If you login to Instagram right now and search for #depression, you’ll see a warning. It reads: “Posts with words you’re searching for often encourage behavior that can cause harm and even lead to death.”You can bypass this warning and see the tagged posts. Or you can click on a “Get Support” button that leads you to depression-focused resources or recommendations. The first of those recommendations is “Talk to a Friend.” It encourages you to call or text someone you trust.

Social media may be dangerous

According to reporting from CNET, Instagram and other social media sites first started to implement these warnings last year. They began by flagging content related to eating disorders and negative body image, and have since expanded the program to depression and other forms of psychological distress.The fact that social sites like Instagram are directing vulnerable people away from their platforms and toward real-world connections may not seem like a big deal. But it is a big admission.

The REPORT

For years, some researchers — notably Jean Twenge, PhD, at San Diego State University — have been trying to warn us that social media can be risky, perhaps especially for young people or those with mental health challenges. But social media’s defenders have often argued that these platforms allow vulnerable or marginalized people to connect with others like themselves, which is surely a good thing.This defense was always speculative. There is very little evidence indicating that social media-based support groups or communities are beneficial.

Advice From Experts

Also, researchers have found that members of vulnerable groups may feel better after spending time away from social media. For example, a 2020 study on LGBTQ youths who attended a social media-free summer camp found “across the board” reductions in depressive symptoms among those teens who’d spent the most time on social before attending the camp. “When we’re vulnerable we tend to reach out via social media, but those are also the times when social media may present the biggest challenges for us,” says Brian Primack, a professor of public health and medicine at the University of Arkansas.

Researches 

If you can’t stay away from social media, Primack recommends trying to limit your time on it as much as possible. If you’re a heavy user, trying to trim your habit to less than two hours a day may be beneficial, his research suggests.He also offers this advice: “Focus on small groups, including chat clusters with one or a few people at a time. This can help you focus on the people you feel closest to.” In other words, try to make your time on social media more like a real-world gathering with friends.

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Social Media, Like Alcohol, May Be Riskier When You’re Vulnerable

Questions That Help You Understand Yourself and Your True  Potential

Question Yourself

When you don’t take the time to understand yourself and who you are, your sense of individuality weakens. You become easily influenced and pushed into a lifestyle that doesn’t represent who you are. The good news is you can gradually transition into the life you want by periodically “checking in” with yourself – the better you understand yourself, the easier it will be to steer your life in the right direction.

Make sure you’re really an extrovert and not an introvert in an extrovert’s clothing.

1. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?

Highlight your key personality traits and stay true to who you are.

2. What are the top five words that describe your personality?

Are you comfortable or uncomfortable in a disorganized environment?Define the ideal work/home environments you’re known to thrive in.

3. Are you comfortable or uncomfortable

Decide how you feel about uncertainty and how you’ll use it to create your ideal lifestyle.

4. Are you comfortable with taking risks?

When you know what your most productive work environment consists of, it will help you find (or create) a job that best suits your preferences.

5. Do you work better alone or in a busy environment?

Define what your strengths are and how you’re going to use them to your advantage.

6. What are your strengths?

Acknowledge what you struggle with and how you want to improve.

7. What are your weaknesses?

Know your quirks and charm your ass off with them.

8. What sets you apart from everyone else? 

Define what your ideal competition/collaboration formula is for optimal productivity.

9. Are you motivated by competition?

Disregard what’s trending and define the types of movies/shows/books you’ll always enjoy. It speaks volumes of your personality.

10. What are your favorite movies/shows/books?

Questions That Help You Understand Yourself and Your True Potential

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Questions That Help You Understand Yourself and Your True Potential

Lol. This is like elementary school all over again. We need to make friends because we need friends. While old friends are , nothing stays the same forever. They move away or have their time taken up by child-rearing or their careers. Without friends, loneliness can quietly grow around you and chronic loneliness <a href="https://theconversation.com/loneliness-on-its-way-to-becoming-britains-most-lethal-condition-94775">can be lethal </a>— the equivalent impact of 15 <a href="https://www.inverse.com/article/61231-smoking-addiction-brain-cell-change">cigarettes </a>a day on mortality rates.

