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How Shift Happens in Our Lives : zen habits
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How change happens
- You struggle with the decision to change.
- You are finally ready to change. Something clicks for you.
- You start the shift, probably with some enthusiasm.
- You...
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Recognizing the need for change
It’s a powerful skill to take a look at your life and see that you need to make a change.
Often we know we need to change but don’t want to face it. The skill, then, is to get ve...
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Taking the first steps
When you are ready to take action, get good at actually getting started.
It doesn’t matter how you start — don’t get caught up in indecision and research. Instead, take action. ...
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Encouraging yourself
You will get discouraged or lose motivation at some point. Get good at encouraging yourself over and over again instead of discouraging yourself.
Also, get good at noticing when you're...
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The Habit Dip
While pursuing a new habit, or eradicating an old one, we often experience a dip in motivation, focus and energy. This is due to many factors, like loss of motivation due to any in...
The Learnings Of The Habit Dip
The habit dip and other dips in motivation teach us the following:
- Facing our difficulties, and not avoiding them.
- Self-encouragement.
- Letting of the false beliefs and ideals that make us discouraged.
- Dealing with frustration and fear.
- Self-nourishment.
- Self-compassion.
- Avoiding the usual excuses for quitting.
- Avoiding self-pity or self-concern when things get hard.
Tips For When You're Experiencing Habits Dips
Anyone who has overcome the habit dip (like a marathon runner) will testify that the feelings of discouragement and boredom are temporary. Like everything else, these temporary feelings are waypoints and not endpoints.
- One has to come with a learning mindset, bringing genuine interest, encouragement and curiosity, letting go of the old beliefs and ideals.
- One can bring mindfulness and awareness into each body sensation, and the minds many discouragements.
- A continuous learning experience can make one embrace the difficult areas.
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What Perspective Taking Is
It’s the ability to take on someone else’s point of view when thinking.
By taking yourself out of the equation, the motivations of your opponent becomes clearer. And by understanding the othe...
Develop perspective taking
- Put aside your feelings so that you can concentrate only on the other person’s perspective.
- Use open ended questions that can help you draw out the interests and motivation that the person may not be verbalizing.
- Be clear about your own position and the weaknesses it has.
- Remove any personal intentions you may have, so as not to project them on to the other person.
- Using what you know about the person, their background, their mood, their intentions and expectations, imagine how they are seeing the current situation.
- Validate their position by paraphrasing back to them what you think their position is.
Using perspective taking
When you break it down, almost every aspect of business involves an element of negotiation.
By honing your perspective taking skills, you are much more likely to come up with solutions that are acceptable to all parties.