any cleaning liquid as it will damage the guard.

The Weekly Routine

<ol><li>Do not throw the night guard in a dishwasher or boiling water. High heat can warp and ruin the night guard.</li><li>Avoid bleach, since bleach can actually damage the night guard. It can also be dangerous if you don’t rinse all of the bleach off.</li><li>Keep an eye out for any cracks, damage, or uneven wear. Replace the night guard at any first sign of damage to avoid damage to your teeth or jaw. </li></ol>

Extra Do & Don't

How to clean your night guard properly is important to know if you use a mouth guard. Learn the easy process of cleaning a mouth guard here.

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Habits

How to Clean Your Night Guard

Make reflection a part of our life ritual if you want to take your life to a new direction. So take out your journal and reflect on your previous month by asking and answering precisely these 5 questions: <ul><li>How did my previous month go? </li><li>What happened on the previous month that I am grateful for? </li><li>What didn’t go so well? why? </li><li>How can I do better this time? </li><li>What did I learn last month? </li> </ul>

1. Reflect on your previous month

Setting goals on a monthly basis puts you forward in the right direction towards your major goals. Write down these goals. I repeat, WRITE.DOWN.YOUR.GOALS where you can regularly see. Don’t just have them in your mind. I cannot explain but there is something very very powerful about <a href="https://www.forbes.com/sites/markmurphy/2018/04/15/neuroscience-explains-why-you-need-to-write-down-your-goals-if-you-actually-want-to-achieve-them/?sh=62fb572d7905">writing down your goals </a>and regularly seeing them. It makes your goals 10x achievable than if you don’t. Also don’t have more than 3 goals because you want to keep your focus narrowed.

2. Write down your goals

As you begin with a new month set out and create a plan. This plan must consist of actionable things that will move you towards reaching your goals. You can keep an app as a planner but personally I prefer a handwritten planner. I have a notebook for this.

3. Set your planner:

You might think what you should invest on? Well there are two things you can invest <ul><li>First, your time </li><li>Second, your money. </li> </ul>If you don’t have money, then you can always invest your time in learning or doing something which will benefit in future.

4. Make one investment for yourself

Never leave your bills due. Pay them right at the beginning of each month or schedule them so you won’t forget it. This also clears huge amount of stress and is really essential if you want to simplify your life.

5. Pay/schedule your bills

Most people have huge debts and are constantly stressed about how to improve their financial condition but do nothing to keep a check on their financial situation. They think that someday money will just come and they will have all their loans and debts paid off. But it really does not work that way. You need to know exactly how much money you owe to someone or something and how much you are left with after your savings and after all your expenses.

6. Check your money situation

Start off your month strong by picking a book or books you want to read at the beginning of each month. Even if you aren’t much of a reader if you actually just pick a book to read every month you are more likely to read and in 12 months you will have read 12 books!

7. Choose a book to read

You can keep track of any of your habit or start a 30 day challenge and track it down in a wall calendar.

8. Mark events/meetings on your calendar

Another thing to do on a monthly basis is to make/ update your lists. Keeping lists help you to be organized and have everything in one place so you don’t have to keep looking time and again. Here are some lists to make a beginning of every month <ul><li>Your to-do list for the month ahead </li><li>List of pending things from last month </li><li>List of books you want to read </li><li>Shopping list of things you need to buy </li><li>List of meetings for the month ahead </li> </ul>

9. Make/update your lists

Keep the first week of each month for cleaning and decluttering purpose. Decuttering at the beginning of each month makes you actually feel like you are starting your month ahead in a clean slate. Here are some major things to clean and declutter on a monthly basis probably at the beginning of every month to give you the feels of a great start of the month. <ul><li>clean your fridge </li><li>clean your purse and bags </li><li>clean your car </li><li>Clean your closet </li><li>Declutter your phone </li><li>declutter your files </li><li>Declutter your inbox </li> </ul>

1o. Clean and Declutter

With all the things that you contantly do for others, don’t forget that it is you who has the greatest part to play in your life and hence you deserve to treat yourself. At the beginning of the month choose how you would like to give yourself a treat. Maybe it is buying something you have been wanting to buy, going out to your favourite restaurant, enjoying a nice spa or anything as such. For this, keep atleast 10% of income for your fun expenses and you can use this to treat yourself and doing whatever you wish guilt free or without any worries of overspending.

