Charlie is a teenager who just lost a friend which causes his peer group to fall apart. As he tries to find new friends, he is confronted with typical teenage issues, such as romance, drugs and family issues. However, the underlying issue to all of his problems is way darker than you think at first

The main plot

feeling responsible for the death of his aunt Helen: She died in a car accident when Charlie was 7. She wanted to get him a birthday present, that’s why she took the car.having a crush on one of his best friends: She tells him to stop thinking of her that way which Charlie can’t. He gets together with another girl which he ends up hurting because he can’t develop feelings.Sister has an abusive boyfriend: His sister is getting hit by her boyfriend. Charlie told a friend, who told his parents, which is why his sister is mad at him, because the parents now forbid her to see him again.

Charlie‘s problems

We accept the love we think we deserve

The crucial moment happens the night before Sam, the friend Charlie has a crush on, needs to go to college. He confesses that he still hasn’t lost feelings for her and doesn’t know what to do.Sam said that she didn’t like about Charlie how he never took the chance. He is mostly just listening and doing what people told him to. He is trying to please everybody and be a good friend but Sam criticizes that he wasn’t honest enough.If someone isn’t honest and not showing their true self, their friends don’t know who they are friends with, so Sam encourages Charlie to do whatever he wants.

the crucial moment

Why would I care whether or not he loved me, when he didn’t really even know me?

When Charlie takes Sam‘s advice and starts kissing her because he wants to, he suddenly stops as the situation develops into being more intimate. Charlie is confused, he doesn’t understand what’s wrong, is getting upset and doesn’t notice his surroundings anymore. He wants to go home.At home, his parents find him naked sitting in front of the television which is turned off. They bring him to a hospital

Charlie‘s trauma

Charlie went seeing a psychiatrist twice in his life. Once before the happenings of the event and a second time when his deprsssion came back during the events of the book. He points out that he finds it weird, that his psychiatrist is always asking „stupid“ questions about his childhood.

Character: The psychiatrist

Charlie loves his dead aunt Helen. He visits his grave often, thinks of her and feels so guilty of her death. His favorite memory is when his aunt Helen used to live with them and was watching television on Saturday evening when his parents weren’t there and let him stay up longer.

Character: Aunt Helen

As he wakes up in the hospital, he remembers a dream he had. He was doing the same thing with his aunt Helen as with Sam last night while they are watching TV every Saturday.He realizes that this wasn’t a dream but he was molested by his aunt every Saturday which is why the experience with Sam brought up trauma. The psychiatrist realizes and tells Charlie‘s parents, who never knew.

The hospital scene

She was the only one giving affection to Charlie in his family. You can see that his family is rather cold and fights often in the scenes where they visit each other for special occasions like Christmas.

Why does Charlie love aunt Helen

He doesn't blame his aunt Helen, because for him, that didn't lead anywhere.(Everyone has their own way of dealing with Trauma ⚠)For him, it is important to remember it and to be aware that this shaped his character.Nevertheless, there are many things that make you who you are. Two people could grow up under the exact same circumstances and turn out to be completely different people.You‘ll never know all of the reasons why you are the way you are, but that also means your character isn't defined by where you come from, but where you want to go.(Being impacted by your past is not a bad thing ⚠)

What Charlie Wants You to Know

I guess we are who we are for a lot of reasons. And maybe we’ll never know most of them. But even if we don’t have the power to choose where we come from, we can choose where we go from there. We can still do things. And we can try to feel okay about them.