Why Do We Need To Make Friends

1. The Lack of TrustResearch shows people found it harder to put their trust in someone new and fully invest in them as a friend compared to when they were younger. Especially the women. As adults, we have greater self-awareness than children. While that is often positive, it also means we’re more aware of the risks of being judged, of being rejected and of other people not having the purest of intentions. We've all seen and heard of the nasty things people could do with what little informafion they get from you.

Why Is It Hard To Make Friends

For most of us, obligations increase with age: demanding work schedules, involved family lives and so on; with these obligations it can be hard to carve out time to invest in a promising new friend-- to really get to know them and to share a part of you with them.

Lack Of Time

So how long does it take for people to become friends? US researchers have tried to quantify this: roughly 50 hrs of shared contact for acquaintances to become casual friends. More than 200 hrs to become close friends? Even longer in Asian countries where personal connection is important, professional interactions with colleagues don't count and casual check-ins and joking around are just as important.

How Long Does It Take For People To Become Friends

There are many other barriers stopping us from having the friendships we want. <ul><li>Having an introverted personality</li><li>health barriers</li><li>personal insecurities</li><li>maintaining a formal facade and not allowing potential friends in (fornfear of rejection)</li><li>Illness and disability (Older people) </li></ul>

Other barriers Preventing Us From Forming Friendships 

1. BUILD FRIENDSHIPS FOR TEN MINUTES A DAYTen min a day may be all you need to maintain existing friendships and build new ones. Send a text, forward a meme, add to the group chat or give someone a quick call. 2. MAKE THE MOST OF ANY TIME SPENT WITH POTENTIAL FRIENDSWhen you do get the chance to properly spend time with a friend or acquaintance, make the most of it and be present. Avoid distractions if possible, keep social media for the couch at home.

How Can We Get Better At Making Friends

Yes, there is a risk in being vulnerable – but there is also the potential to connect on a meaningful level with another person who may very well become a good friend. You are in control of how much you trust and how much you open up. If you struggle with trust, share personal information slowly. A friend who truly likes you wouldn't pry.

3. LEAN INTO YOUR VULNERABILITY

Research suggests chronic loneliness can be lethal-the equivalent impact of 15 cigarettes a day on mortality rates

Many people try to keep their circle of old friends as long as possible, given the trust they may have built up over many years.

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<a href="https://www.cnbc.com/2021/11/07/overused-words-and-phrases-that-make-you-sound-weak-less-confident-according-to-grammar-experts.html">Confidence </a>isn’t a trait you’re born with. Its something we build and get better at every day with continuous practice.But sometimes we need to display confidence at a snap of a finger. Here are some of my favorite psychological tricks to instantly look and feel more confident in front of other people:

So uuhhm, say what you want to say minus the weak words and expressions like "I think", "I'm not sure" and "in my opinion" for ones that puts you in charge of the thought, and make you come across as more calm and capable.

Don't Use Words And Expressions That Make You Sound Unsure

Right before you do something you feel nervous about, try going back to a previous experience where you had an optimal level of energy, focus and achievement.Replay and review the event in your mind. What were you doing? Who was there? What was the response you got from others? How did you feel when it was over?Take that positive energy and confidence with you back to the present.

Reminisce a Time When You Felt Confident

Confidence comes from believing in yourself, your own abilities, and where you are in your personal journey. Don’t go on social media when you’re feeling unsure of yourself or when you’re about to do something challenging. Its so easy to fall prey to posts that for the most part do not reflect reality. Comparing yourself to people who are only sharing the “glamorous” side of their lives makes it difficult to clearly see the positive side of yours. Instead, grab a journal and write about the things you’ve accomplished that you’re proud of.

Get Off Social Media. Right Now!

<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2012/04/03/science/clothes-and-self-perception.html">Studies </a>have shown that the clothes we wear can effect our cognitive processes. They can increase our performance and heighten other people’s impressions of us.Whatever it may be: a dress, a suit, a pair of jeans, or piece of jewelry that makes you feel fabulous and powerful; put it on and transform yourself into the most confident and powerful version of you.

Put On Your 'Super Hero Suit'

Sometimes we need a quick confidence-booster

Need to feel confident quickly? A psychotherapist shares some mental hacks to make you appear more self-empowered and confident in front of others.

