Self-acceptance refers to acknowledging and embracing all aspects of oneself, including strengths, weaknesses, successes, and failures. It involves a realistic appraisal of who you are and a willingness to embrace your true self without undue criticism or self-judgment

Pros1. Improved Mental Health2. Authenticity and Integrity3. Personal Growth4. Better Decision Making5. Improved Physical Health_________________________________ Cons 1. Complacency Risk2. Social Misunderstanding3. Balancing Acceptance and Ambition4. Difficulty in Initiating Change

Pros&Cons of Self-Acceptance:

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Self-acceptance 

You're not a procrastinator. You have a habit of procrastinating. Big difference.

One might think that procrastination is about the thing or task which one is procrastinating around, mostly at work. Mel Robbins postulates that, in fact, procrastination has nothing to do with work.

Misconception about procrastination

Apart from work, we tend to have a lot of things going in our lives, like fights with our significant others, ill family members, financial concerns and so on. Whatever problems we have, we carry them with us all the time, no matter where we are or what we do. Now, imagine going to work with this big stress ball subconsciously hanging over your head, knowing you have many tasks ahead of you, easy ones as well as those that make you uncomfortable like phone calls with some higher ups. For a while you keep yourself busy with easy work, but sooner or later you need to make those calls.

The root cause of procrastination: Stress

That is the moment your brain kicks in like "Wait a minute, you want me to make a call to somebody whom I'm afraid of? Absolutely not! Let's just watch some cat videos for a minute, will we?" And next thing you know, one hour has passed. The moment you realize it, you tend to beat yourself up, only making things worse by adding even more stress.

Procrastination is a form of (instant) stress relief

The good news: This behavior is learned, meaning it is a habit and not a bad personality trait. Habits can be broken with a science based approach.To break this habit of procrastinating (e. g. seeking short dopamine kicks to avoid negative emotions), one first needs to know the structure of habits, which consist of three elements: <ol><li class="ql-align-justify">Trigger: In case of procrastination the trigger is always stress, according to Mel Robbins.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Repeated behavioral pattern (e. g. habit): Here, it is the procrastination itself, meaning avoiding something.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Reward: The reward of procrastination is a little stress relief.</li></ol>

Breaking out of the procrastination cycle: Understanding the structure of habits

To break a bad habit, you must change at least one of the three components. In case of procrastination, this can only be the behavior pattern itself, as the trigger – stress – will always be present. So, the next time you catch yourself checking your phone or busying yourself with insignificant tasks instead of doing what matters, do the following steps: Acknowledge the stress, redirect your attention and interrupt the procrastination habit.

Breaking out of the procrastination cycle: Three-steps-plan to beat procrastination

Stop what you are doing and say to yourself "Oh, I must be stressed about something." Recognizing your emotional state is the initial step towards altering your behavior.

1. Acknowledge the stress

Now, count 5-4-3-2-1 to wake up your prefrontal cortex (e. g. breaking the autopilot). A habit is something we do in autopilot mode, letting our subconsciousness lead the way. Counting backwards reactivates our conscious mind and interrupts the pattern.

2. Redirect your attention

Focus on one task and work on it for just five minutes. The reason why you should work for only five minutes is to remind yourself that work is not the problem but the habit of avoiding. You just need to start to disrupt the avoidance pattern. Another positive effect: Based on research, 80 % of people who manage to start working for only five minutes are going to continue their work.

3. Interrupt the procrastination habit

This short video delves into the idea that procrastination is more of a behavior pattern than a inherent aspect of a person's character, indicating that it can be addressed using a method rooted in scientific understanding.

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If you keep finding yourself stuck in that loop of stress and avoiding the things you know you need to do, WATCH THIS. 

I give you my tools for dealing with procrastination… I know they’ll work for you too.

If you struggle with procrastination, you're not alone. Research from a PhD at the University of Calgary found that 80–95% of college students are procrastinators. 

There's also nothing wrong with you. You don't lack willpower, drive, and focus. It also has nothing to do with your work and your ability to get it done. 

If you beat yourself up for procrastinating, that ends now. And here's why:

You're looking at procrastination wrong. Rather than a trait or sign of motivation, it's simply a habit.

