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How to use fear before it uses you
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Identify must-have goals
Try imagining yourself when you are 80 years old, nearing the end of your life. Look back on your life as if you had not achieved the goal you are after at this moment in your life. What are your regrets? What do you wish you had made more time for? Is there sadness and regret?
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Excuses=Emotional Safety
We make excuses and push aside our dreams. There’s just not enough time, money, etc.) And we start to hide behind those excuses. They’re safe. By becoming more cognizant of your brain’s tendency for using excuses, the better you will become at dismissing them.
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Success is Adopting a Growth Mindset
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Pain offers insight
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Failure is an impactful teacher
There is no lesson in resilience better than the burn of rejection. But if you use these experiences and adjust your strategy and approach the next time around, you will have an advantage that no one else does.
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Define the Problem in Writing
Write a clear description of your problem, the answer to the question, “What exactly am I worrying about?”
Fully 50% of all problems can be solved at this definition stage. Many of our worries exist because we have not taken the time to sit down and really define clearly what it is that is bothering us.
The Worst Possible Outcome
Write out the worst possible outcome of the worry situation. Answer the question, “What is the worst possible thing that can happen as a result of this problem?”
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Procrastination And The Fear Of Failure
Recent studies on procrastination seems to suggest that the fear of failure could be a core reason for postponing tasks, as it is hard to:
- Amend mistakes.
- Lack of expected progress even with the effort being put.
- A wasted day having a spillover effect on the next day.
- Lack of practice.
- Lack of trying again.
We need to detect patterns in our behaviour and recognize the cause of any hidden or camouflaged fear.
Procrastination And Making Excuses
There is a denial of procrastination, where we are telling ourselves that we are working as we should and there is no problem at all. The valid justifications we make to cover the problem or delay is essentially an excuse.
We make excuses as it is a valid cover to protect our self interest, and we often blame other people and circumstances to cover our own failure. If we could simply stop making excuses and start calling a spade a spade, we would learn a lot from our own behaviour.
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Your resolve
The secret to effectively setting and achieving your goals is to have a large vision and an achievable plan.
The pursuit matters
The pursuit matters just as much as the goal.
Consider why you're pursuing your goal and how the journey to achieve it will help you grow as a person.
The right scope
People often give up on their resolutions because they set unattainable goals.
Try to set a goal that you can reasonably achieve within one year. If it is challenging to complete it in your set timeframe, you might become overwhelmed and give up. If the goal will take more than one year, try and set a benchmark for what you'd like to accomplish in a year.