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How to Make Immediate Behavior Changes

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How to Make Immediate Behavior Changes
Most self-improvement "strategies" and even psychological interventions seek incremental progress. Be just a little bit better... And although this approach, especially over a long period of time, will yield results, there are better approaches to change. Actually, from a systems perspective, you can't change a part without simultaneously changing the whole.

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Stephen R. Covey

We control our actions, but the consequences that flow from those actions are controlled by principles.”

Stephen R. Covey

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The basic form immediate behavioral change:

The basic form immediate behavioral change:
Understanding and feeling the consequences of our behavior. Our actions don’t offer imediate feedback, so principles are important in recognizing the consequences of certain things without waiting.

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Normalcy bias

Normalcy bias

Underestimating the possibility of disasters occurring. People incorrectly assume things will be as they have always been.

Thus, they don’t have an urgency to prepare for the worst. The solution: practical or defensive pesimism.

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Take advantage of the default options

Take advantage of the default options

By changing the default option of certain choices is an easy way to immediately change behavior. Remove all distractions and non-essentials from your life, so doing the essentials becomes your “default position.”

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Strategies speed readers use

Strategies speed readers use
  • Skimming: quickly going through passages to find the main points.
  • Meta guiding uses a pointer, such as your index finger or a pen, to guide your eyes along the lines...

Effectiveness of Speed Reading

Regardless of which reading method you use, the evidence points towards the fact that speed comes at the sacrifice of understanding.

Depending on what you’re reading, this might not necessarily be a bad thing: If you’re trying to get through a dry piece to capture a few key points or you are going through a short piece that’s easy to understand, speed reading strategies might make sense.

Make the most of what you read

  1. Choose different reading pieces for different occasions: articles and light reads can be reserved for short periods. Books that require less focus can be listened to in audio format etc.
  2. Incorporate reading into your daily habit: put a book on your bedside table.
  3. Share your reads with others, to help you to better understand and appreciate what you read.
  4. Reflect on your reading: take notes or check out films that are based on novels (to compare interpretations).

Anger and Aggression

  • Anger: An emotion felt when we believe we have been wronged.
  • Aggression: is an act of expression of the anger, by our words our actions. Aggressio...

Validation and Boundaries

  • We can try and validate the anger felt by an individual by making them know that their anger is maybe justified while putting firm but respectful boundaries on their aggression.
  • We then need to be clear about what type of aggression we are willing to tolerate, setting boundaries on the unacceptable.
  • We may have to put our foot down and be ready to leave the conversation or escalate the issue, without falling into the trap of guilt and emotion.
  • If possible, we need to restart the conversation when things have cooled down, and diffuse the issue in a calm way.

Avoiding Speculative Self-Talk

Unchecked self-talk can easily turn into self-delusion. The stories we create almost always make you look like the good guy and cannot be termed as objective.

  • The way to get out of this speculative self-delusion is to avoid any speculation about other people's anger, at least initially.
  • Make sure to note down the facts of the situation. This can make the story less according to your gut instinct, and more towards the objective reality.

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The Art of Decision-making:

  1. Get 1% smarter every day;
  2. Focus on things that don’t change or change very slowly over t...

Decision-making cascades 

... through everything you do. That's the power of compounding. If you get 1% better at understanding how the world works, how human behavior works, how economic systems function, and understanding your own brain — that 1% improvement impacts everything you do. 

Study things that never change

The best kind of knowledge is not ephemeral junk , that will be useless in a few years, but the core pillars of human knowledge and the major academic disciplines. That knowledge changes very slowly over time  and it’s a core foundation that you can build upon and grow from.