Understand the Main Idea of The Perks of Being a Wallflower and what it can teach you about yourself and trauma response. This content might be triggering and is not spoiler-free. ⚠️

Read the cult-favorite coming-of-age story that takes a sometimes heartbreaking, often hysterical, and always honest look at high school in all its glory. Now a major motion picture starring Logan Lerman and Emma Watson, The Perks of Being a Wallflower is a funny, touching, and haunting modern classic. The critically acclaimed debut novel from Stephen Chbosky, Perks follows observant “wallflower” Charlie as he charts a course through the strange world between adolescence and adulthood. First dates, family drama, and new friends. Sex, drugs, and The Rocky Horror Picture Show. Devastating loss, young love, and life on the fringes. Caught between trying to live his life and trying to run from it, Charlie must learn to navigate those wild and poignant roller-coaster days known as growing up. A years-long #1 New York Times bestseller, an American Library Association Best Book for Young Adults and Best Book for Reluctant Readers, and with millions of copies in print, this novel for teen readers (or “wallflowers” of more-advanced age) will make you laugh, cry, and perhaps feel nostalgic for those moments when you, too, tiptoed onto the dance floor of life.

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Stephen Chbosky grew up in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania, and graduated from the University of Southern California's Filmic Writing Program. His first film, The Four Corners of Nowhere, premiered at the 1995 Sundance Film Festival and went on to win Best Narrative Feature honors at the Chicago Underground Film Festival. He is the recipient of the Abraham Polonsky Screenwriting Award for his screenplay Everything Divided as well as a participant in the Sundance Institute's filmmakers' lab for his current project, Fingernails and Smooth Skin. Chbosky lives in New York.

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The Perks of Being a Wallflower

One of the first traits we notice about Tommy Shelby is his deliberate, slow movements. Even in high-stress situations, Tommy maintains a composed demeanor, signaling to others that he is not easily intimidated. Emulating this deliberate pace can communicate a sense of calm and confidence, even amidst chaosTommy's comfortable eye contact during conflicts demonstrates his unwavering self-assurance. However, it's essential to strike a balance, as unwavering eye contact may escalate tensions. Knowing when to hold eye contact and when to break away is key to projecting strength without aggression

Mastering Body Language: The Art of Slowness and Confidence

Tommy Shelby's ability to remain non-reactive in the face of hostility is a hallmark of his character.By staying calm and collected, even in the most dire circumstances, Tommy exudes confidence and control. This non-reactivity not only earns him respect but also diffuses potential conflicts.Cultivating this inner composure requires genuine confidence, rooted in the belief in one's ability to handle any situation. Mastering this skill, we can navigate challenges with grace and poise, earning the respect of those around us.

The Power of Non-Reactivity: Staying Cool Under Pressure

In addition to body language, Tommy Shelby commands attention through his commanding presence.When addressing large groups, Tommy's expansive gestures and commanding tone captivate his audience.By leveraging these techniques, we can make ourselves more compelling speakers and leaders.Adopting a confident tone and utilizing strategic pauses can further enhance our communication skills, drawing listeners in and holding their attention.Tommy's example reminds us that it's not always about the volume of our voice but the conviction behind our words that truly captivates an audience.

Commanding Attention: The Importance of Presence

Tommy Shelby's choice of words reflects his unwavering conviction and determination.Rather than expressing hopes or desires, Tommy speaks with certainty, declaring what he will achieve.This level of conviction not only commands respect but also inspires confidence in others.Emulating Tommy's decisive language, we can assert ourselves more effectively and convey our intentions with clarity and authority.

Words of Conviction: Speaking with Authority

One of Tommy Shelby's most notable traits is his mastery of carrot-and-stick motivation.Whether dealing with allies or adversaries, Tommy understands what drives people and leverages this knowledge to his advantage.While we may not resort to extreme measures like Tommy, we can apply this principle in our own lives, particularly in negotiations or professional settings.Aligning incentives with desired outcomes, we can influence decisions and achieve our goals effectively.

Strategic Thinking: Applying Carrot-and-Stick Motivation

At the heart of Tommy Shelby's confidence lies a deep inner conviction in his abilities.While this level of self-assurance may seem unattainable for some, it's crucial to recognize that confidence can be cultivated over time.Consistently practicing self-assured behaviors and mindset, we can gradually build the confidence needed to command respect in any situation.

Building Deep Confidence: The Key to Commanding Respect

Tommy Shelby's character offers valuable insights into commanding respect, even for those who are naturally quiet or introverted. By mastering body language, speaking with conviction, and strategically navigating interpersonal dynamics, we can assert ourselves more effectively and earn the respect of others. While we may not live in the world of Peaky Blinders, the lessons gleaned from Tommy's character are undeniably applicable to our own lives. So, embrace the wisdom of Tommy Shelby and watch as your influence and respect soar to new heights.

