The signs of unhealthy power dynamics in a relationship-and how to even them out

Not all power struggles are destructive. Some types of power struggles allow growth within the relationship and encourage a deeper understanding and respect for each other.

While it is still a struggle, by the end of it, you have reached an understanding about which lines can be crossed, which not, and how much each partner is able to compromise.

Elements that produce a healthy balance in relationships:

• Attention: The emotional needs of both partners are being met.
• Influence: Both partners can engage with and emotionally affect the other.
• Accommodation: Most decisions are made jointly.
• Respect: Each partner has positive regard, respect, and admiration for the other person.
• Selfhood: Each partner can be their own person both within and outside of the relationship.
• Vulnerability: Each partner is willing to admit faults, weakness or uncertainties in themselves.
• Fairness: Both partners feel that the responsibilities and duties are divided in a way that supports each person.