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“Transitions should be marked, milestones commemorated, and pits filled. That’s the essence of thinking in moments.”
“Defining moments shape our lives, but we don’t have to wait for them to happen. We can be the authors of them.”
Defining moments stand out, they influence us, cause us to rethink our direction, re-shape the trajectory of our lives.
We can engineer these moments—or at least create the conditions for them to emerge. To create more and more powerful defining moments, we need to become “moment-spotters”—learn to spot occasions to invest in. Our focus on goals can blind us to the possibility of a given moment—even as moments can support the achievement of goals.
Research has found that in recalling an experience, we ignore most of what happened and focus instead on a few particular moments.
When people assess an experience, they tend to forget or ignore its length—a phenomenon called “duration neglect.” Instead, they seem to rate the experience based on two key moments:
Psychologists call it the “peak-end rule.”
A defining moment must include at least one of these elements—it does not have to include all four.
Three situations constitute natural defining moments and deserve our attention:
Peaks don’t emerge naturally. They must be built.
To elevate a moment, do three things:
Moments of elevation need not have all three elements but most have at least two.
Moments of elevation lift us above the everyday. Moments of insight spark discoveries about our world and ourselves. Moments of pride capture us at our best—showing courage, earning recognition, conquering challenges.
To produce moments of self-insight, we need to stretch: placing ourselves in new situations that expose us to the risk of failure. The promise of stretching is not success, it’s learning.
There are three practical principles we can use to create more moments of pride:
The first principle creates defining moments for others; the latter two allow us to create defining moments for ourselves.
Hitting a milestone sparks pride. It should also spark a celebration—a moment of elevation. (Don’t forget that milestones, along with pits and transitions, are three natural defining moments that deserve extra attention.) Milestones deserve peaks.
To identify milestones, ask yourself: What’s inherently motivating? What would be worth celebrating that might only take a few weeks or months of work? What’s a hidden accomplishment that is worth surfacing and celebrating?
Purpose is defined as the sense that you are contributing to others, that your work has a broader meaning.
Passion is the feeling of excitement or enthusiasm you have for your work.
Responsiveness encompasses three things:
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