Embracing the Lessons of Tommy Shelby

In the realm of fictional characters, Tommy Shelby from Peaky Blinders stands out as a quiet, introverted figure who exudes immense charisma. While not all of us aspire to emulate Tommy Shelby entirely, there are valuable lessons we can glean from his character to command respect in our own lives. Whether it's navigating conflicts with ease or projecting confidence through body language, Tommy's tactics offer insights applicable beyond the small screen.

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People love Tommy Shelby from Peaky Blinders.  He’s a quiet, introverted character, and at the same time extremely charismatic.

While you don’t want to be like Tommy in every way, there are 8 habits you can learn from him to instantly command respect from the people around you.


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0:00 - Intro
0:21 - #1: Have slow, relaxed movements
0:57 - #2: Hold eye contact, even during conflict
1:57 - #3: Be non-reactive to hostility
3:00 - #4: Be as big as your audience
3:33 - #5: Show conviction with your words
3:56 - #6: Show conviction with your tone
4:26 - #7: Speak slowly and use pauses between words
6:23 - #8: Use carrot / stick motivation


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Winners triangle is the opposite of the Drama triangle (Karpman) It is a way to turn a negative situation into something positive and create a win-win for everyone involved.🔻The Drama Triangle is a negative cycle that causes conflicts.Introduced by Acey Choy in 1990, the Winners Triangle is a way to break that cycle and create a positive outcome for all.

Drama Vs Win-Win

The Drama Triangle is also known as a rescue triangle that is formed when people take up and switch roles in situations of conflict and stress: victim, persecutor, rescuer. It is exactly what it sounds like – creating stress, drama, and conflict and rescuing people from their responsibility.🔻Is a lose-lose situation for everybody taking part in it.

The Drama Triangle - The Rescue Triangle

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<li>As victims, people feel hopeless, ashamed, powerless, helpless, and unable to make decisions, enjoy work, solve problems, or achieve goals. They seem to attract bad people and situations</li>
<li>Rescuer are the enablers who always want to rescue others. They feel good about themselves by helping victims and ignoring their own issues.</li>
<li>Persecutor think they know better and have a right to tell other people what they should do. They are angry, oppressive, rigid, authoritarian, blaming, controlling, and critical.</li>
</ol>

The Victim. The Rescuer. The Persecutor.

The winners triangle, has three positive roles:▫️Victim becomes Vulnerable,▫️Persecutor becomes Assertive▫️Rescuer becomes Caring.

Switch Of Roles

They accept their vulnerability but also understand that they have the abilities to meet their needs and find their way. They ask for help and accept when offered to empower themselves. The most important skill they possess is problem-solving.

Vulnerable / Creator

In this role, people use their time and energy in resolving issues rather than blaming others. They are good problem solvers and always find ways to meet their needs without shaming others.

Assertive / Challenger

Rather than imposing the solutions, they show compassion by asking how to help. This empowers the vulnerable to decide what they want and the caring role can learn to listen and allow others to find their way.

Caring / Coach

This guide helps understand how winners triangle can be introduced in workplace environments for more positive and empowering interactions.

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Flowers for Algernon tells the story of Charlie, he has 68 IQ and will undergo surgery that will gradually turn him into a genius.As the plot unfolds, we will get to know the character's past and his discoveries before the world with a new way of processing the information that the brain with a higher IQ receives

What's it about?

The book makes us question about life issues such as loneliness, empathy, and humanity. The initial suffering of people with intellectual disabilities being considered as humorous toys by others of the same species, says a lot about how we humans deal with the perception of inferiority we have of the other. To what extent is research that plans to change human characteristics acceptable? Is human testing acceptable?

Ethics in research and science

In the end we are all humans with life perspective, feelings, and thoughts. Certain characteristics do not define us as better or worse than someone else. Here is my reflection on how the book moved me in relation to humanitarian tact and how we see life and other people.

