10 Signs You're Dating a Narcissist - Deepstash
10 Signs You're Dating a Narcissist

10 Signs You're Dating a Narcissist

Curated from: psychologytoday.com

Ideas, facts & insights covering these topics:

10 ideas

·

12.9K reads

20

Explore the World's Best Ideas

Join today and uncover 100+ curated journeys from 50+ topics. Unlock access to our mobile app with extensive features.

Loves to Talk About Oneself

Loves to Talk About Oneself

A pathological narcissist loves to talk about himself, often in exaggerated and grandiose terms. 

Common conversational topics for narcissists include accomplishments and achievements, exciting and envy-worthy activities, excessive focus on personal issues and concerns, excessive focus on looks and materialism, and putting others down to show one’s own superiority.

346

1.8K reads

Charming with a Catch

Many narcissists can come across as alluring and attractive, especially during the initial stages of a relationship.

While there’s nothing wrong inherently with being charming and romantic, the narcissist crafts these traits in order to use others. He or she is not really interested in you, but only in what he wants to extract from you.

310

1.37K reads

Lack of Reliability and Follow Through

Many narcissists lack reliability and follow through. This can range from regularly breaking appointments, to habitually falling through on promises and agreements.

When you observe a pattern of inconsistency between what your partner says, versus what she or he actually does, you may be dealing with a narcissist.

341

1.33K reads

Instant Gratification

Some narcissists, being highly self-centered and self-absorbed, expect instant gratification to fulfill their needs. 

A quick way to detect a possible narcissist is to gently say “no,” or “let me think about it” to a request you’re not comfortable with, and see how your date responds. 

328

1.36K reads

Boundary Breaker

The narcissist often enjoys getting away with breaking rules and social norms, such as cutting in line, chronic under-tipping or breaking multiple appointments.

In addition, pathological narcissists often show wanton disregard for other people’s thoughts, feelings, possessions, time, and physical space.

318

1.23K reads

Entitlement

Entitlement

Narcissists often expect people to cater to their needs, without being considerate in return. In their mindset, the world revolves around them. 

Pay attention to how your date treats service people, such as a waitress or waiter, and other support staff. If he or she orders them around like he’s the king, or picks on minor service flaws, be aware. 

313

1K reads

Manipulation

Some narcissists will use their romantic partners to meet unreasonable self-serving needs, fulfill unrealized ambitions, or cover up self-perceived inadequacies and flaws:

“I can’t wait to show you off to my friends and make them jealous!”

“I talked my girlfriend into letting me live with her rent-free. I also get to use her car.”

306

1.37K reads

Constantly Puts Others Down

Some narcissists will constantly put other people down, to boost their own desirability and acceptability. 

Targets of their negative talk may include “inferior” colleagues, “incompetent” managers, “clueless” friends, and “flawed” former relations. 

310

1.09K reads

Can't stand disappointment

A narcissist will frequently react negatively when you don’t give them what they want, in the way they want it. Some of the common responses include:

  • Anger – Tantrum. Negative judgment. Personal attacks. Ridicule.
  • Passive-Aggression – The silent treatment. Withhold of love and affection). Sarcasm. Calculated separation.
  • Emotional Coercion – Blame. Guilt trip. Calling the partner ungrateful. Threaten to withhold love and intimacy. Pretend narcissistic victimhood.

374

1.14K reads

Lack of Commitment

What distinguishes a narcissist’s lack of commitment is his or her desire to keep the status quo with you, reap the benefits of intimacy, while keeping an eye out for other, perhaps more eligible (in the narcissist’s view) prospects.

318

1.26K reads

IDEAS CURATED BY

rhettm

Love a good conversation, it's how we grow. I strive to do be better at it.

Rhett M.'s ideas are part of this journey:

Happiness At Work

Learn more about personaldevelopment with this collection

How to create a positive work environment

Techniques for cultivating gratitude and mindfulness at work

How to find purpose in your work

Related collections

Read & Learn

20x Faster

without
deepstash

with
deepstash

with

deepstash

Personalized microlearning

100+ Learning Journeys

Access to 200,000+ ideas

Access to the mobile app

Unlimited idea saving

Unlimited history

Unlimited listening to ideas

Downloading & offline access

Supercharge your mind with one idea per day

Enter your email and spend 1 minute every day to learn something new.

Email

I agree to receive email updates