<ul><li>Therapy or exposure therapy, which ever helps you more</li><li>Facing your fear</li><li>Talk to others about it</li><li>Breathing techniques</li><li>If all else fails, turn on the light</li></ul>

Darkness

<ul><li>Mindfulness and meditation </li><li>Having support</li><li>Rock climbing to face the fear</li></ul>

Heights

<ul><li>Meditation</li><li>Breathing exercises</li><li>Therapy</li><li>Keep a diary</li></ul>

Being Alone

<ul><li>Exposure </li><li>Breathing exercises</li><li>Visualization exercises</li><li>Numbing cream</li></ul>

Needles

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Getting over fears

A great man once said, everything is about sex. Except sex. Sex is about power

You don't know what's it like to be an outsider. To always be afraid. To be ashamed of how you were born. To have to hide who you are.

You don't need to make formal alliances with people you trust.

"Power is a lot like real estate. It's all about location, location, location. The closer you are to the source, the higher your property value."

An apology doesn't mean anything if you're not looking the person in the eye.

People do what's in their best interest, regardless of who gets hurt. Is it evil to take what one wants, to satisfy hunger even if doing so will cause another suffering? What some would call evil, I believe to be an appropriate response to a harsh and unfair world.

Maybe it's up to me to do what good people can't. Or maybe there are no good people. Maybe there are only good decisions.

“Explain to me why it is more noble to kill ten thousand men in battle than a dozen at dinner. The price was cheap by any measure.”

Family is everything, but if you're not a family, really, what is everything?

I've always found the idea of death comforting. The thought that my life could end at any moment frees me. To fully appreciate the beauty and art and horror of everything this world has to offer.

Part 3 of the series. Enjoy reading and learning from them! 

Quotes from villains who were completely right in their motives or views? Perhaps you're skeptical about the title of this article considering that villains are usually the bad, often unreasonable characters in fiction. But though villains may be on the wrong side in the fictional universe their movies, TV shows, and books are set in,…

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Impactful quotes from TV Villans pt. 3 (▀̿Ĺ̯▀̿ ̿)

🌹 The most hurtful thing in life is losing the one who understands and speaks your silence 🌺

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The silence 

"The issue is not about how the world is, but about how you are"...With this touchy line introduction helps us to understand that this book is all about Adlerian Psychology. We all know that All problems are interpersonal problems. There is always a cause before an effect, so there is always a psychological issue behind each and every action of ours. That means Who we are now (the effect) is determined by occurances in the past (the causes). So let's deep dive.

Why Should You Read This Book ?

We are not determined by our experiences, but the meaning we give them is self-determiningWe determine our own lives according to the meaning we give to those past experiences. Your life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself, and you are the one who decides how you live

Trauma does not exist.

People are not controlled by emotion. They are not controlled by the past People are not driven by past causes, but more toward goals that they themselves set. You should arrive at answers on your own, and not rely upon what you get from someone else. Answers from others are nothing more than stopgap measures ; they are of no value.

Live without being controlled by past

Its fine to be 'Just as you are'The important thing is not what one is born with, but what use one makes of that equipment.

Be ok just as you are.

Unhappiness is something you choose for yourself. One might say you are lacking in the courage to be happy. When we try to change our lifestyle, we put our great courage to the test. There is the anxiety generated by changing, and the disappointment attendent to not changing Unhappiness can not be blamed on your past or your environment. And it isn't that you lack competence. You just lack courage.

People always choose not to change.

The issue is really what sort of meaning I attribute to the problem(height) ; what sort of value I give it. The feeling of inferiority we're suffering from are subjective interpretations rather than objective facts Value is something that's based on a social context. An inferiority complex is an excuse. The condition of having a feeling of inferiority is a condition of feeling some sort of lack in oneself in the present situation

Feeling of inferiority are subjective assumptions.

