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Change is in the Details

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Social Inequality

Social Inequality
  • Before we move towards a just society by going vocal globally, we need to cater to first place the injustice starts: Our Homes.
  • We need to have some hard conversations with our near and dear ones to understand the genesis of inequality and injustice before we try to eradicate the problem on a large scale.
  • We need to ask our loved ones how their beliefs, decisions, and choices came into being while keeping the conversation flowing by showing curiosity and not losing our temper.

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Tolerance and Broadening Our Mindsets

  • We need to find out how much tolerance we have of people that are different from us, whether it is their looks, background or belief patterns.
  • We also need to bust the myth that feeling really strongly about someone does not mean that one is right.
  • There are various online resources available like podcasts and videos that can educate individuals willing to understand reality and broaden their mindset about social inequality, diversity, and social justice.

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