Stop Fearing Critical Feedback — Fear Not Getting It Instead

One should not be defensive when provided with negative feedback, and understand that it is for our own good.

One needs to act on the feedback by approaching it from a neutral and objective standpoint, not taking it as a personal attack. Instead of reacting, just pause and listen. Reflect on the feedback, giving yourself some time and space to respond with a level head.

1. Specify exactly whose opinion you are worried about.
2. Identify the source of your fear.
3. Don’t get defensive as a reflex action.
4. Drill through the talk to find the real areas of concern.
5. Politely disagree with anything you think isn’t right.
6. Maintain a balanced posture and remain civil.
7. Think about how you will be able to handle it.
8. Remember that perceptions and opinions can change.
9. Check your existing belief patterns.

Develop an attitude to learn and improvise, every day.

Regular negative feedback tapers our sensitive, reactive nature by making us thick-skinned and takes us on the path to make ourselves better.

1. Set up a 1-on-1 meeting with your boss proactively and ask for feedback.
2. Feel the discomfort and endure it, removing any initial fear or resistance.
3. Listen to understand, not to blurt out your defence.
4. Express your gratitude to the person giving the feedback.
5. Regularly ask for advice with your bosses and peers.