11. Choose how you want to treat yourself

Prayers are simply inner determination and your inner resolve. You can pray for anything. I hope you pray for strength, pray for courage, pray for patience and pray to have enthusiam to make all your dreams come true.

12. Write down your prayers

Want to know how to make your new month stronger? Here are 12 major things to do at the beginning of each month to start your month right.

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12 things to do to start your new month strong

Habits plays an important role in our life they decides our day, makes us different from others , decides our character and much moreBut what if these habits are running your life , most of us even don't know whether the habits they opted are good for their future Career ? As I have said earlier , habits decides your day, when you will compare life of a successful with an unsuccessful person then you can notice the big difference between their habits majorly responsible for thier career

5 habits that you must create ( Successful habits, Success tips,

Successful person has some habits that makes him totally different from others , like Sir Nikola Tesla practices toe exercise 100 times before going to sleep & The great physicist Sir Albert Einstein sleeps over 10 hrs a day .

Habits Followed By Successful People's

You must opt perfect routine in the morning , start your day , waking early in the morning .When you wake up early in the morning or will give a better feel .Waking up early in the morning has many advantages like :-• You can feel yourself free.• You can feel your mind free & relaxed.• You can even concentrate better on your work in the morning. • Early wake up will give you a feeling of satisfaction that you are working on your goals .

1. Early to bed , early to rise makes a person healthy, wealthy 

Starting your day with motivation will make you happy and productive throughout your whole day . It will make you positive , more engaging towards your work .

2. Start your day with a motivational quotes, poems, newspaper.

Life is too short to waste in unusual things like stress & anxiety . Life is full of surprises every day is a new day, start your day with a new energy , with a new goal , positive mindset fight for yourself .Control yourself from being anxious , being stressed and depressed . Always be happy .

3. Control your negative thoughts and emotions.

If you are my daily uses then you must know that I always told you that focus on your goals. Do you know why ?Being consistent and focused towards your work can actually make you a successful person in less time. Everyone successful person has opted this habits . Successful people always focused towards their work .A survey was conducted among top millionaire and billionaires , and everyone was asked the same question , what's the reason behind your success ?. You will be shocked to know that almost everyone replied with a same answer , what was the answer ? . The answer is Focus .

4. Focus on your goals avoid distraction.

Thoughts are the important aspects of our life . Thoughts are of two types negative and positive , you must be familiar with both of them . Now the main problem occurs when you stuck between positive and negative thoughts. Most of us has a positive mindset towards this world , positive thinking and positive thoughts, as I have wrote earlier, can help you a lot in making your success dream come true but if you don't then please check this article Positive thinking and best ways to develop.

5. Develop a new thought processing .

Habits are the important aspects of life, our habits act as a strong base and remember when you have strong base then the building will be obviously strong.Create habits work on them and let your hardwork and success speak for you .

Conclusion

Habits are not automatically created , they are build with one's efforts , here's the best 5 habits that you can go with

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Researchers acknowledge the consequences of negative emotions and the benefits of positive emotions on our physical and mental wellbeing. Studies in positive psychology prove that people who react in a positive manner in the workplace have stronger relationships, greater psychological safety, and enhanced learning, creativity and motivation. 
Ultimately, employee and organizational performance improves when positive emotions (i.e., optimism, gratitude) are more prevalent.

Being Positive

Positivity was never meant to exclude the experience of negative emotions. Toxic positivity is defined as the denial, suppression or _ignoring _of negative emotions. 
It’s happiness at all costs and the belief that our interactions with family, friends, and coworkers must exclude anything that doesn’t feel positive.

