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10 Powerful Ways to Influence People in a Positive Way
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Be Authentic
People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.
When someone professes to be one way but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic.
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Become an Expert
Become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others.
Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority.
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Learn to Tell Stories
Personal narratives, testimonials and impact stories are incredibly powerful.
Your stories should be related to the issue or concept you are discussing. They should be an analogy or metaphor that explains your topic in ordinary terms and in vivid detail.
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Lead by Example
To influence people in a positive way, we must lead by example, lead with intention and execute with excellence.
It is incredibly inspiring to watch passionate, talented people at work or play.
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Look for Successes
Catch people doing good. Once you do that, name and notice their contributions.
Look for often overlooked, but critically important things that your peers, subordinates and managers do that make the work more effective and more enjoyable.
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Celebrate Accomplishments
Celebrate the unique attributes and skills of your colleagues.
Learn to quickly and accurately assess what people are doing well and then let them and their colleagues know.
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Kind Rather Than Right
For people who lack confidence, or people who prioritize the opinions of others, being right is important. But in the quest to be “right,” we can hurt other people.
The antidote to that is to prioritize kindness above rightness. And you can be kind and still stand firm in your position.
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Understand the Needs of Others
The best way to influence others is to appeal to their logical, emotional and cooperative needs:
- Their logical need is their rational and educational need.
- Their emotional need is the information that touches them in a deeply personal manner.
- The cooperative need is understanding the level of cooperation various individuals need and then appropriately offering it.
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Understand Your Sphere Of Influence
Operate from your place of expertise. Leave everything else to others.
You cannot positively influence others if you are more preoccupied with what others do well versus what you do well.
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- We generate meaning through relationships. And meaning is the fuel of our minds.
- Our relationships also define our understanding of ourselves. And when one of these relationships is destroyed, that part of our identity is destroyed along with it.
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- Sadness occurs when something feels bad.
- Depression occurs when something feels meaningless.
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New Year Resolutions that Stick
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One Thing At A Time
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What You Can Control
You may not be able to change the external circumstances, stressful situations, or work environment. What you can do is control how you react to negative forces and stressful situations.
For example: If you get unhealthy food at your home, you can control how or when you eat it.