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Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less. - CS Lewis
Self-esteem that is bound to external success can lead to small spurts of happiness but is not long lasting. Focus more on the betterment of yourself for the sake of those around you, rather than for your own ego.
Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. - Eleanor Roosevelt
Deep conversations are often those we reserve for close friends and family, which explains why close relationships are so important for our happiness.
Experiences trump material purchases (in general) for the 5 following reasons:
Researchers found that although the process of becoming proficient at something took its toll on people in the form of stress,
participants reported that these same activities made them feel happy and satisfied when they looked back on their day as a whole.
"When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it."
- A study on the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying
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Being “rushed” puts you on the fast track to being miserable.
Live a productive life at a comfortable pace. Learn to say no to busywork.
National surveys find that when someone claims to have 5 or more friends with whom they can discuss important problems, they are 60 percent more likely to say that they are ‘very happy’.
Excerpt from the book Finding Flow.
True friends really are worth their weight in gold. Check in regularly with close friends (around every two weeks).
Self-esteem is good for confidence, but self-esteem that is bound to external success can be quite fickle.
Think of yourself less and avoid the trap of tying your self-worth to external signals.
Not everyone knows how to be happy or how to deal with the bumps and annoyances of life. When people get stuck in temporary setbacks, they can easily forget that happiness is never out of reach.
When life throws a curveball, it's enough to make anyone complain. However, when complaining goes unchecked, it can become a habit that makes it easier to be negative than positive.
Tips for coping:
Being overly critical of ourselves can increase anxiety about a situation. Mulling over what happened is like self-criticism on repeat.
Tips for silencing your inner critic:
... even if it's stressful. Mastering a new skill means more stress now but more happiness later.
The key is to choose the right new skill to master, a challenge to undertake, or ...
Geographically close friends (and neighbors) have the greatest effect on happiness.
Individual happiness cascades through groups of people, like contagion. So make friends with people who live near you.
Happiness can come from noticing and embracing a wide spectrum of emotions--both good and bad.
So don't ignore negative feelings. Embrace them--and then actively work toward overcoming whatever issues you face.