Toxic Positivity

It’s difficult to divulge how we are feeling in an honest way, especially when we feel pressured to confess an unpleasant emotion to our coworkers. Maybe we view this reaction as a sign of weaknesses or vulnerability, or maybe we are in denial about our true feelings. So, we put on a happy face and turn it towards the world, all while churning inside with anger, fear, shame, sadness or disgust.

Emotional Complexity

When we suppress negative emotions, we fail to give ourselves or others a chance to grapple with them. The more we can improve expressing and receiving emotional responses, the more we can authentically share our positive and negative feelings in a healthy way. Managing emotions comes from building emotional intelligence (EI). It’s a skill that is honed over a lifetime. One <a href="https://www.scn.ucla.edu/pdf/AL(2007).pdf">study</a> found that the mere act of labeling our feelings (a common EI technique) helps us release them.

The Role Of Emotional Intelligence

The perspective we take is that some emotions are good, and others are bad. We convince ourselves that that if we can avoid the bad feelings and force the good feelings, everything will just fall into place. Actually, emotions are neutral. We label some of our emotions negative because they are hard for us to process, they feel unpleasant, and they require a great deal of our energy.

The Value Of Negative Emotions

Cultivating a growth mindset starts with believing that we can change and grow over time to be better. Use this strategy to acknowledge that, in this moment, you are sad, angry, or fearful, but that you will work through it and come out better for it.
It is an internal dialogue that says, “I have dealt with hard things before, and I will again.” The difference between this mindset and toxic positivity is that you do not deny the negative, you just embrace a paradigm that allows you to feel the emotion and move through it.

Cultivating A Growth Mindset

If we want to allow for a better expression of emotion, we need to move beyond basic questions such as, “How are you?”, “Are you ok?” or “What’s wrong?” While these are common phrases, they don’t allow people to express what they are truly feeling. Consider the following alternatives:<ul><li>It seems you are (angry), what happened that led you to feel that way?</li><li>Tell me more about what is going on for you right now?</li><li>This project will bring up a lot of unknowns. Let’s talk about everyone’s fears if we move forward.</li></ul>

Ask Thoughtful Questions

The real emotion (fear, anger, sadness, contempt) is often the very one we want to avoid. They often feel painful, and we lack the skills to proactively manage them. Holding space allows us to process and express our feelings when we are ready. When we leave room to recognize our feelings, we might ask a question, share a compassionate perspective or just be in silence. Getting more comfortable with negative emotions ensures that you are not countering every difficult feeling with a positive response.

Recognizing The Real, Natural Emotions

One of our previous consultants used to remind us: “You can’t tell your story while you are in it.” We often try and understand our situation too soon. Sometimes, we just need to be in the moment. Be okay with feeling sad. Be aware of our fears or recognize our anger. The lessons unfold over time.

Jumping To Conclusions

“Should” is a trigger word. When we say that we “should” or “shouldn’t” be feeling something, it is a clue that we are not ready to move forward from our emotional state. Stay with what is. Avoid shaming someone (or yourself) for feeling a certain way or brushing things off when they really are a big deal to youWhile “don’t worry and be happy” is great advice, don’t allow it to come at the expense of your true feelings. Emotions are your greatest teacher.

Look For Small Clues And Triggers

Here’s a leadership lesson you don’t often hear: “While ‘don’t worry and be happy’ is great advice, don’t allow it to come at the expense of your true feelings. Emotions are your greatest teacher.”


Understand yourself and those around you.

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Mental Health

How to handle negativity without being annoyingly positive

There is a kind of person who seems at first glance to have an admirable degree of self-motivation, thoroughness and drive. They are up at dawn, they rarely take holidays, they are always sneaking in an extra hour or two of work. 
Their bosses are highly impressed, they are constantly promoted, their grades have been excellent since primary school, they never miss an appointment or turn in a piece of work that is less than stellar.