A habit that comes about in response to life stress.

In this video, learn the only way you can break the habit of procrastination–for good. This simple 4-step strategy will help you stop procrastinating and in the process make you happier and less stressed.

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The ONLY Way To Stop Procrastinating | Mel Robbins

If we could learn to handle our envy correctly, if we think it through with sympathy and skill, then it could play a key role in alerting us to what we genuinely want. Envious thinking can be the gateway to deeper self-knowledge and a profound understanding of our underlying ambitions.

Envy - A Warning To Know Our True Ambitions

We feel envy when someone else has access to an area of happiness that eludes us. The natural response to this feeling is shame; we feel we lack the generosity of spirit to celebrate their achievement. Perhaps we feel guilty for not sufficiently appreciating the lot we have. Yet envy, while uncomfortable, provides us with a message from confused but important parts of our personality about what we should be doing.

Think What Makes You Envious

Instead of trying to repress our envy, we should examine it. Each person we envy is a piece of the jigsaw puzzle that is our future. There is a portrait of a ‘true self’ waiting to be assembled out of the envious hints we receive when we turn the pages of a newspaper or hear updates about the successes of old school friends or witness a friend’s excitement about a new career move. We should calmly ask one essential and redemptive question of all those we envy: ‘What could I learn about here?’

Act On The Emotion?

How Can the infamous emotion, 'Envy', be our friend?

A guide to identifying, nurturing and growing our insight and creativity for more effective thinking. We know that our minds are capable of great things because, every now and then, they come out with a very brilliant idea or two. However, our minds are also tantalisingly unpredictable, spending worryingly large stretches of time idling or distracting themselves. This is a book about how to optimise these beautiful yet fitful instruments so that they can more regularly and generously produce the sort of insights and ideas we need to fulfil our potential – and achieve the contentment we deserve. We learn – among other things – how to grasp fragile and flighty thoughts before they disappear through anxiety and fear, at what times of day to try to work and for how long, how to make use of our boredom and instincts – and how to overcome timid and predictable approaches to the largest problems.

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Mental Health

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The School of Life

How to Think More Effectively

When born into a world we are decided on how we’re going to live by the environment we grow in. Let’s say that your family is a part of a big company and making big profit that even those kids will grow up and will not want to get a job because of their family business. Easygoing life’s lead to weak performance which can lead to hardship later on in life.

Born Into A World Of Luxury.

Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times.

When born into a poor household it can have a significant effect on your standpoint of living. When you’re born into a family with no stability it can heavily influence your decision making process and money interests. Coming from a place where you are only allowed to have a limited supply of supplies and needs it will teach you to make better choices for yourself and others .

Hardened Life

Be mindful that not everyone is the same and everyone has had their different experiences and journeys. When thinking about something someone has said just think about why they might have that opinion instead of trying to think they are ignorant or stupid just think to yourself “why might this person think this way, “what might have happened to this person for them to think this way”?

Mindfulness Of People.

"An unchecked ego is the single greatest enemy of growth. A properly tamed ego is the greatest enabler of success".

This book takes a different approach on how humans evolve around the world around us and how we adapt to it with a philosophical standpoint.

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How environments impact our lives. 

I want to thank you MumFor all you ever did. Growing up you were my safe spaceFrom you I never hidI want to thank you DadFor starting my love of SpaceBecause of you my love grewI had a mindblowing interest to embrace.I want to thank you bothFor showing me what love really is.Your commitment to each otherand all the love you have to give.Having your relationship to aspire tothe love, the life you forged over timeYou'd never waiver from your personIt's what I greatly admire.So thank you Mum and thank you DadFor giving me these giftsI hope you both are restfulKnowing I'm blessed because of this

Thank You

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Poetry Prompts - Today's prompt is 'Thank You'

There is a big vacuum inside of us, so we look for things outside us to fill up the vacuum. We think that new and exciting things will work, but they don't seem to have an effect.

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Religion & Spirituality

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Motivation & Inspiration

Look inside you!

“You can see scary people a mile away. It's the good people you have to worry about.”

“The surest way to tame a prisoner is to let him believe he’s free.”

