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7 Ways to Learn from Your Negative Thoughts

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7 Ways to Learn from Your Negative Thoughts
"The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled." ~Plutarch I remember when I first learned about positive thinking. I was to observe my thoughts, then sort them into "useful" and "not useful." This made sense to me, and it surprised me how many "not useful" thoughts I encountered.

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Observe your emotions

Observe your emotions

... without judging. However you feel is fine. Emotions are attention-getting devices that the mind uses to help you observe your thoughts. 

Notice, especially, when you don’t feel good. 

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Notice thoughts behind the emotions

Feelings are caused by thoughts. You can access these thoughts by asking “Why? I feel this way?” 

The thoughts behind the emotion can show you your mind’s misunderstandings, because any thought that causes an unpleasant emotion is likely caused by an assumption. And assumptions can be redefined.

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Channel your inner toddler

Channel your inner toddler

Question everything. Ask yourself what you might be assuming.

Dig deeply, and look at every facet of that assumption. It might be helpful to type or write this out.

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Question your beliefs

Look at the “evidence” for your belief.

The mind can only see evidence for what it already believes. Seek what experiences is your mind using to prove its “negative thought” true. List them. Then ask why they are true and if they make sense.

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Come up with other possibilities

Come up with other possibilities

... and find evidence for at least one of them. Your mind is subconsciously finding evidence for its assumptions, and now you are going to fight fire with fire.

Repetition is how the mind learns. Eventually, your subconscious mind will accept your redefinitions, and you will see a natural end to your negative thoughts.

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