Srinivas Prabhu's Key Ideas from The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
by Mark Manson

Many people tend to focus on shitty values, so it's important to find some good ones to believe in.

Comparison of success, seeking pleasure over anything else, measuring life through material success are some shitty values. Instead develop good values like honesty, generosity, creativity and humility.

Sometimes we feel like victims, but positive change only happens when you take full responsibility for your life.

When we stop blaming others, or the situation for the shit we are in, then and only then is positive change attainable.

We often flee when our identity is threatened, but identity is an illusion, a mental construct.

Similar to a comfort zone, we form an identity of who we are. And as soon as there is a possibility of change, we avoid it, we choose the "flight" path. Our desperation to protect our identity is often more a hindrance than help. Identity is an illusion, a mental construct which isn't real, and we shouldn't let them dictate our lives. 

Learn to let go of your identity.

You need to accept your mistakes and insecurities if you want to see positive change.

You need to question yourself every once in a while, to know that you're on the right path, and not feeding your insecurities, or making the same mistakes.

Romantic love can be destructive unless we learn to control it.

For example, the greatest love story you know, Romeo and Juliet, is hardly a happy one. It's a rather chaotic story involving murder, blood feuds and ending with suicide. 

Let your love be healthy, and not destructive or unhealthy.

Humans are terrified of death, and so they try to live on beyond it.

Ernest Becker wrote a book called "The Denial of Death", where he writes about two main ideas. Firstly, that humans are terrified of dying, and secondly, humans try to create a conceptual self that will live on after their demise. 

This has led to war, demise and widespread destruction. The desperate urge to make a mark causes stress and anxiety.

So, we need to stop "giving a fuck" about fame and power, and instead focus on the present. Live here and now.

We try to do too much in life and this leads to stress and unhappiness. Each of us needs to learn to stop “giving a fuck” about the things that are causing us pain. Choose what it is you really want to care about, and develop a more constructive approach to work, love and life itself.

FORGET FOMO AND LEARN TO SAY NO