The Perfectionist

Perfectionism, tragically, does not spring primarily from a love of perfection in and of itself. It has its origins in far more regrettable feeling of never being good enough. 
It is rooted in self-hatred, sparked by memories of being disapproved of or neglected by those who should have esteemed us warmly in childhood.

The Problem With Perfectionism

We become perfectionists from a primary sense of being unworthy; uninteresting, flawed, a disappointment, a let-down, a nuisance. So powerful is this sense, so appalling is its pressure on our psyches, we are prepared to do more or less anything to expunge it. 
Working all hours, currying favour with authority, doing twice as much as the next person – these are the tools with which we seek to cleanse our apparently undeserving selves. One part of the mind promises the other that the completion of the next challenge will finally usher in peace.

The Hidden Unworthiness

We aren’t interested in perfect work at all: we are trying to escape from a feeling of being awful people, and work simply happens to be the medium through which we strive to grow tolerable in our own eyes. But because our problem didn’t begin with work, work can never prove the solution. 
Our real goal is not, as we think, to be an ideal employee or professional, it is to feel acceptable. But responsibility for a sense of acceptance cannot be handed over to our bosses or customers or a ceaselessly demanding capitalist system; these will never let us rest easy.

The Hidden Truth

We need to allow ourselves to imagine that we deserved to be accepted from the start and that it cannot forever be our fault in our minds that we were not. It is not up to us to try to prove that we have a right to exist. It is asking too much of ourselves to have to experience a referendum on our legitimacy every time we hand in a report, every exam we have to pass, every customer we have to serve.
Working well is an admirable goal, but it becomes a symptom of mental perturbation when it becomes the cover for a secret aspiration to correct a deficit of early love

Get Real

How Perfectionism Makes Us Ill

Here's how conflict handling would work using the "SAS" rule:
<ul>
<li>Step 1: (S)tep back -- physically. This creates space between you and your colleague and sends the signal that you're not interested in further aggression or tension.</li>
<li>Step 2: (A)sk for a second to think about the situation logically. With a pause in the communication, ask yourself two critical questions: What is the most important fact on each side of the argument?</li>
<li>Step 3: (S)hare your realization with the other person calmly. Be sure you acknowledge both sides of the argument and how your emotion was coloring your communication.</li>
</ul>

The SAS Rule To Quickly Defuse Conflict

At this point, you may be able to continue a constructive conversation that reaches a peaceful resolution. If, however, there is still tension, ask to excuse yourself so both of you can calm down and rationally think about both sides of the argument.Follow up after a few hours (or days, depending on how much time you need) to calmly discuss the issue and come to a resolution. Be prepared to listen and, as needed, make a concession or compromise.

Follow Up And Listen

You can prepare an agenda for your follow-up or craft a statement of facts or beliefs that frame your side of the argument. Both of you should do this and share it with the other to review in advance. This avoids possible inflammatory statements at the moment and forces you to think about the other person's position.Overall, it's best to defuse these situations quickly and let the other person know you have no interest in conflict, but that you'd much rather listen, share, and come to an understanding calmly. It's the only way forward -- for the issue at hand and for your relationship.

Closure

Conflict appears in many forms, but we seldom are prepared to deal with it. Fortunately, this 3-step rule defuses tense situations and facilitates constructive resolution.

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Use The "S-A-S" Rule to Quickly Defuse Conflict & End Arguments 

1 Exercise on a Monday night (nothing fun happens on a Monday night).2 On the fence about a purchase? Wait 72 hours before you buy it.3 Tip: the quickest supermarket queue is always behind the fullest trolley (greeting, paying and packing take longer than you think).4 Bring fruit to work. Bring fruit to bed!5 Consider going down to four days a week. It’s likely a disproportionate amount of your fifth day’s work is taxed anyway, so you’ll lose way less than a fifth of your take-home pay.6 Everyone has an emotional blind spot when they fight. Work out what yours is, and remember it.