“You should never tell a psychopath they are a psychopath. It upsets them.”

“If you want a hug, go to Hell and find your mother.”

“If I come for you, and I still might yet decide to come for you, I will wear high heels so you can hear my approach on the cobblestones and have time to repent. You listen for my footsteps.”

“Never take a learning opportunity away from another student. No matter how smart you need everyone to think you are.”

“Men don't have the strategic intelligence to conduct a war between families. Men are less good at keeping secrets out of their lies.”

“Whatever you say to the police can and will be misconstrued to support the prosecution. So, when in doubt, shut your mouth.”

“You love the sound of your own voice, don’t you? You’re like a radio presenter.”

“I've had lots of time to think about how good I was at seeming Good.”

“It’s strange how some choices mean nothing, and others govern the rest of your life.”

“The mind is a funny thing, it can make heaven from hell, hell from heaven. The world around it isn't evil, it's just indifferent.”

“Most women don't know what they like until they've tried it. And sadly, so many of us get to try so little before we're old and grey.”

“The more people you love, the weaker you are. You’ll do things for them that you know you shouldn’t do. You’ll act the fool to make them happy, to keep them safe...Love no one but your children; on that front a mother has no choice.”

“It’s important to be organized and ruthless. Three piles, I always say. The stuff you wanna keep, the stuff you might need later that you put in storage, and the stuff you have to destroy.”

Probably final post to this mini-series on TV Villans. So, enjoy reading and don't forget to stash this post! 

Women have always been seen as the damsel in distress on TV, but these great female villains certainly put that outdated trope to bed!

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Impactful quotes from TV Villans (Female Edition) pt. 4 (▀̿Ĺ̯▀̿ ̿)

Thoughts occur to us randomly. Thinking is what we intend to do. It is not something that naturally occurs to us.Thoughts are inspiration.Thinking is desperationGreat ideas come in the state of Non-Thinking. Thoughts come directly from our subconscious mind and it’s the combination of the gut feeling and desire.We always think about things out of desperation. We try to rationalize some decision, not because we want to do it, but because we are being forced by some external force to do it.

Thoughts VS Thinking

Thinking is the root cause of all suffering.Feed yourself this sentence everyday. Before sleeping, after waking up, before and after stepping into the bathroom, wherever you possibly can.Realize that most of the stuff is not in your control. If you can’t control it, then you shouldn’t think about it.

How to stop thinking

Most people do what society tells them to do. Do what you love the most, whether it be writing, teaching, starting a YouTube channel, becoming a historian regardless of how much it pays or how much respect it brings you.Money and fame is not in your hands. Allah has already written the money and fame you are going to receive, so why not do something you love.Your gut tells the truth. The Gut Feeling is just a thought from your subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is a very complex machine.A thought from the subconscious mind is a sign from the Universe, The God.

Trust the Gut

Who said you have to figure out how to do certain things?You just need to know what you want, but not the how.You don’t have to solve the problem. The God Almighty has already given you a tool to solve complex problems; The Subconscious Mind.Henry Ford had very little formal education, but he had a strong intuition that he could revolutionize transportation by making automobiles affordable for the average American. His trusted on his intuition and everything followed.

But if I don’t think, how will I do anything?

The outcome is completely out of your control. What is in your control is the effort that you put into the work.By repeating to yourself that your goal is important, your subconscious mind starts sending signals to your conscious mind, prompting you to improve your efforts.📚If this article helped you, then I’m sure <a href="https://binsletter.beehiiv.com/subscribe">my free weekly newsletter</a> will help you a lot in growing and gaining clarity every week to stay strong 💪

You have no control

If you are like me, you constantly think about things. Our brain forces us to think, because it is necessary for survival. But what we don’t realize is that, this thinking is destroying us. Let me explain.

Not thinking changed my life forever

How do you procrastinate? What are your triggers and distractions?

How do you procrastinate

What's the difference between procrastination As a behavior and as a n addiction. As humans it's natural to procrastinate but as an addiction you are dependent on this behavior to a level for this is the reason for your living.

Procrastination As an addiction.

"Procrastination addiction damages your ability to focus and self regulate"

Social media as an example gives you high frequency low effort dopamine spikes.