Respect and quality of life

The hardest thing in life is knowing yourself.

Life in society

An amazing book and from the beginning you are impressed when you go blindly reading the story without any kind of information about it. I recommend it to people who like psychology.

Charlie embarks on a compelling but dangerous journey from retardation to genius. Oscar-winning film Charly starring Cliff Robertson and Claire Bloom-a mentally challenged man receives an operation that turns him into a genius ... and introduces him to heartache. When we first meet Charlie he is about to embark on a compelling but dangerous journey from retardation to genius. He has only a vague understanding of what will happen, but he is aware that knowledge and the ability to write are of paramount importance. So he doesn't hesitate for a moment to cooperate in a radical experiment designed to increase his intelligence, the key - he hopes - to being valued as a human being and to being loved. Daniel Keyes's powerful and highly original story of a young man whose quest for intelligence and knowledge parallels that of Algernon (the mouse who is an earlier subject of a similar experiment) remains unique in imaginative literature. We follow Charlie Gordon's mental, emotional, and spiritual growth. We watch with excitement as he becomes the focus of attention by the scientific world, his intellectual capacities far surpassing those of the psychologists and neurosurgeons who engineered his metamorphosis. We also follow the progress of his romance with two women, one who knew him before the experiment as well as with another, who knows him only as the attractive, bright, and sympathetic man he has become. And, finally, we hope against hope that what happens suddenly, unexpectedly, to Algernon will not happen to Charlie.

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<ul><li class="ql-align-justify">Develop your next leaders by investing in your people.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Listen to your team and learn their needs.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Help your team “excel at their jobs.”</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Identify potential leaders and invite them to the “leadership table.”</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Set goals for new leaders and empower them to take action.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Motivate leaders to grow.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Challenge new leaders to work as a team.</li><li class="ql-align-justify">Choose your best leaders to develop and mentor more deeply.</li></ul>

Key Points

To generate organizational growth and overcome business challenges, focus on developing strong leaders. An organization’s growth is directly linked to the growth of its leaders. Invest in leadership development. Marketing, reorganization or cost-cutting will prove ineffective if your company lacks competent leadership.“We cannot reach our potential without the help of others.”

Develop your next leaders by investing in your people

Leaders must listen to understand and connect with their team members. Listening leads to a deeper comprehension of each individual’s needs, aspirations and perspectives. Effective listening goes beyond merely hearing the words someone says; it involves actively seeking meaning. By genuinely listening, leaders build trust and empathy, fostering stronger connections with their team members.“Your goal is to equip people in such a way that they learn not only to do ﻿their job well, but to lead and to develop their own equipping leader’s mindset.”

Listen to your team and learn their needs

Once you gain perspective on how your team operates and their professional goals, your job as a leader is to equip them with the necessary mindset and tools to excel in their positions. Be a role model worth following. People feel more inclined to learn and participate in development activities when they see their leaders vesting in personal and professional growth. Spend quality time playing team-building games, facilitating increased interactions, lessons and a shared experience.“Telling others to do what you haven’t done yourself isn’t equipping. It’s bossing.”

Help your team “excel at their jobs.”

Identify potential leaders within your organization. They are familiar with the organization’s performance and culture, which reduces the uncertainty and adaptation time associated with external hires. These internal candidates have already established influence among their peers, a critical component of effective leadership.“The only way for any person to learn leadership is to lead. Leading isn’t a theoretical exercise.”

Identify potential leaders and invite them to the “leadership table.”

Once your leaders sit at the “table,” give them goals and the power to enact necessary changes. Discuss their core values individually to ensure they demonstrate integrity and authenticity and agree to be held accountable to these values. Evaluate their strengths and weaknesses. Have discussions to help them develop self-awareness.“Only secure leaders give power to others.”