Psychotherapist-backed Tricks to Instantly Look and Feel More Confident

Do you ever heard about "Sandwich Generation"? It must sound novel. Sandwich generation is designation given to people who must fulfill the needs of a large family. Like a sandwich, it has many layers. Themselves, parents, and children. They have to take care of their elderly parents. At the same time, there are children who must be raised to adulthood. Sandwich generation is often found in developing countries, where a person's relationship with their family is so thick.

Definition of Sandwich Generation

A married person has a great tendency to become the sandwich generation. They will become parents, it means their daily needs will increase.They have to buy milk, vitamins, nutritious food for their children. They must provide a decent home to live in and also a good school. If they still have parents, they have to make sure their parents are always in good condition, have regular health check-ups, and pay for treatment.

Who can be "Sandwich Generation"?

The "Sandwich Generation" will feel a lot of pressure that triggers problems. Starting from work, social relationship, personality, to mental health. They feel tired quickly, offended, difficult to talk to, but don't know why their emotions go up and down. They just feel tired.

Pressure

As the sandwich generation, you need to change the mindset that life isn't always difficult. You still have time to do what you want to do. You can take your time as much as you can. Having a lot of burdens is not easy, but it can be done by managing income as well as possible, living a simple lifestyle to allocating funds for saving and investing.When you need a vacation to recharge, spend time with family, of course you can with a simple vacation plan. It doesn't spend a lot of money. This condition will make you smarter in managing finances, but still have quality time.

As a Sandwich Generation

"Sandwich Generation"

A new phone and repeated Operating System crashes is similar to a To-Do LIST (TDL) in your life.To-Do lists compel you to make promises of tasks that have to be done by dawn, making the undone tasks seem larger in size and longer in time. This repeats, often a cycle leaving the feeling on NOT GETTING ENOUGH DONE even though To-Do Lists are supposed to make you feel more productive.

Checkboxes need Promises

TDL in life is like running it on Windown 95. We need to shed the stress and toxic guilt of not checking off boxes.You'll find using schedule builders to make a weekly timeboxed calendar instead of relying on a to-do list is the right way to go. But why?<ol><li>To-Do Lists Perpetuate Harmful Self-Stereotypes</li><li>To-Do Lists Lead to Distraction</li><li>To-Do Lists Destroy the Fun in Life</li><li>The Best To-Do List is One you Make with a Schedule Builder</li></ol>

I love my TDL!

Time management practices, like any tool comes down to how it's used. A hammer can be used to build a house or bash someone’s head. With using to-do lists, getting tasks onto a piece of paper, or into an app, is a good thing. You start the workday with your to-do list, checking off boxes, maybe the wrong way to use this tool.It's a broken Operating System and you've got to update it. Here's why.

Broken OS? My Life?

Isn't it easier to add things to your TDL than to actually do them?Not finishing them, we'd blame ourselves and our inability. But this negative self-talk reinforced a kind of stereotype that makes it less likely to accomplish goals.Long-term adherence to a new set of actions necessitates seeing ourselves differently. Behavior change requires identity change. If you don't want to procrastinate, don't make promises to yourself you'll break, be indistractable.

To-Do Lists Perpetuate Harmful Self-Stereotypes

Having constant reminders of what you didn't do, cements a self-stereotype. You'll start to see yourself differently, for weeks or months.Don't stick to the cycle of "I'll finish it tomorrow, what's one more day?". The narrative will slowly change from , from"I'm not good with deadlines" (what we do) to "I must have a short attention span" (who we are).We begin to see ourselves as the problem and buy into a self-fulfilling prophecy, like from being 'easily distracted' to 'bad at managing time'.

I'll do it tomorrow, it's fine.

The opposite of 'distraction' is not focus, it's 'traction', and both are actions we decide to take and not things that happen to us. We cannot call something a distraction unless we know what it is distracting us from. If you knew you had a big project and need to meet your deadlines, glancing at your TDL gives you permission to escape into doing something else. Then you'll probably not feel like doing important tasks or keep putting it off or reconstruct your TDL.

To-Do Lists Lead to Distraction?

