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Is Self-Sabotage Burning You Out?

https://hbr.org/2020/11/is-self-sabotage-burning-you-out

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Is Self-Sabotage Burning You Out?
Five common traps and how to avoid them.

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Burnout At The Workplace

Burnout At The Workplace

Almost half of the workplace employees suffer from burnout, mainly due to strict demands of the organization, constant uncertainty, changing rules and unfair policies.

Even the ones who are able to cope with this have their own defence mechanisms and eventually some other area of their lives starts to suffer.

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Self-Sabotage Traps

Some people appear immune to workplace burnout, due to their having a different response towards stress. Many of these burnout ‘survivors’ are actually getting into various self-sabotage traps. These traps can be handled by two important emotional intelligence skills:

  1. Self-awareness, that makes us look closely at our defensive reflex actions.
  2. Self-management, that makes us change our habits, steering away from destructive behaviour.

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Self-Sabotage Trap: Extreme Adaptability

Many people overextend themselves, bending over backwards to please others. They say ‘yes’ to most requests at the workplace and sacrifice their own well-being, energy and personal time to try to appear flexible and adaptable to their peers and bosses.

To break this trap, try to say ‘no’ often, or take low-stake projects. You can also set boundaries and take time off to recharge yourself.

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Self-Sabotage Trap: Perfectionism

  • Perfection, it seems, hinders progress as well as our wellness.
  • Our striving to be perfect makes us go to unattainable standards that tax us mentally and physically.
  • The heavy burden of making everything perfect makes us sabotage our health and well-being, draining ourselves to the point that the goal of perfection is also not possible anymore.

To break this trap, be more kind and forgiving towards yourself for the apparent mistakes. Be aware that you are getting in your own way in your pursuit to help yourself.

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Self-Sabotage Trap: Imposter Syndrome

Many of us put extra pressure on ourselves while starting a new role, and have feelings of insecurity or not being qualified for our job. We risk overworking and run a huge risk of burnout.

We can help ourselves from this trap by positive self-talk and an affirmative mindset.

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Self-Sabotage Trap: Over-Engagement

Many of us sacrifice our family time, exercise and of course sleep to be able to work to the max, as it makes us feel engaged and ‘worthy’.

This trap can be broken by introspection and then setting boundaries, paying more attention to your hobbies, and family matters. Work-life balance is all the more important now, when our work, home, personal life and everything else is mixed up.

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Self-Sabotage Trap: I Can’t Do Anything About It

Many of us deal with stress in two ways:

  1. Problem-focused coping is when we try to figure out what can be done and what cannot.
  2. Emotion-focused coping is when we are overburdened and start to whine and rant, feeling the pressure.

To help us out of this trap, we need to challenge our beliefs of what is under our control and what is not. We will find that most deadlines aren’t as rigid as they seem to be.

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Self-Sabotage: The Remedy

Mindfulness and meditation practice helps us take care of our mind and make it de-stressed. One should be aware of one’s thoughts, feelings and behaviours, checking if anything is out of control.

Leaders and managers must listen to the employee and take concrete steps to ensure that they do not suffer burnout, or fall into the various traps of self-sabotage.

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Lack of effective systems

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The Issue With Perfectionism

The Issue With Perfectionism

The more you chase perfectionism, the more likely you are to procrastinate and then get stressed out when things don’t go exactly how you wanted them to.

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Standards vs Reality

Most perfectionists can’t see their standards are unrealistic and bad for them. To find if you’re a perfectionist, ask yourself if your standards:

  • ... are higher than those of others.
  • ... can be met by you or others.
  • ... help or get in the way of you achieving your goals.
  • ... can be relaxed without affecting much the end result.

Thinking Like An Athlete

In sports, the drive for perfectionism is a positive force and turn setbacks into opportunities to reflect, learn, and adjust your approach. But regular perfectionists keep revisiting past failures as a form of self-condemnation.

All this does is cause them to raise the bar even higher, increasing the likelihood of failure. Try to see failure as simply a launching place for success, so you can break away from perfectionism.

Impostor Syndrome

It is a psychological phenomenon that reflects the belief that you’re an inadequate and incompetent failure despite evidence that indicates you’re skilled and quite successful.

The Perfectionist

They set the bar excessively high for themselves and when they fail to reach their goals, they experience major self-doubt. For this type, success is rarely satisfying because they believe they could’ve done even better.

But that’s not productive. Learning to celebrate achievements is essential if you want to avoid burnout and find contentment.

The Superwoman/man

Impostor workaholics are actually addicted to the validation that comes from working, not to the work itself. They push themselves to work harder, to measure up with their colleagues.

Start drifting away from external validation. No one should have more power to make you feel good about yourself than you.