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The fragile, non-resilient approach to change
The problem when we try to change make changes in our lives:
- We set out to do something regularly (for example, exercise, meditate or write something)
- We fail at it
- We might beat ourselves up, get discouraged, and give up.
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The idea of anti-fragility
It comes from Nassim Nicholas Taleb’s book Black Swan. The main idea is that many human-made systems are fragile. Something comes to stress the system, and it falls apart. Some systems are robust or resilient, which is much better than fragile.
Even better is the idea of being anti-fragile: stress makes the system stronger.
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Failure helps systems get stronger
We can make human-made systems more anti-fragile by designing ways that stress will make the system better able to handle stress.
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Key ideas for Anti-Fragility
- Expect failures.
- Create systems that are able to get stronger with stresses & failure.
- Removing fragility from systems.
- Take small risks often.
- Embrace uncertainty, risk and discomfort.
- Keep the "always learn & get better from failure" attitude.
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The Habit Dip
While pursuing a new habit, or eradicating an old one, we often experience a dip in motivation, focus and energy. This is due to many factors, like loss of motivation due to any in...
The Learnings Of The Habit Dip
The habit dip and other dips in motivation teach us the following:
- Facing our difficulties, and not avoiding them.
- Self-encouragement.
- Letting of the false beliefs and ideals that make us discouraged.
- Dealing with frustration and fear.
- Self-nourishment.
- Self-compassion.
- Avoiding the usual excuses for quitting.
- Avoiding self-pity or self-concern when things get hard.
Tips For When You're Experiencing Habits Dips
Anyone who has overcome the habit dip (like a marathon runner) will testify that the feelings of discouragement and boredom are temporary. Like everything else, these temporary feelings are waypoints and not endpoints.
- One has to come with a learning mindset, bringing genuine interest, encouragement and curiosity, letting go of the old beliefs and ideals.
- One can bring mindfulness and awareness into each body sensation, and the minds many discouragements.
- A continuous learning experience can make one embrace the difficult areas.
Postponing Things With Little Value
We often have an urge to do things that have no productive value, but we still do them due to the forces of habit or when we cannot say no to others.An effective way to deal with such tasks is to delay them.
Whether it is snacking, playing a video game, browsing videos, or even smoking, one can delay the desire for doing the activity by keeping oneself intentionally busy.
Listen To Understand
While listening to others speak, a million thoughts come to our mind, about how we have handled similar situations, and how many mistakes the other person has made in what is being stated. We normally blurt out at the first chance and criticize the other person, or boast about our superhuman abilities.
A better way is to delay that, keeping quiet and simply listening to the other person, focusing on one's breath if needed.
Disruption of Progress
Whenever an outside force interrupts our progress - we skip gym for a day or two for example - it sends a message to our brains that we aren't good enough and ...
The Magic of a Fresh Start
A fresh start allows us to let go of what's happened in the past and just be present for ourselves at the moment. It allows us to learn from our failures and gives us the opportunity to do better, to be better, and to grow past the difficulties.
We are allowed to reinvent ourselves and what ever we may be facing. We can reinvent what we want our lives to be. We can always recommit, and remind ourselves why we are committed to this. This fresh start is available to us in every single moment.