This becomes a problem as these high frequency, low effort, high dopamine actions or behaviors doesn't exist in real lif

What is success for you? Is it a job, business, getting in shape

How Do You Define Your Sucess

As a doctor the author explains how his job is not high frequency low effort dopamine hits. In real everyday life it is not possible to have these high frequency low effort dopamine that leads to success. The author further explains it's abnormal to have these high dopamine spikes every 30 seconds in real life

#1 Map out all distractions. #2 Remove all these distractions completely. If you procrastinate in anyway or feels "withdrawal " in anyway, you are addicted to procrastination.

How to Understand Your Procrastination Addiction?

This is not as ADHD which is neuro developmental disorder. Procrastination is more like an environmental behavioural issue. But smartphone or this inattention could trigger or even lead to this disorder. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8129617/#:~:text=21%20Depression%20has%20a%20significant,to%20poor%20attention%20and%20inhibition

This Is Not ADHD.

#1 remove your triggers and distractions #2 Do a dopamine detox #3 Mindful meditation.

What Are The Solutions

The author recommends 20-30 minutes/every day for 2-3 weeksto start seeing some benefit.

"Meditation Helps The Focus Muscle"

What is not this post? This is not a substitute for the video but hopefully you could know the idea than just understand it at the end of it?

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Time stamps 
00:00 Intro 
00:35 What’s the difference?
03:15 The real problem 
04:42 How to know: Step 1 
05:19 How to know: Step 2
07:12 Is it different from ADHD? 
09:07 Solution step 1 
09:47 Solution step 2 
11:07 Solution step 3 

If you're new to the channel and want to know a little bit more about my story and what I do, then check out this TEDx talk I gave: https://youtu.be/TQXMl4GycD0

I also received the Dean's Award of Academic Excellence for being the top graduating student for the Master of Education at Monash University in 2022 (while only studying for a few weeks). Here is a video on how I did that: https://youtu.be/RJKNtXgo39o 
 
Interested in mind mapping? Then these videos might be for you: 
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Up to your neck in flashcards and Anki but not getting the results everyone says you should be getting? Here is an apparently ‘controversial’ but super valuable (and PROPERLY evidence-based) take on Active Recall and Spaced Repetition (rather than the pseudo-evidence most ‘gurus’ regurgitate): 
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Problem Solving

Justin Sung is a former medical doctor, full-time learning coach and consultant, top 1% TEDx speaker, education author, and social entrepreneur. He has an MBChB and BMedSci (Hons - First Class) from the University of Auckland, and an MEd from Monash University. He is invited to hold workshops and lectures at Monash University and the University of Auckland, as well as for various organisations around the world.

He is the co-founder and Head of Learning at iCanStudy. iCanStudy developed the world's first cognitive retraining program focused on enhancing self-regulated higher-order learning and deep processing. Over the past decade, he has worked with over 10,000 learners from ages 10 to 80+ in over 120 countries. In the 7 years prior, Justin worked in the non-profit education and mentoring space for disadvantaged students.

Justin sees himself as a research-practice bridge, helping to connect dedicated learners and educators with critical applications of the research.


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How to Beat Procrastination (with science)

Words can often be deceptive or misleading, but the body rarely lies. It unwittingly gives away clues about a person’s true feelings and intentions.From something as obvious as crossed arms indicating defensiveness or discomfort, to subtler cues like dilated pupils signaling interest or excitement, body language is a tell-tale sign of what’s really going on inside someone’s mind.Ever noticed a friend’s foot tapping impatiently during a conversation? Or an acquaintance avoiding eye contact during a chat? These are all elements of body language that provide deeper insights into their mindset.

Body language

In the world of people reading, body language is king.

I remember a time when I was having a conversation with a friend who kept mentioning how busy she was. She talked about her endless to-do lists and how there were never enough hours in the day.On the surface, it seemed like she was just venting, but with active listening, I was able to pick up on something more.Her voice had an undertone of exhaustion, and there was a hint of frustration every time she talked about her workload. She made subtle remarks about feeling undervalued and overlooked.That’s when I realized – she wasn’t just busy. She was overwhelmed and burnt out.

