Miri Swift's Key Ideas from The "Oh Shit" Factor
by Jerry Jampolsky, Julie Ruffo

Our egos refuse to accept that what we see in the world is but a reflection of the thoughts and attitudes in our own minds that we are projecting outwards. As difficult as it may be to believe, it is important to consider that we create the picture of what we see and that our thoughts create our own reality. The ego law states that if something is going wrong in our lives, we should find someone else to blame. It would have us believe that it is someone else's fault, not our own. We need to take responsibility for our own actions and actively begin to clean out our minds.

Perception is a reflection of our own thoughts, not a universal truth. Negative thoughts have a harmful effect on our mental and physical health, and the way we see and interact with others.

Condemning thoughts keep us trapped in a state of unforgiveness. Holding onto anger, blame, and guilt creates a toxic environment in our minds, leading to unhappiness and ill-being. Let go of these thoughts to achieve peace and well-being. Choose to release them.

By getting our own shit together, we can learn to live in harmony and become happy, creative, and successful in all of our relationships.

• Our minds tend to become conflicted. Learn to respect your gut feelings, which are closely tied to your heart feelings.
• When making decisions in life, we always have a choice to either listen to the voice of our heart and gut or to the voice of fear.
• We can't change unless we are aware of what needs changing.
• Believe in yourself and separate yourself from the negative imagery that others have projected onto you.

• The crucial ingredient for healing any relationship problem is the willingness to no longer see value in playing the game of blame and guilt.
• The thoughts and attitudes of others can't harm you unless you choose to let them into your mind.
• An unforgiving attitude actually fuels your insecurities.
• Forgiveness frees and empowers us to become the person that our hearts desire.
• Forgiveness does not mean condoning or agreeing with outrageous behavior.

1. Don't try to change other people's attitudes, but rather, learn to change your own.
2. We have the power to choose what thoughts and attitudes we put into our minds. We can choose to be miserable and pessimistic or to be happy and optimistic. We can choose to make decisions based on fear and judgements or to make decisions based on love. We can choose to experience peace or conflict. We can choose to be a victim or not. It is all up to us!
3. To achieve choosing inner peace as a goal, begin by exploring painful events in your past that you are still angry about and grudges you are still holding.

1. Nothing is impossible.
2. Everything is forgivable.
3. Holding on to grievances only hurts me and injures my health.
4. No one else has to change for me to forgive.
5. Forgiveness does not require a form.
6. By learning to forgive others, I can learn to forgive myself.
7. Forgiveness could take one second or several years, depending on what I believe.
8. My willingness to forgive is my springboard to a happy life.
9. Forgiveness is a continuous and never-ending process.
10. When I truly forgive myself or someone else 100%, I will no longer see the shadows of my past or of the past of the other person.

1. Recognize that putting shit thoughts in your mind will give you a shitty life.
2. Remember that if you throw shit at others, it will come back and hit you in the face.
3. Understand that forgiveness will wash out all your shitty thoughts and will clean out all the waste in your mind.
4. Stay in the present and stop living in the past.
5. Take responsibility for your own happiness💖
6. Decide you are not a victim, and let go of guilt and blame.
7. Decide each day not to hurt others or yourself with your thoughts or actions.
8. Love is the answer to any problem.
9. Learn to laugh at yourself.
10. Don't get stuck in your own shit!💩