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How to Be Happy When You're in an Unhappy Situation : zen habits

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How to Be Happy When You're in an Unhappy Situation : zen habits
Sometimes life throws you into a miserable situation, and it can seem pretty dark. Just a few examples of unhappy situations: You lost a loved one You received bad news Your finances are messed up You're having a bad day at work Your partner is mad at you or has broken up with you You're sick or really tired You're in pain Someone has hurt you emotionally These are terrible, and it's normal to be pretty unhappy when things like this happen.

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Allow yourself to be unhappy

Wanting to get away from the unhappiness doesn’t make it better. It usually just prolongs the pain.

Instead, tell yourself that it’s OK to feel unhappy. Pause and allow yourself to fee...

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See the pain as aliveness

Being alive means feeling pain, feeling fear, feeling disconnected sometimes. Allow yourself to feel it, and imagine that this is what living feels like.

Because life isn’t numbness an...

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Find gratitude somewhere

Find three happy things in this moment to be grateful for.

Even small things we take for granted, like eyesight and music. Having relationships. Being supported by millions of people. ...

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Find joy in being alive

Even in our worst moments, we can find some joy in this not-small fact, that we are alive. 

Your heart is pumping. How freakin’ awesome is that?

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Happiness

Happiness

Happiness, like other emotions, is not something you acquire. It is something you are.
This implies that happiness is not a goal that you can reach. It is a side effect of a particular set of ongoing life experiences.

Happiness is not the same as pleasure

While pleasure is correlated with happiness, pursuing pleasure does not cause happiness.

People who focus their energy on materialistic and superficial pleasures end up more anxious and less happy in the long run. Pleasure is necessary, but it's insufficient.

Lowering one’s expectations

Failing to meet your own expectations is not the opposite of happiness. Your ability to fail and still appreciate the experience is key to happiness.

The joy is not in getting what you want, but the process of working towards it, then raising the bar, and doing it again. If you fail, learn from it. 

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Change and the unchangeable

We like to think that things can be changed. That we are in control somehow.  That's why “never” hurts, because never means that it can’t be changed. “Never” means it’s over. It’s gone. And that’s really hard to bear.

Meaning and relationships

  • We generate meaning through relationships. And meaning is the fuel of our minds. 
  • Our relationships also define our understanding of ourselves. And when one of these relationships is destroyed, that part of our identity is destroyed along with it. 

Depression vs. sadness

  • Sadness occurs when something feels bad. 
  • Depression occurs when something feels meaningless. 

When something feels bad, at least it has meaning. In depression, everything becomes a big blank void. 

Time is Limited Yet Abundant

Most of us conflict with time. Time is a paradox and is both limited and abundant at the same time. We can do great things with time, provided we know how to use this invisible resource.

Use Time Intentionally

Once we realize that every moment is a gift, we will not waste it but use it intentionally, for something important and meaningful.

It is important that we set some clear priorities and create space for them. 

Contemplating Death

This exercise makes us value our limited time and sheds away the unnecessary activities from our day. 

We start living a vivid life, and slow down, becoming fully present in the moment, savoring time like a limited edition treat before it vanishes.