TDL's allow us to get distracted by easy or urgent tasks at the expense of important work. Not giving enough time to our important tasks, we justify it by telling ourselves “there isn’t enough time left anyway,” or “I’m not in the mood,” or “I’ll definitely get to it tomorrow”.Then deadlines loom over us and we realize we could've done better work with lesser stress if we just prioritized. We allowed the to-do list to distract us with frivolous tasks that gave us the deceptive feeling of being productive when we didn’t feel like doing what we said we would.

Let's do This Instead!

TDL's honestly occupy our minds like a hostile army, stressing us out and unfinished tasks invade thoughts and leisure time.Some studies and their conclusions:<ol><li>Thinking about what we “should” be doing, can kill the enjoyment of life’s important pleasures.</li><li>Mothers and fathers in many Western nations spend <a href="https://www.economist.com/graphic-detail/2017/11/27/parents-now-spend-twice-as-much-time-with-their-children-as-50-years-ago">significantly more time</a> with their children than previous generations.</li><li>Even though Americans have time to watch on average nearly <a href="https://www.nielsen.com/us/en/insights/article/2018/time-flies-us-adults-now-spend-nearly-half-a-day-interacting-with-media/">five hours of television every day</a>, they report feeling busier.</li></ol>We've simply forgotten how wonderful it feels to have the peace of mind.

To-Do Lists Destroy the Fun in Life

Upgrade your life OS and <a href="https://www.nirandfar.com/schedule-maker/">build a weekly schedule</a> instead. An effective approach is “setting an <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Implementation_intention#:~:text=An%20implementation%20intention%20(II)%20is,portions%20of%20goal%2Ddirected%20behavior.">implementation intention</a>,” a fancy term for deciding what you’re going to do and when you’re going to do it.Plan in advance how you intend to spend your time to know your tractions and distractions that way and even have time for yourself and others while affirming your self-image.

The Best To-Do List is One you Make with a Schedule Builder

Try to have as programmed a day as you possibly can. You have the same 24 hours in the day as me. Keeping a schedule makes it possible to devote your precious hours to the things that matter most to you.We can all upgrade our life operating systems and learn better ways of getting more out of our day. And fortunately, this upgrade is free.

Make the Switch

I swear by To-Do Lists on my Post-Its, only to realize I plan more than I can execute. Keep it time-bound and task-oriented, rather than a list of checkboxes. 

It’s time to shed the constant stress and toxic guilt of not checking off enough little boxes on your to-do list.

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Habits are the small decisions you make and actions you perform every day. The way your life plays out is guided by thousands of habits that make most of your decisions for you. Good habits happen when we set ourselves up for success.Here are some tips  for forming new healthy habits.<ul><li>Stack your Habits.</li><li>Start Small</li><li>Do it Everyday</li><li>Make it Easy</li><li>Reward Yourself</li></ul>

How to Build Healthy Habits 

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When you show yourself to the world and display your talents, you naturally stir all kinds of resentment, envy, and other manifestations of insecurity... you cannot spend your life worrying about the petty feelings of others

If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity﻿ is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.

Keep your friends for friendship, but work with the skilled and competent

Do not leave your reputation to chance or gossip; it is your life's artwork, and you must craft it, hone it, and display it with the care of an artist.

Never waste valuable time, or mental peace of mind, on the affairs of others—that is too high a price to pay.

Strike the shepherd and the sheep will scatter

Framing a craft from the scraps out of you with us ...🥰

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The 48 Laws of Power Quotes

• Factfulness is about the ten instincts that distort our perspective of the world and prevent us from seeing how it actually is.10 Instincts That DISTORT Our Perspective Are:1. The Gap Instinct2. The Negativity Instinct3. The Straight Line Instinct4. The Fear Instinct5. The Size Instinct6. The Generalization Instinct7. The Destiny Instinct8. The Single Perspective9. The Blame Instinct10. The Urgency Instinct

Short Summary

Our tendency to divide things into two distinct and often conflicting groups with an imagined gap between them (e.g. us and them).

The Gap Instinct

Our tendency to notice the bad more than the good (e.g. believing that things are getting worse when things are actually getting better).

The Negativity Instinct

Our tendency to assume that a line will just continue straight and ignoring that such lines are RARE in reality.

The Straight Line Instinct

Our hardwired tendency to pay more attention to frightening things.

The Fear Instinct.

Our tendency to get things out of proportion, or misjudge the size of things .

The Size Instinct

Our tendency to mistakenly group together things or people, or countries that are actually very different.

