The Calm Workbook

And what are your tools to get there?

The most important tool that we can learn to use is reflective writing. How else can we start to improve our models and ideas thst make up life now? Writing down our goals, fears and musings with daily routine provides us with daily information about the life we want to direct.

It can be just 15 minutes once or twice a day, and answering a few preset questions with a few sentences. First it can be difficult, so write whatever comes to mind. Soon you may notice you start providing creative answers to your own pressing questions.

Writing with a routine also helps us in describing people, troubles and musings with sentences that elevate their value for you.

Imagine a friend comes to help you move. Instead of plainly describing the fact, imagine writing in the evening: "She is one friend I can always trust. I need to appreciate and respect her more." You were just able to build depth and strength into the friendship, that can become visible in reality with routine.

In other words, look for the upper register, however mundane and banal the interactions are.

Going to the museum to view works of art without cameras can provide us with a perspective that escapes our view in the daily grind.

Every day we should seek to stare a painting, a nice view or an impressive photo for a while just to remind us that our busyness just might be quite insignificant.