Pursuit of superriority - There's a tendency to think of it as the desire to try to be superior to other people; as the desire to climb higher It is the mindset of taking a single step forward on one's own feet, not the mindset of competition of the sort that necessitates aiming to be greater than other people It's enough to just keep moving in a forward direction, without competing with anyone. There is no need to compare oneself with others

Life is not a competition.

Everyone is different. Do not mix up that difference with good and bad, superior and inferior. Whatever differences we may have, we are all equal  We do not walk in order to compete with someone. It is in trying to progress past who one is now that there is value. Do not think about gaining status or honour. When one is trying to be oneself, competition will inevitably get in the way.

Everyone is different here.

When one is conscious of competition and victory and defeat, it is inevitable that feelings of inferiority will arise. Because one is constantly comparing oneself to others and thinking, I beat that person or I lost to that person. The inferiority complex and the superiority complex are extension of that.This is what is so terrifying about competition. Even if you're not a loser, even if you're someone who keeps on winning, if you are someone who has places himself in competition, you still never has a moment's peace. You do not want to be loser. So you can't trust other people.

You're the only one worrying about your apperance

The feeling of inferiority is an issue of value judgement Why is it that people seek recognition from others ? In many cases, it is due to influence of rewards and punishment education. We are not living to satisfy other people's expectations

Do not live to satisfy the expectations of others

If you are not living your life for yourself then who is going to live it for you ? You are living only your own life. When it comes to who you are living it for, ofcourse its you.

A single book can change your life. Already an enormous bestseller in Asia, with more than 3 million copies sold, The Courage to be Disliked demonstrates how to unlock the power within yourself to be the person you truly want to be. Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of 19th century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, it follows an illuminating conversation between a philosopher and a young man. The philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own lives, free of the shackles of past experiences, doubts and the expectations of others. It's a way of thinking that's deeply liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves. The result is a book that is both highly accessible and profound in its importance. Millions have already read and benefited from its wisdom. Now that The Courage to be Disliked has been published for the first time in English, so can you

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Ichiro KISHIMI Philosopher, Adlerian psychologist and translator of English and German languages. Born in 1956.M.A.in philosophy from Kyoto University. Director of the Japanese Society of Adlerian psychology. Former counselor at Maeda Clinic in Kyoto and has taught philosophy and ancient Greek at various institutions such as Kyoto University of Education and Nara Women's University. He presently teaches educational psychology and clinical psychology at Meiji School of Oriental Medicine in Suita, Osaka. Kishimi now has his own private counseling office in Kameoka, Kyoto, and devotes his time to giving lectures on Adlerian Psychology and child education.

Ichiro Kishimi

Fumitake Koga is an accomplished writer whose work has resonated with readers around the world. Fumitake Koga has published several books that explore a range of topics, from fiction to nonfiction, and has received critical acclaim for the ability to weave compelling narratives. Fumitake Koga's writing style is known for its depth and authenticity, and has earned quite a loyal following of readers.

Fumitake Koga

The Courage to Be Disliked

A mistake repeated more than once, is a pattern. And an apology without change,is manipulation.

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Mindfulness

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Human Resources

Honest Mistakes And Honest Apologies

It’s a new day.You wake up full of energy. And you start wondering about all the things you have to do.You make up your best plans and are ready to start your most productive day of the year. But then, time passes, and you’re left behind. You procrastinate a bit. Then, you remember you have to do something you have missed. Time passes. It’s evening. And you haven’t achieved much of what you imagined.

The Procrastination Problem

Productivity is not about filling your day with millions of tasks and doing none of them. It’s about making smarter choices that help your body and brand work more efficiently.  So, if you tweak your daily routines, you will achieve most of your goals.In this article, I wrote 45 simple ways to become more productive and change your life forever. And to make it easier to read, I split them into five sections:<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Morning routines at home.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Morning routines at work.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Afternoon routines at work.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Commute to and from work.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Evening routines at home.</li></ul>Here are my 45 simple ways to become more productive.

How to Fix Your Productivity

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Morning people tend to be more proactive and have more opportunities to succeed. So, wake up early and establish a good morning routine to tell your brain it’s time to work.