The Generalization Instinct

The idea that innate characteristics determine the destinies of people, countries, religions, or cultures; that things are as they are because of INESCAPABLE reasons.

The Destiny Instinct

Our tendency to focus on a single cause or perspective when it comes to understanding the world (e.g. forming your worldview by relying on the media, alone).

The Single Perspective

Our tendency to find a clear, simple reason for why something bad has happened.

The Blame Instinct

Our tendency to take immediate action in the face of perceived imminent danger, and in doing so, amplifying our other instincts.

The Urgency Instinct

“Forming your worldview by relying on the media would be like forming your view about me by looking only at a picture of my foot.” ― Hans Rosling

'One of the most important books I've ever read - an indispensable guide to thinking clearly about the world' BILL GATES 'A hopeful book about the potential for human progress when we work off facts rather than our inherent biases' BARACK OBAMA The international bestseller, inspiring and revelatory, filled with lively anecdotes and moving stories, Factfulness is an urgent and essential book that will change the way you see the world, and make you realise things are better than you thought. *#1 Sunday Times bestseller * New York Times bestseller * Observer 'best brainy book of the decade' * Irish Times bestseller * audiobook bestseller * Guardian bestseller *

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INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER “One of the most important books I’ve ever read—an indispensable guide to thinking clearly about the world.” – Bill Gates “Hans Rosling tells the story of ‘the secret silent miracle of human progress’ as only he can. But Factfulness does much more than that. It also explains why progress is so often secret and silent and teaches readers how to see it clearly.” —Melinda Gates "Factfulness by Hans Rosling, an outstanding international public health expert, is a hopeful book about the potential for human progress when we work off facts rather than our inherent biases." - Former U.S. President Barack Obama Factfulness: The stress-reducing habit of only carrying opinions for which you have strong supporting facts. When asked simple questions about global trends—what percentage of the world’s population live in poverty; why the world’s population is increasing; how many girls finish school—we systematically get the answers wrong. So wrong that a chimpanzee choosing answers at random will consistently outguess teachers, journalists, Nobel laureates, and investment bankers. In Factfulness, Professor of International Health and global TED phenomenon Hans Rosling, together with his two long-time collaborators, Anna and Ola, offers a radical new explanation of why this happens. They reveal the ten instincts that distort our perspective—from our tendency to divide the world into two camps (usually some version of us and them) to the way we consume media (where fear rules) to how we perceive progress (believing that most things are getting worse). Our problem is that we don’t know what we don’t know, and even our guesses are informed by unconscious and predictable biases. It turns out that the world, for all its imperfections, is in a much better state than we might think. That doesn’t mean there aren’t real concerns. But when we worry about everything all the time instead of embracing a worldview based on facts, we can lose our ability to focus on the things that threaten us most. Inspiring and revelatory, filled with lively anecdotes and moving stories, Factfulness is an urgent and essential book that will change the way you see the world and empower you to respond to the crises and opportunities of the future. --- “This book is my last battle in my life-long mission to fight devastating ignorance...Previously I armed myself with huge data sets, eye-opening software, an energetic learning style and a Swedish bayonet for sword-swallowing. It wasn’t enough. But I hope this book will be.” Hans Rosling, February 2017.

Hans Rosling (1948 – 2017) was a Swedish physician, academic, statistician, and public speaker.He was the Professor of International Health at Karolinska Institute and was the co-founder and chairman of the Gapminder Foundation, which developed the Trendalyzer software. He held presentations around the world, including several TED Talks in which he promoted the use of data to explore development issues.

Hans Rosling

Ola Rosling is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Ola Rosling has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Ola Rosling's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Ola Rosling

Anna Rosling Rönnlund is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Anna Rosling Rönnlund has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Anna Rosling Rönnlund's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Anna Rosling Rönnlund

Factfulness

Once people surpass the pointat which they think people will judge andridicule them for their success (as opposedto praise them for it), they promptly cutthemselves off, or at minimum severelydownplay/minimize it so as to keep them-selves in good standing with those fromwhom they desire approval. (It's ultimatelynot that people value ego and material overlove, but that they think those things willearn them love.)

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Brianna Wiest is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Brianna Wiest has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Brianna Wiest's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

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