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7 Plant spring bulbs, even if they’re just in a pot.8 Send a voice note instead of a text; they sound like personal mini podcasts.9 Keep a bird feeder by a window, ideally the kitchen. It’ll pass the time when you’re washing up.10 Always bring ice to house parties (there’s never enough).11 Get the lighting right: turn off the overhead one, turn on lots of lamps (but turn off when you leave the room).12 Sharpen your knives.13 Feeling sluggish at work? Try the <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/small-business-network/2017/aug/18/productive-at-work-neuroscientists-advice-multitasking">Pomodoro technique</a>: 25 minutes on, five-minute break, and repeat.

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14 Buy a cheap blender and use it to finely chop onions (it saves on time and tears).15 Keep your children’s drawings and paintings. Put the best ones in frames.16 Set aside 10 minutes a day to do something you really enjoy – be it reading a book or playing Halo.17 Don’t be weird about how to stack the dishwasher.18 Reuse all plastic bags – even bread bags. Much of the packaging you can’t reuse can be taken to <a href="https://www.recyclenow.com/what-to-do-with/plastic-film">larger branches of supermarkets</a> for recycling.19 Take a photo of the tag you are given when leaving your coat in a cloakroom.

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20 Can’t sleep? Try a relaxing soak with lavender bath oil before bed.21 Add the milk at least one minute after the tea has brewed.22 Laugh shamelessly at your own jokes.23 It might sound obvious, but a pint of water before bed after a big night avoids a clanger of a hanger.24 Start a Saturday morning with some classical music – it sets the tone for a calm weekend.25 Look closely.26 Set time limits for your apps. Just go to the settings on your smartphone and add a limit – for example, if you have an iPhone <a href="https://support.apple.com/en-gb/guide/iphone/aside/iph7e81fd7d8/15.0/ios/15.0">turn on Screen Time</a>.27 If possible, take the stairs.

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28 Always be willing to miss the next train.29 Eat meat once a week, max. Ideally less.30 Be polite to rude strangers – it’s oddly thrilling.31 Ask questions, and listen to the answers.32 Connect with nature: stand outside barefoot for a few minutes – even when it’s cold.33 Join your local library – and use it. Find yours <a href="https://www.gov.uk/local-library-services">here</a>.34 Go for a walk without your phone.35 Eat salted butter (life’s too short for unsalted).36 Stretch in the morning. And maybe in the evening.

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37 If you’re going less than a mile, walk or cycle. About half of car journeys are under two miles, yet these <a href="https://www.greenchoices.org/green-living/transport/car-use#:~:text=Don't%20use%20a%20car%20for%20shorter%20journeys.&text=72%25%20of%20journeys%20are%20under,%2C%2050%25%20under%202%20miles.&text=Very%20short%20journeys%20are%20too,really%20don't%20need%20it!">create more pollution</a> than longer journeys as the engine isn’t warmed up yet.38 Sleep with your phone in a different room (and buy an alarm clock).39 Send postcards from your holidays. Send them even if you’re not on holiday.40 Instead of buying new shoes, get old ones resoled and buy new laces.41 Buy a plant. Think you’ll kill it? Buy a fake one.42 Don’t have Twitter on your phone.43 If you find an item of clothing you love and are certain you will wear for ever, buy three.

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44 Try taking a cold shower (30 seconds to two minutes) before your hot one. It’s good for your health – both physical and mental.45 Text to say thank you.46 Read a poem every day. Keep a compendium, such as <a href="https://guardianbookshop.com/a-poem-for-every-day-of-the-year-9781509860548">A Poem for Every Day of the Year</a>, by your bed.47 Take out your headphones when walking – listen to the world.48 Buy secondhand.49 Buy in person!50 Learn <a href="https://www.nhs.uk/common-health-questions/dental-health/why-should-i-use-dental-floss/">how to floss properly.</a>51 If something in the world is making you angry, <a href="https://members.parliament.uk/">write (politely) to your MP</a> – they will read it.52 Say hello to your neighbours.53 Learn the basics of repairing your clothes.

