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What to Do When a Stranger Annoys You

theschooloflife.com

How we manage our indignation

We may sometimes be in situations where a stranger will do something very irritating or discomforting: They may turn up their music too loudly. They may assign us to a hotel room where the air conditioning will have a high pitched whine. In a restaurant, a fly may be floating in the soup.

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When dealing with someone annoying, the way forward is not with silence or rage. We are ideally looking for a way to be polite and honest, or civil and forthright.

To achieve this, we should accept that not everything we desire will please others. We could explore and hold...

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We're seldom very good at perceiving someone's motives when an incident drives us mad. We see intention where there was none and escalate a situation when the agitated response is not warranted.

The less we like ourselves, the more we may appear in our own eyes as plausibl...

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The actual words don't matter. What counts is the lightness of tone that comes from an impression of the legitimacy or our position. For example:

  • I love this song as well, but at the moment, I need to get some sleep (when someone is playing their music loudly nea...

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