Set goals for new leaders and empower them to take action

Developing new leaders means teaching them to access the motivation to push forward and grow. Giving your new leaders a purpose, autonomy, collaborative partners and the ability to tap into their drive creates sustainable forward progression. The freedom to chart their own courses and make independent decisions motivates many leaders because it enhances their engagement and output. Leaders develop solid relationships and teamwork as they thrive on collaboration and the shared pursuit of objectives.“People don’t determine their future. They determine their habits, which determine their future.”

Motivate leaders to grow

Once your leaders have the drive, the next step in development involves making them work as a team. Creating a team of leaders boosts organizational resilience and eliminates blind spots. Ensure that leaders align with your organization’s vision and understand how their personal and team goals fit its purpose.“A lot comes into play to develop a great team. That’s why championship teams are so difficult to create and lead.”

Challenge new leaders to work as a team

Choosing the best new leaders involves using the Pareto principle. This principle, applied to leadership, suggests that 80% of results often come from the top 20% of leaders. Focusing your mentoring efforts on the top 20% of your team maximizes efficiency and effectiveness.Choose your mentees for their potential and commitment. Personalize your mentoring approach to address each leader’s unique needs, strengths and individual growth.“Good mentors don’t hesitate to have difficult conversations with the people they mentor. They deal with the ‘elephants’ in the room even when others won’t.”

Choose your best leaders to develop and mentor more deeply

Invest in People Like Your Future Depends on It

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What is the secret sauce for every kind of organization?What is the secret to organizational success? Whether the goal is developing a new product, establishing a new location, launching a new initiative, starting a new team, or improving your existing one, what will determine its success? The leaders! For any team, small business, large corporation, non-profit organization, or government entity, the key to accomplishing today’s goals and achieving tomorrow’s success depends on its present and future leaders.Few people know more about developing leaders than John C. Maxwell, the bestselling leadership author in history. In the last twenty-five years, he has grown from equipping a handful of leaders in one organization to developing millions of business, government, and non-profit leaders in every country around the world.In The Ultimate Guide to Developing Leaders, Maxwell teaches everything leaders need to know about how to develop leaders in their team or organization. Readers will learn how to:<ul><li>Become developers of people.</li><li>Identify people with leadership potential.</li><li>Recruit, train, and motivate emerging leaders.</li><li>Empower new leaders to lead.</li><li>Coach new and existing leaders to higher levels of achievement.</li><li>Teach their leaders how to develop other leaders.</li></ul>Anyone frustrated by leadership limitations in their organization needs to read The Ultimate Guide to Developing Leaders. If they follow the practical steps it offers, they will create a leadership pipeline that will never run dry.

John Calvin Maxwell is an American author, speaker, and pastor who has written many books, primarily focusing on leadership. Titles include The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership and The 21 Indispensable Qualities of a Leader. His books have sold millions of copies, with some on the New York Times Best Seller List.

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You are and will continue to be who you are until you die, realize that you are worthy of being loved and taken care of just as much as the people you love and take care of you deserve dedication weather it be from yourself or the people around you dedicated time and effort into your physical/ mental health and wellbeing because you deserve it

You are worthy

To love yourself right now, just as you areis to give yourself heaven.don’t wait until you die.if you wait, you die now.if you love, you live now.

Make peace with your broken pieces.

There are always going to be things about yourself you dislike but why do you dislike these things? 
Do you think your nose is to big because we are conditioned to have small noses to be beautiful? You think you are not beautiful because of the worlds conception of beauty you do not have to change your natural beauty to be artificially beautiful beauty comes from energy, attitude, and overall how you present yourself beauty does not come from simply your features don’t think you are worth any less than anyone due to your natural looks and appearance.

Accepting your beauty

Life is to short to spend another day at war with yourself.

Stop putting yourself in situations where you are stressed and unstable these unreasonable amounts of stress encourages unreasonable reactions. If you want to improve in how you react you need to reflect and asses the situation before you react.

Self sabotage

You are Yourself

Science has shown us that we are terrible at making predictions and trying to read others' thoughts or feelings, and we lean into confirmation bias. We tend to confirm things we already believe and are terrible at reading others, assuming their thoughts or motivations. Criminal profiling is a great example of where even random guesses can be more accurate, and "double-blind" studies are used to reduce bias. There is no one method or foolproof way of judging others.