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54 Always bring something – wine, flowers – to a dinner/birthday party, even if they say not to.55 Learn the names of 10 trees.56 Call an old friend out of the blue.57 Every so often, search your email for the word “unsubscribe” and then use it on as many as you can.58 Buy a newspaper. (Ideally this one.)59 Always have dessert.60 Drop your shoulders.61 Make something from scratch. Works best if it’s something you’d normally buy, such as a dress or a bag.62 Go to bed earlier – but don’t take your phone with you.63 Volunteer. ​​Go to gov.uk/government/get-involved for ideas.

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64 Dry your cutlery with a cloth (it keeps it shiny).65 Instead of buying a morning coffee, set up a daily transfer of £2 from a current into a savings account and forget about it. Use it to treat yourself to something different later.66 Don’t save things for “best”. Wear them – enjoy them.67 Sing!68 Think about your posture: don’t slouch, and don’t cross your legs.69 Hang your clothes up. Ideally on non-wire hangers (it’s better for them).70 Skinny-dip with friends.71 Switch your phone off on holiday (or at least delete your work email app).72 Always use freshly ground pepper.

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73 Thank a teacher who changed your life.74 Respect your youngers.75 Keep your keys in the same place.76 Ditch the plastic cartons and find a milkman – <a href="https://themodernmilkman.co.uk/">The Modern Milkman</a> has a comprehensive list.77 Rent rather than buy a suit/dress for that forthcoming wedding (even if it’s your own).78 Always book an extra day off after a holiday.79 Ignore the algorithm – listen to music outside your usual taste.80 Mute or leave a WhatsApp group chat.81 Learn a TikTok dance (but don’t post it on TikTok).82 Cook something you’ve never attempted before.83 Join a local litter-picking group.

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84 Handwash that thing you’ve never cleaned.85 Don’t get a pet/do get a pet.86 Nap.87 Learn how to breathe deeply: in through the nose, out through the mouth, making the exhale longer than the inhale.88 Buy a bike and use it. Learn how to fix it, too.89 Politely decline invitations if you don’t want to go.90 If you do go, have an exit strategy (can we recommend a French exit, where you slip out unseen).91 If in doubt, add cheese.92 Don’t look at your phone at dinner.93 Do that one thing you’ve been putting off.

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94 Give compliments widely and freely.95 Set up an affordable standing order to a charity. <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/world/2021/jul/29/rnli-donations-soar-in-response-to-farages-migrant-criticism">RNLI</a> and <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2021/nov/27/successions-plot-twist-prompts-thousands-to-leave-money-to-greenpeace-in-their-wills">Greenpeace</a> spring to mind …96 Keep a book in your bag to avoid the temptation to doomscroll.97 Listen to the albums you loved as a teenager.98 Make a friend from a different generation.99 Staying over at a friend’s place? Strip the bed in the morning.100 For instant cheer, wear yellow.

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Some quirky and fun ideas to brighten up your 2022, although there is a British slant on a few of them, I think there is something for everyone here. I've put my favourite ideas or ones I'd like to try this year in bold.

Whether it’s taking fruit to work (and to the bedroom!), being polite to rude strangers or taking up skinny-dipping, here’s a century of ways to make life better, with little effort involved …

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Time Management

100 ways to slightly improve your life without really trying

<ul><li>​You want the "honeymoon" to last forever</li><li>You try to please your partner and have their needs met all the time</li><li>After a fight, you are worried that they will change their mind about you or that the relationship is falling apart</li><li>You view conflict as a failure</li><li>You work really hard to make the relationship work</li><li>You place a lot of expectations on yourself and you exhaust yourself trying to meet them</li><li>You are hyper-vigilant, always looking for mistakes</li><li>You overanalyse the significance of small setbacks in your relationship</li><li>You have a lot of rules and theories on "how to be a perfect partner"</li></ul>

Perfectionism Test

Consider how it’s affecting your own happiness or preventing you from reaching your goals.

Recognize the costs of perfectionism

Among the benefits are increased self-confidence and getting more enjoyment out of life.