Morning Routines at Home (1)

1 - Set your alarm to get off 5 minutes earlier every day until you wake up early in the morning (6-7 a.m.)2 - Move your alarm clock to force yourself to get out of bed to stop it.3 - Use natural light to help your body wake up without any artificial help.4 - Meditate for at least 10 minutes to get in the zone.5 - Exercise for at least 10 minutes to wake up your body.6 - Drink a glass of water to activate your metabolism.7 - Have a healthy breakfast to get in the mood for productivity.8 - Write a diary for 10 minutes to warm up your brain and focus abilities.

Morning Routines at Home (2)

Most people perform at their peak before lunch because of the spikes in concentration and alertness. So, use the first part of the day to plan your work efficiently. Then, use your laser-sharp focus to get things done.

Morning Routines at Work (1)

9 - Start working at the same time every day to make it a habit.10 - Write your to-do list or <a href="https://cosmopolitanmindset.substack.com/p/the-second-brain-method">check your second brain </a>to see what you must prioritize.11 - Resist the urge to check your e-mails until you finished your planning.12 - Use specific, achievable, and time-bounded tasks.13 - Set your phone on “ Do not disturb ” to <a href="https://www.cosmopolitanmindset.com/20-sneaky-procrastination-traps-that-almost-ruined-my-life/">avoid any distractions</a>.14 - Let other people know you won’t be available until you finish your first work session.15 - Eat the frog and complete the most challenging task of the day first.16 - Work on intervals of 30-60-90 minutes to plan your tasks easier.

Morning Routines at Work (2)

17 - Track your time and set deadline limits. If your time has finished, move to the next task even if you haven’t completed the task to avoid chain delays. You will get back to it later if you save time elsewhere. 18 - Delegate or schedule in container slots all the micro-tasks that could take less than 10 minutes to finish. 19 - Don’t multitask to avoid context-switching delays. 20 - Keep a <a href="https://www.cosmopolitanmindset.com/idea-journal-best-tool-for-creative/">journal for any idea</a>. You don’t have time to think about it now.

Morning Routines at Work (3)

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Afternoon work is problematic when you consume heavy meals because they make you less reactive. So, consider this problem while planning your day.

Afternoon Routines at Work (1)

21 - Avoid large meals that make you tired and slow down your mental capabilities.22 - Take a walk to keep your body awake and activate your metabolism.23 - Work standing up to keep your energy levels high.24 - Take a 10-minute power nap if you can.25 - Do more easy tasks when your energy levels start to drop. 26 - Work on your <a href="https://cosmopolitanmindset.substack.com/p/how-to-become-more-creative">creative ideas </a> and micro-tasks.

Afternoon Routines at Work (2)

You might waste a lot of time commuting to work and back home. But you can use it as an opportunity for personal growth and relaxation.

Commute To and From Work (1)

27 - Listen to podcasts to learn new things or relax your mind.28 - Set a goal you want to achieve before the day finishes. 29 - Read the latest posts on productivity and personal growth to remain motivated.30 - Follow an online course to learn new skills.31 - Prepare for any public speaking tasks you have to do during the day.32 - Walk or go to work on the bike.33 - Be mindful when you drive , and don’t make it an automation.34 - Talk with people on public transport to learn new things and make friends.35 - Read a bookmarked article you haven’t had the chance to recover yet.

Commute To and From Work (2)

Your evening routines should all have one goal – a great night’s sleep. Sleeping well makes you wake up more energized and productive. So, do everything in your power to <a href="https://www.cosmopolitanmindset.com/7-day-better-sleep-challenge-small-changes-make-the-difference/">improve your sleep</a>.

Evening Routines at Home (1)

36 - Create a time threshold to stop working and thinking about work.37 - Avoid checking your phone too much to limit the effect of blue light on your sleep quality.38 - Prepare a generic to-do list with your most important tasks.39 - Stretch your body for 10-15 minutes to get tired for bed.40 - Avoid caffeine at least 6 hours before bedtime.41 - Read a book to help your mind transition into the sleeping mood.42 - Avoid alcohol to limit sleeping disruptions in the middle of the night.43 - Avoid high-fat meals that make it harder to sleep.44 - Use dark curtains to block our natural light.

