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What Resilience Really Looks Like and How to Build It

https://doist.com/blog/how-to-build-resilience/

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What Resilience Really Looks Like and How to Build It
The summer of 2013 was full of promise. I graduated from college with honors, spent a month traveling abroad and then moved across the country for graduate school in journalism - where I promptly fell flat on my face for basically the first time in my life.

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Resilience

Resilience

Resilience is the the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress. 

Resilient people are more likely to bounce back from stressful or traumatic situations, and they demonstrate an optimistic attitude, opting to see the lessons in failure.

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Resilience is a skill

Resilience is a skill

Resilience isn’t something you’re born with, but something you build. 

Psychologists say it’s comprised of behaviors, thoughts and actions that anyone can learn — a skill that can be improved, just like running or speaking a new language.

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Common patterns in building resilience

  • Relying on others. Resilience has a lot to do with leaning on the people around you and with developing strong, supportive connections.
  • Trust your own abilities. Keep a list of accomplishments you’re proud of to serve as a reminder of the times you’ve been resilient before.
  • Be kind to yourself. Give yourself permission to set physical, mental and emotional boundaries.
  • Change your outlook. While you can’t always control the situation, you do have control over how you respond to it. Cultivate optimism in the face of adversity.
  • Take the next step, even if it’s small. Build hope. Make a list that includes a goal, steps to achieve it, potential obstacles and strategies to overcome them.

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Writing down our experiences leads to new insights and a deeper understanding of our behaviour and actions. Writing down your failures and successes also helps us self-analyze our life in an objective, detached way. One can choose a pen and paper or digital format to write and make it a point to write when one experiences highs and lows in life.

Self-Compassion

We have to take care not to damage our self-esteem and our sense of self-worth by being judgemental about ourselves.

Embracing one’s imperfect moments with kindness and grace, makes us see the positive aspects of the situation and helps us learn from our mistakes. Meditation and certain thought exercises that steer our mind towards positivity, help us in being compassionate towards ourselves.

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Mental resilience

Resilience is the ability to walk through bad experiences.

It generally means adapting well in the face of chronic or acute adversity.

Psychological flexibility

  • Psychological flexibility gives us the ability to shift perspectives and actions when we’re experiencing discomfort or difficulty without feeling overwhelmed.
  • Psychological flexibility means not avoiding difficult emotions, but accepting them as part of life.
  • Psychological flexibility also means prioritizing what matters to you and concentrating of what is within your control, to reach your goals.

How to be more resilient

There are three elements you can focus on:

  • Developing a set of coping mechanisms
  • Nurturing the psychological flexibility to accept difficult emotions and knowing how and when to deploy your various coping strategies
  • Being mindful of your values, so that you can continue to live a meaningful life in the face of adversity.

Mindset

Our beliefs about ourselves and the stories we tell ourselves as a result of those beliefs have a profound effect on our happiness and relationships.

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Optimism

Optimism isn’t about wearing rose-colored glasses. It’s about choosing how you interpret the events in your life. 

Research has shown that when we look at life through a lens of positivity, we are more likely to enjoy better mental and physical health. It’s also a key component when it comes to business success.

Gratitude

The simple act of looking for things to be grateful for attunes our brains to the good. Gratitude is closely linked to our sense of well-being and makes us more resilient in the face of adversity. 

Expressing gratitude reduces toxic emotions, diminishes depression, increases happiness and enriches relationships.