Learn the benefits of imperfection

You may be fearful of what would happen if you did not set such high standards. This is part of the all-or-none thinking in perfectionism. It is highly doubtful that your behavior would shift to the other extreme of being sloppy or lazy if you stopped being a perfectionist, although this is a common fear.

Recognize the fears behind perfectionism

A self-compassionate person can allow themselves to make a mistake and learn from it, rather than self-criticize. If you do recall trauma in your early life, know that your perfectionism is likely one result of that trauma. Journal your negative self-talk and correct them with more compassionate and realistic statements.

Practice self compassion

A good-enough outcome gets the job done, which is often more important than getting it done perfectly.

Start focusing on being "good enough

How to recognize it and what to do about it.

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Love & Relationships

How to Cope with Perfectionism When It Harms You and Your Relationships

We spend much of our day on autopilot not giving much thought to what we are doing with our time. This is a problem. We should adopt the habit of pausing before action and asking, "What makes the most sense right now ?". Hence,you should schedule every minute of your day. Without structure,its easy to allow you to waste your time on social media,web surfing. To summarise, the motivation for this strategy is to recognise that deep work requires you to treat your time with respect. Scheduling every minute of the day is a simple habit that helps you to manage your time and maintain productivity.

Schedule Every Minute Of Your Day

Read the Wall Street Journal Bestseller for "cultivating intense focus" for fast, powerful performance results for achieving success and true meaning in one's professional life (Adam Grant, author of Give and Take). Deep work is the ability to focus without distraction on a cognitively demanding task. It's a skill that allows you to quickly master complicated information and produce better results in less time. Deep Work will make you better at what you do and provide the sense of true fulfillment that comes from craftsmanship. In short, deep work is like a super power in our increasingly competitive twenty-first century economy. And yet, most people have lost the ability to go deep-spending their days instead in a frantic blur of e-mail and social media, not even realizing there's a better way. In Deep Work, author and professor Cal Newport flips the narrative on impact in a connected age. Instead of arguing distraction is bad, he instead celebrates the power of its opposite. Dividing this book into two parts, he first makes the case that in almost any profession, cultivating a deep work ethic will produce massive benefits. He then presents a rigorous training regimen, presented as a series of four "rules," for transforming your mind and habits to support this skill. 1. Work Deeply 2. Embrace Boredom 3. Quit Social Media 4. Drain the Shallows A mix of cultural criticism and actionable advice, Deep Work takes the reader on a journey through memorable stories-from Carl Jung building a stone tower in the woods to focus his mind, to a social media pioneer buying a round-trip business class ticket to Tokyo to write a book free from distraction in the air-and no-nonsense advice, such as the claim that most serious professionals should quit social media and that you should practice being bored. Deep Work is an indispensable guide to anyone seeking focused success in a distracted world. An Amazon Best Book of 2016 Pick in Business & Leadership Wall Street Journal Business Bestseller A Business Book of the Week at 800-CEO-READ

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Master one of our economy’s most rare skills and achieve groundbreaking results with this “exciting” book (Daniel H. Pink) from an “exceptional” author (New York Times Book Review). Deep work is the ability to focus without distraction on a cognitively demanding task. It's a skill that allows you to quickly master complicated information and produce better results in less time. Deep Work will make you better at what you do and provide the sense of true fulfillment that comes from craftsmanship. In short, deep work is like a super power in our increasingly competitive twenty-first century economy. And yet, most people have lost the ability to go deep-spending their days instead in a frantic blur of e-mail and social media, not even realizing there's a better way. In Deep Work, author and professor Cal Newport flips the narrative on impact in a connected age. Instead of arguing distraction is bad, he instead celebrates the power of its opposite. Dividing this book into two parts, he first makes the case that in almost any profession, cultivating a deep work ethic will produce massive benefits. He then presents a rigorous training regimen, presented as a series of four "rules," for transforming your mind and habits to support this skill. 1. Work Deeply 2. Embrace Boredom 3. Quit Social Media 4. Drain the Shallows A mix of cultural criticism and actionable advice, Deep Work takes the reader on a journey through memorable stories-from Carl Jung building a stone tower in the woods to focus his mind, to a social media pioneer buying a round-trip business class ticket to Tokyo to write a book free from distraction in the air-and no-nonsense advice, such as the claim that most serious professionals should quit social media and that you should practice being bored. Deep Work is an indispensable guide to anyone seeking focused success in a distracted world. An Amazon Best Book of 2016 Pick in Business & Leadership Wall Street Journal Business Bestseller A Business Book of the Week at 800-CEO-READ