Active listening

Active listening isn’t just about hearing words; it’s about reading between the lines and understanding the underlying message.

The way a person speaks can be just as revealing as what they say. The tone, pitch, speed, and volume of someone’s voice can all give you insights into their state of mind and emotions.For example, a person speaking in a lower tone or slower pace may be feeling sad or depressed. On the other hand, rapid speech may indicate excitement, anxiety, or even deception.Another thing to note is the change in someone’s usual <a href="https://study.com/academy/lesson/the-style-of-a-speech.html">speaking style </a>. If you know someone well and they start speaking in a way that’s unusual for them, it could be a sign that something is off.

Tone and voice modulation can speak volumes

It’s all about tuning into the nuances and understanding what they signal. So, if you’re good at picking up these vocal cues, then you’re well on your way to becoming a pro at reading people.

Consider a time when someone was sharing a heartfelt story with you. You might have noticed their eyes welling up, their voice shaking, or even the way they clutched their hands together nervously.These <a href="https://www.verywellmind.com/what-are-emotions-2795178">emotional responses </a>can tell you a lot about what they’re truly feeling. And if you’re able to not only notice these subtle signs but also respond to them with empathy and understanding, you’re truly mastering the art of reading people.

Emotional responsiveness is key

One of the most profound skills in reading people is recognizing their emotional responses. It’s about connecting on a deeper level , empathizing with what they’re experiencing.

Sometimes, it’s not just about reading what’s in front of you, but also noticing when things are different from the norm.I recall having a colleague who was usually the life of the party – always upbeat, always cheerful. But over time, I noticed a change. He became quieter, less energetic, and somehow distant.At first, I thought he was just having a few off days. But as the pattern continued, I realized that something was wrong. When I approached him about it, he confided in me about the personal issues he was dealing with.

Noticing changes in behavior

Noticing changes in behavior can be a powerful tool in understanding people better. It’s about being observant and sensitive to shifts in someone’s usual demeanor or habits.

Maybe you’ve met someone new and instantly felt a sense of unease, though they haven’t done anything wrong. Or perhaps, you’ve sensed tension in a room the moment you walked into it.These feelings don’t happen by accident. They’re your intuition picking up on subtle cues that your conscious mind might have missed.<a href="https://geediting.com/moments-in-life-when-you-should-listen-to-your-intuition-according-to-psychology/">Trusting your intuition </a>doesn’t mean jumping to conclusions without evidence. It’s about recognizing your initial feelings and then observing more closely for other signs or behaviors that confirm your instinct.

The power of intuition

Intuition can be your best ally when it comes to reading people. It’s that gut feeling you get about someone or something, even if you can’t quite put your finger on why. If you often find your gut feelings to be accurate, it’s a clear sign that you’re good at reading people. Trust these instincts, but always remember to balance them with logical reasoning and observation.

While all these signs and behaviors are essential in reading people, the most crucial thing to remember is the context. A person’s actions or responses can significantly vary depending on their cultural background, personal history, current environment, or even their mood that day. So, while it’s important to be observant and intuitive, it’s equally critical to consider the broader picture.

Understanding context is vital

Understanding the context can often make the difference between accurately reading someone and completely misjudging them.

We might not always get it right, and that’s okay. As humans, we’re complex beings full of contradictions. But the effort to understand one another, to tune into those subtle behaviors and silent signals, speaks volumes about our capacity for empathy . Being skilled at reading people isn’t just about decoding behaviors; it’s about reaching out, connecting, and understanding one another on a deeper level.

It's all about empathy

People reading isn’t a superpower or an elusive art known only to a select few. It’s rooted in our innate ability to empathize – to understand and share the feelings of others.

No matter how good you get at reading people, respect for their personal space and privacy is paramount. Use your skills to foster positive relationships and promote understanding – not to pry or manipulate.

IT'S ALL ABOUT EMPATHY!

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Science & Nature

If you recognize these 7 subtle behaviors, you’re an expert at reading people

Find 100+ Psychology Facts about Human Behaviour, Mind or Nature - Curated from Videos, Podcasts, Books & Articles - Genuine Insights from Other People