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People with narcissi...
Those with narcissistic personalities are pretty good at turning on the charm. Watch how they treat people when they’re not “on stage.” If you catch them lying, manipulating, or blatantly disrespecting others, there’s no reason to believe they won’t do the same to you.
The first step in dealing with a narcissistic personality is simply accepting that this is who they are.
Some people with narcissistic personalities enjoy making others squirm. Try not to get visibly flustered or show annoyance, as that will only urge them to continue.
If it’s someone you’d like to keep close in your life, then you owe it to yourself to speak up. Try to do this in a calm, gentle manner. Tell them how their words and conduct impact your life. Be specific and consistent about what’s not acceptable and how you expect to be treated.
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Sometimes our closest and most important relationships are also the most difficult. Our relationships are both cooperative and competitive. We work together with the ones we love but also h...
Doing everything to make your life seems perfect may make you a target for resentment.
People who inspire the most trust are those who show warmth and competence. While we may be competent, warmth may be lacking. To ensure you don't inspire envy, screw up a little. It will make you seem more approachable. Embarrassing yourself makes you a lot more human.
Just asking people, "Is this a good time to talk?" increases compliance with requests.
Show that you care by doing little things, even if they're ridiculous.
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Maintain eye contact. Smile when the other person smiles. Frown when they frown.
In simple, nonverbal ways, mimic the other's person's behavior--not slavishly, but because you're focus...
Charming people are confident enough to be unafraid to show a little vulnerability. They're even willing to admit a weakness or a failure.
They know that while some people may be, at least temporarily, impressed by what's artificial, everyone sincerely likes and appreciates the genuine.
Charming people don't actively (or unknowingly) look to disagree; they look for points of agreement.
Then, if it's appropriate, they gently share a different point of view, and in that way, help create an outstanding conversation.