Cal Newport is Provost’s Distinguished Professor of Computer Science at Georgetown University, and the author of seven books. His ideas and writing are frequently featured in major publications and on TV and radio.From his website: "I write about the intersection of digital technology and culture. I’m particularly interested in our struggle to deploy these tools in ways that support instead of subvert the things we care about in both our personal and professional lives."

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Humans have a tendency to believe things that aren't true.Especially upon repeated exposure.It's called the "Illusory Truth Effect"

Illusory Truth Effect

First, some background...In 1977, researchers from Villanova and Temple were the first to coin the term.Over a five-week period, separated into 3 sessions, participants were given a list of 60 statements.Their task? Determine what was true & what was false.

In each session, 40 statements were unique, while the remaining 20 were repeated from the previous rounds.Over the course of the three meetings, researchers noticed an interesting trend.Participants' belief in the validity of the 40 unique questions remained relatively static.However, when it came to the 20 repeated questions, things changed.Plausibility rankings increased with each subsequent round.But why?

Let's think about how we assess truth.In general, humans determine info to be true based on 1 of 2 factors:• Does this statement align with my previously held belief or understanding? (Rationale)OR• Have I come in contact with this information before?(Familiarity)

What researchers determined may surprise you.Familiarity > Rationale when it comes to determining truth.The more times you're exposed to data –regardless of its validity– the more likely you are to believe it. What's even more interesting?

It doesn't matter what you believed before.Researchers found that even in instances where people initially believed the information to be false –– repeated exposure caused them to change their mind. Now that we understand the problem, how do we solve it?

First: Avoiding the "Illusory Truth Effect" is hard. Most of the time we're not even aware it's happening.This is especially true when information is outside our circle of competence.Thus, in order to overcome it, we must be proactive.Time to train our brains...

You've got to start thinking critically. Although it might seem like an obvious answer, "Critical Thinking" is a skill that takes practice and effort to do well.We're going to break it down into 4 components to make it easier.

#1 TruthRemember, the goal here is to determine what is true, but let's invert the question.When given new information ask:•What sounds false?•What sounds incomplete?•What sounds slanted based on an opinion?"Everyone says so" ≠ Truth

#2 SourceWe must take time to pause and consider the source of information.•Are they credible?•What do they have to gain?•Considered a subject matter expert?•Have they been historically accurate? The source matters.

#3 AssumptionsCentral to critical thinking is the consideration of assumptions.Why?Assumptions are generally believed to be implied and are often not stated outright.In fact, without critical thinking, we may not even be aware that they exist.Often viewed as familiar or obvious, assumptions tend to make people more comfortable with their current line of thinking.Comfort leads to complacency.When we become complacent, we become unable to objectively consider alternatives.Ask: What am I assuming?

#4 AlternativesThe ability to consider alternative schools of thought is a forcing function for determining the truth.As the saying goes, "before you judge a man, walk a mile in his shoes."This idiom can also be applied to our judgment of truth.Consider the thought process, experiences, and point of view of the information source.Unlock the ability to "see through someone else's eyes." Considering alternatives often leads to the truth being different than what you originally expected.

Last...While researching this thread, I came across two quotes I'd like to share in closing:"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth." - Henry David Thoreau.

Isa Blagden (East Indian Poet born in the 1800's)"If a lie is only printed often enough, it becomes a quasi-truth, & if such a truth is repeated often enough, it becomes an article of belief, a dogma, and men will die for it."

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