Evening Routines at Home (2)

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Achieve More Goals By Following These 45 Simple Life Lessons

Achieve More Goals By Following These 45 Simple Ways to Become More Productive and Improve your Life.

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45 Simple Ways To Become More Productive And Change Your Life Forever

Claiming moral high ground to discredit someone’s argument or dismiss their perspective is the easiest way to spot it. People want to follow others who have high morals. So to show superior moral competency to another party is a good use of moral high ground.<ul><li>undermine perspectives</li><li>dismiss ideas</li><li>manipulate the argument </li></ul>

Moral High Ground

Committing to a popular moral cause often displays yourself as a more virtuous person. Even if the sole purpose of supporting the cause was publicity, you wouldn’t know. (Such causes might include: BLM, Palestine, LGBTQ campaigns, and so forth.)<ul><li>supporting causes to look more virtuous </li><li>is a form of publicity and doesn’t necessarily show true virtue </li><li>It’s trending, so you’ll look better supporting the current thing</li></ul>

Virtue Signaling

Shaming and guilt can be very dangerous, because it stems from weaponizing someone else’s virtue and using it against them. By reminding someone of their own shortcomings and faults with their virtues it undermines them. (Basically calling someone hypocritical for not being a virtuous person themselves)<ul><li>Use someone’s own ideals against them</li><li>Emotionally put down opposing parties</li><li>Degrade opposition to look better</li></ul>

Shaming And Guilt

By pretending or acting to be a kind or virtuous person, you leverage others trust for personal gain. If used on opposing parties, this can create a form of debt or obligation that can be taken advantage of later.<ul><li>Display false virtue</li><li>Leverage trust</li><li>Create debt or obligations</li></ul>

Manipulative Altruism

By setting a moral standard much higher than what can be achieved, you downgrade everyone who can’t meet that standard. From there, you can criticize or punish these shortcomings.<ul><li>Unrealistic expectations </li><li>Set them up to fail </li><li>Downgrade the masses rather than one individual at a time</li></ul>

Predestined Shortcomings

By demonstrating that you’re more affluent in a particular moral understanding, you display superiority and make it difficult for people to argue with your moral actions because they are under the assumption that you stand on a higher echelon of understanding. <ul><li>Prevent criticism </li><li>Demonstrate moral competency </li><li>Gain a more favorable reputation</li></ul>

Exclusivity Of Moral Understanding

Learn how virtue can be weaponized. This is used in very subtle ways in our everyday life, learn how to spot them or even use them for personal gain.

Discover the world of business and economics.

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How to Weaponize Virtue

Recognize that striving for constant virtue can lead to rigidity. Allow yourself to make mistakes and learn from them.

Embrace Imperfection

Incorporate humor and play into your life. It can foster creativity and help you navigate challenges with a lighter heart.

Cultivate Playfulness

Be wary of becoming overly moralistic. Understand that everyone has flaws and that compassion often requires acknowledging our shared humanity.

Avoid Self-Righteousness

While discipline is important, don't forget to be spontaneous and flexible. This balance can lead to a more fulfilling and adaptable life.

Balance Discipline with Spontaneity

Be true to yourself. Authenticity comes from acknowledging and integrating all aspects of your personality, including the mischievous parts.

Foster Authenticity

Understand and accept both the light and shadow aspects of your personality. This integration can lead to greater self-awareness and personal growth.

Integrate Light and Shadow

Engage in harmless pranks or acts of whimsy that bring joy to others. This can strengthen relationships and create shared positive experiences.

Practice Compassionate Mischief

Don't be afraid to question societal norms and expectations. Sometimes, bending rules can lead to innovative solutions and progress.

Question Rigid Norms

Approach life with curiosity and openness, as if seeing things for the first time. This mindset can help you remain adaptable and open to new experiences.

