Listen to your thoughts — but don’t necessarily believe them.
They're suggestions, possibilities. But they’re not gospel. You can’t control what thoughts pop up, but you can decide what is helpful and choose not to give the unhelpful thoughts any more attention than they deserve.
Doing little positive things is better for happiness than occasionally bagging an elephant:
If you want to keep your brain happy, be clear on who your support network is. Know who matters and nurture those relationships.
The best thing to do is to talk with the person in real life or meet up for an activity. The next best thing is talking on the phone, which is better than texts or emails. Seeing someone and hearing their voice activates your mirror neuron system in ways that texting can’t match.
Some questions to help you:
Beating yourself up won’t make you better. Instead of self-criticism, try self-reassurance.
When you’re trying to quit bad habits you often get critical with yourself which leads to bad feelings that make you cave and go back to your old ways. And self-criticism can also easily lead to bad moods.
You don’t need to buy anything or do anything to feel happier. You just need to appreciate what you already have.
Gratitude can decrease depression symptoms as well as stress in general and leads to increased perception of social support. It improves self-esteem and psychological well-being.
Importantly, gratitude has the power to activate the dopamine system.
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