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5 Ways To Turn Your Mistake Into A Valuable Life Lesson

https://www.forbes.com/sites/amymorin/2017/07/17/5-ways-to-turn-your-mistake-into-a-valuable-life-lesson/

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5 Ways To Turn Your Mistake Into A Valuable Life Lesson
Have you ever found yourself saying, "I'll never do that again," only to find yourself doing the exact same thing just a short time later? If so, you're not alone. It's likely all of us have repeated some of our mistakes at one time or another.

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Acknowledge Your Errors

Acknowledge Your Errors

Blaming other people or minimizing your responsibility isn’t helpful to anyone.

Before you can learn from your mistakes, you have to accept full responsibility for your role in the outcome. That can be uncomfortable sometimes, but until you can say, “I messed up,” you aren’t ready to change.

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Ask Yourself Tough Questions

Ask Yourself Tough Questions

While you don’t want to dwell on your mistakes, reflecting on them can be productive. Ask yourself a few tough questions:

• What went wrong?

• What could I do better next time?

• What did I learn from this?

Seeing your answers on paper can help you think more logically about an irrational or emotional experience.

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Make A Plan

Make A Plan

It’s important to spend your time thinking about how to do better in the future, not beating yourself up for messing up.

Make a plan that will help you avoid making a similar mistake. Be as detailed as possible but remain flexible since your plan may need to change.

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Make It Harder To Mess Up

Make It Harder To Mess Up

Don’t depend on willpower alone to prevent you from taking an unhealthy shortcut or from giving into immediate gratification. Increase your chances of success by making it harder to mess up again.

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Reasons To Stay On Track

Reasons To Stay On Track

Creating a list of all the reasons why you should stay on track could help you stay self-disciplined, even during the toughest times.

Self-discipline is like a muscle. Each time you delay gratification and make a healthy choice, you grow mentally stronger.

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6 Steps to Turn Regret Into Self-Improvement

6 Steps to Turn Regret Into Self-Improvement

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Stop beating yourself up, and turn your emotions into action. Have you ever felt like life would be better if you had taken a different path? If only you had pursued that job, ended that relationship sooner or moved to a new city, everything would be just perfect. Nonsense, of course.

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The disease of "What if"

It’s human nature to linger on feelings of regret. We look back and think that missed opportunities(real or not) could have set us on a different, possibly more rewarding path. Unchecked, th...

Turn regret into motivation

  • Acknowledge how you cope with regret: ignoring it makes it more present
  • Stop the regrets spiral, until you are ready to face the situation with more clarity
  • Revisit the story and identify practical lessons you can learn from it
  • Treat yourself like your ideal mentor would
  • Ask yourself why you feel regret and work backward to identify the values that are tied up in your feelings
  • The cure for anticipating regret isn’t feeling lousy or overthinking, but pursuing solutions, using the wisdom gained through self-reflection.

Turn regret into motivation

  1. Acknowledge how you cope with regret: ignoring it makes it more present;
  2. Stop the regrets spiral, until you are ready to face the situation with more clarity;
  3. Revisit the story and identify practical lessons you can learn from it;
  4. Ask yourself why you feel regret and work backward to identify the values that are tied up in your feelings;
  5. The cure for anticipating regret isn’t feeling lousy or overthinking, but pursuing solutions, using the wisdom gained through self-reflection.
When speaking a new language, what matters most is your attitude - not your accuracy

When speaking a new language, what matters most is your attitude - not your accuracy

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This post is part of TED's "How to Be a Better Human" series, each of which contains a piece of helpful advice from people in the TED community; browse through all the posts here. When we're studying a new language, many of us approach it with fear and trepidation.

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Language as a tool

When students are learning a new language, it is notable that some can express their thoughts beautifully with a limited vocabulary. Still, others that know the language much better struggle to m...

The struggle

Some people have a fear of being wrong. They measure success by how few mistakes they make.

Some people know what the language should sound like, where they are at currently, and how far they have to go to get there.

Where to put your focus

Speaking a language is not like those exams that many of us had to take in grade school, where a tiny grammar mistake would lose you marks.

In the real world, small errors don't matter. What matters is to make yourself understood. 

Don't focus on yourself or on your own mistakes. Focus on the other person you're talking to and the result you want to get. 

Budgeting Basics: Budgeting Mistakes to Avoid

Budgeting Basics: Budgeting Mistakes to Avoid

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Everyone makes financial mistakes from time to time - that's just part of life. Learning about common budgeting mistakes can reduce your odds of making them. In the same way that it's impossible to stick to a diet if you don't know how much you're eating, it's impossible to stick to your budget if you don't know where your money is going.

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Common budgeting mistakes

  1. Not Tracking Expenses: it's impossible to stick to your budget if you don't know where your money is going.
  2. Buying on Impulse: Impulse buying is expensive.&nb...

Tracking expenses

One of the ugly truths about budgeting is that when you keep track of your expenses, it’s painfully clear when you’ve gone off track. 

Write it down when you’ve gone over your budget. The negativity you feel will help prevent you from overspending more or doing it again. Just think of this step as damage control.

Being frugal and miserable

If you try to deprive yourself too much, you’ll binge later and throw all your hard work out the window. 

A spending binge can set you back far more than treating yourself occasionally, so go for the occasional minor splurge. Just keep your treats within your spending limits and you’ll be fine.