Maintain a Beginner's Mind

While it's important to take responsibilities seriously, balance it with a sense of humor and light-heartedness to avoid burnout and maintain perspective.

Balance Seriousness with Light-heartedness

Appreciate the diverse traits in yourself and others. This can lead to richer interactions and a deeper understanding of human nature.

Celebrate Diversity in Character

Regularly reflect on your actions and motivations. This can help you maintain a balance between your benevolent and mischievous tendencies.

Engage in Reflective Practices

Use creative outlets to express both your orderly and playful sides. This can lead to a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Encourage Creative Expression

Cultivate friendships with people who exhibit a range of traits. This can help you appreciate different perspectives and enhance your own balance.

Nurture Relationships with Varied Personalities

Strive to live in a way that is true to your values and desires, even if it means occasionally going against the grain. Authenticity often leads to greater happiness and fulfillment.

Live Authentically

In conclusion, Alan Watts' philosophy urges us to accept our flaws, infuse life with humor, and avoid moral rigidity. Balancing structure with spontaneity, being true to ourselves, and embracing all parts of our personality are vital. Questioning norms, staying curious, and blending seriousness with light-heartedness enrich our lives. Reflecting on our actions, expressing creativity, building diverse relationships, and living authentically lead to greater fulfillment and personal growth.

The Conclusion

Alan Watts advocated balancing beneficence and rascality for a healthy life. Excessive virtue can lead to rigidity, while playful rascality promotes flexibility, creativity, and authenticity. Embracing the full spectrum of human nature helps achieve harmony between order and mischief.

Alan Watts : Balancing Beneficence & Rascality

Communication can be difficult, especially when people don't understand what you're saying. Unfortunately, they may respond with rudeness or negative comments to try to hurt you. But, remember that it's their own insecurities and lack of self-awareness that lead them to act this way.<ul><li>They may not be interested in or value the same things as you.</li><li>They may say rude things to hurt you</li></ul>

The Power of Understanding Others and Dealing with Rudeness

People may be unkind if they don't understand you. This shows their weaknesses and lack of self-awareness.

To handle these situations, try to stay calm and kind. It's important to understand that their behavior is not a reflection of you, but rather their own struggles. Be patient and remind yourself that you don't need to prove anything to them. Focus on staying true to yourself and don't let their negativity weigh you down.<ul><li>Don't take their actions personally</li><li>Stay calm and kind</li><li>Don't let their negativity affect you</li></ul>

How to handle

If people don't understand you.. just understand them more!

ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT IT SAYS MORE ABOUT THEM AND LESS ABOUT YOU

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"Cu si guardà si sarvà""He who watches himself is saved"(Do not expose yourself unnecessarily to risks and dangers)

"Cu taci acconsenti""Those who remain silent show consensus"(Not responding is equivalent to accepting what others have said)

"Ognuno tira acqua pi lu so mulinu""Everyone pulls grist to their own mill"(Everyone looks after their own interests)

"Ogni mpidimentu è giuvamentu""Every impediment is an advantage"(The obstacles to our projects sometimes prove positive)

"Occhi aperti e piedi n terra""Eyes open and feet on the ground"(Evaluate the situation carefully before acting)

"Occhj c'atu fattu chjanciri, chjanciti pena nun mi veni siddru lacrimati""Eyes that made to cry, need to cry, I don't mind if they cry"(Don't feel pity for those who have been cruel)

"Ogni lassata è pirduta""Everything left behind is lost"(We must take advantage of every opportunity)

"Ogni tintu scarafagljeddru a so ma' cci pari beddru""Every ugly cockroach looks beautiful to its mother"(One's children are the height of beauty for the mother)

"Omu avvisatu, mezzu sarvatu""Forewarned is forearmed"

"Quannu lu diavulu t'accarizza voli l'arma""When the devil caresses you, he wants your soul"(Flatterers hide their interests with apparent sincerity)

"Never mistake knowledge for wisdom. One helps you make a living; the other helps you make a life."

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