Can you judge a book by its cover?

If we could magically know what others are thinking or tell if they are lying, it would have the propensity to ruin relationships. Utter truth or honesty can lead to more uncomfortable feelings and less connection.

Even If You Could Read Someone’s Mind, You Wouldn’t Want To

Friends are the most valuable social relationships we have. They increase our lifespan, they help us in need, and they aren't bound by more than choice, which is what makes their presence so powerful in our lives.Being genuine and authentic fosters trust and deeper connections with others.

A friend in need is a friend indeed

<a href="https://www.azquotes.com/quote/670597">There is no possession more valuable than a good and faithful friend.</a>

Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to recognize, understand, and manage one's own emotions, as well as those of others. Barker highlights how individuals with high emotional intelligence tend to have better relationships, communicate more effectively, and navigate conflicts more successfully.Developing empathy allows individuals to understand others' perspectives and respond appropriately, leading to smoother interactions and conflict resolution.

Emotional Intelligence and Empathy is Key

Barker emphasizes that social skills are not just beneficial; they are essential for success in various aspects of life. From forming friendships to excelling in professional settings, the ability to navigate social interactions with ease can significantly impact one's quality of life and opportunities.While some people may have a natural aptitude for social interactions, social skills can be developed and honed through practice and self-awareness.

Social intelligence can be learned

Barker illustrates how collaboration harnesses the collective strengths and expertise of individuals to achieve common goals more efficiently and effectively than working alone. Successful collaboration requires effective communication, mutual respect, and a shared vision.

Collaboration Fuels Success

Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but how it is handled can determine the outcome. Barker discusses strategies for navigating conflicts constructively, such as active listening, seeking common ground, and finding win-win solutions that address the needs of all parties involved.Empathy involves putting oneself in another person's shoes and understanding their thoughts, feelings, and perspectives. Barker explains how empathy facilitates better communication, conflict resolution, and relationship building by allowing individuals to connect with others on an emotional level.

Lean into Conflict, it's inevitable

AN INSTANT USA TODAY and PUBLISHERS WEEKLY BESTSELLERFrom the author of the Wall Street Journal bestseller Barking Up the Wrong Tree comes a cure-all for our increasing emotional distance and loneliness—a smart, surprising, and thoroughly entertaining guide to help build better friendships, reignite love, and get closer to others, whether you’re an extrovert or introvert, socially adept or socially anxious.Can you judge a book by its cover? Is a friend in need truly a friend indeed? Does love conquer all? Is no man an island? In Plays Well with Others, Eric Barker dives into these age-old maxims drawing on science to reveal the truth beyond the conventional wisdom about human relationships. Combining his compelling storytelling and humor, Barker explains what hostage negotiation techniques and marital arguments have in common, how an expert con-man lied his way into a twenty-year professional soccer career, and why those holding views diametrically opposed to our own actually have the potential to become our closest, most trusted friends.Inside you will learn:<ul><li>The two things essential to making friends – and what Dale Carnegie got wrong.</li><li>What creates love, reignites love, and sustains love. (There’s no Build-A-Bear store for a happy marriage but this is close.)</li><li>The ethical and effective way to get your partner to change.</li><li>How social media can actually improve relationships.</li><li>The antidote to loneliness and why what we usually hear doesn’t work.</li></ul>And so much more. The book is packed with high-five-worthy stories about the greatest female detective to ever live, the most successful liar to ever open his mouth, genius horses, thieving hermits, the perils of perfect memories, and placebos. Leveraging the best evidence available—free of platitudes or magical thinking—Barker analyzes multiple sides of an issue before rendering his verdict. What he’s uncovered is surprising, counterintuitive, and timely—and will change the way you interact in the world and with those around you just when you need it most.

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Eric Barker is the author of The Wall Street Journal bestseller Barking Up the Wrong Tree which has been translated into more than 20 languages. Over 500,000 people have subscribed to his weekly newsletter. His work has been covered by The New York Times, The Atlantic, The Financial Times, and others. Eric is also a sought-after speaker, having given talks at MIT, Yale, Google, the United States Military Central Command (CENTCOM), and the Olympic Training Center. His new bestseller, “Plays Well with Others,” was released by HarperCollins in May of 2022.

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Chewing gum can improve memory:<ul><li>Chewing gum while studying can create a connection to information through scent.</li><li>During a test, chewing the same gum can trigger the scent memory, helping you remember the information.</li></ul>If you want to improve your quiz score, try this simple trick. However, it's important to note that this should not replace regular studying. It's just a quick way to give your memory a boost on test day.

Power of Gum

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Does chewing gum during a test actually work?

The mind is a scattered place with millions of thoughts guiding you each day to make different choices regarding yourself and your surroundings. These choices define your character:
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<li>By assessing, understanding, and learning from your past choices and actions you can begin to shape your identity and understand yourself. </li>
<li>By getting to know yourself better you can learn to recognize your flaws and embrace them. begin to develop love for your mind, body, and character traits.</li>
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Understanding yourself

You can choose to grow or you can choose to give up

Sometimes people around you are going to make mistakes and unreasonable choices that are out of your control, this does not mean you have to react unreasonably or irrationally you cannot control peoples thoughts or actions but by simply observing and moving on from the situation you can learn to accept things for what they are

Choosing to observe

Growth starts with effort and dedication.

Everyone has said they are working on a struggle such as anger, self doubt, health etc think about what actions you can implement into your everyday life to achieve these goals you are setting for yourself
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<li>Think about what it is your trying to improve why do you think what you think, say what you say, do what you do try to find a healthier mindset and alternative solutions</li>
<li>Realize that you are not alone people all over the world cope with problems and are trying to better themselves many people understand your feelings and can help you through things you don't know how to approach.</li>
</ul>

Working on yourself

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The effort to grow

People tend to underestimate their own ability to lie (Elaad, 2003).There are several reasons why people think they are worse liars than they actually are. First, they tend to overestimate the extent to which their own thoughts, emotions, and other mental states are transparent to others (e.g., illusion of transparency, Gilovich, Savitsky, & Medvec, 1998). In other words, people mistakenly believe that their lies shine through. Second, self-perceptions are typically characterised by positive illusions (Taylor & Brown, 1988),

Good Liars

and people typically think of themselves as being more moral than most others (Kaplar & Gordon, 2004).Admitting to being a good liar does not match with this positive self-image. Third, although people tell more white lies than serious lies, they remember their serious lies better than their white lies (Elaad, 2003).

Finally, perhaps people remember better those times when their lies failed than when they lied successfully, particularly if these failed lies resulted in negative consequences.By forgetting the times they lied successfully, they may underestimate how often their lies succeed.People tend to overestimate their own ability to detect lies (Elaad, 2003) and more lies remain unnoticed than they generally think.

Poor Lie Detectors

There are many reasons why lies remain undetected, and they can be clustered into three main categories (Vrij, 2007): poor motivation; difficulties associated with lie detection; and common errors made by lie detectors.

Why do people lie? Do gender and personality differences affect how people lie? How can lies be detected? Detecting Lies and Deceit provides the most comprehensive review of deception to date. This revised edition provides an up-to-date account of deception research and discusses the working and efficacy of the most commonly used lie detection tools, including: <ul> <li>Behaviour Analysis Interview</li> <li>Statement Validity Assessment</li> <li>Reality Monitoring</li> <li>Scientific Content Analysis</li> <li>Several different polygraph tests</li> <li>Voice Stress Analysis</li> <li>Thermal Imaging</li> <li>EEG-P300</li> <li>Functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging (fMRI)</li> </ul> All three aspects of deception are covered: nonverbal cues, speech and written statement analysis and (neuro)physiological responses. The most common errors in lie detection are discussed and practical guidelines are provided to help professionals improve their lie detection skills. Detecting Lies and Deceit is a must-have resource for students, academics and professionals in psychology, criminology, policing and law.

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Detecting Lies and Deceit

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