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This Is the Right Way to Strive for Anything in Life

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This Is the Right Way to Strive for Anything in Life
In our first book, Peak Performance , Steve and I wrote that setting a goal and then throwing your all into pursuing it is one of the best feelings there is. In our second book, The Passion Paradox , we warned about the dangers of obsessive passion, or becoming too focused on achieving an external goal.

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Harmonious passion

It is a state of being where you are entirely absorbed in what you are doing, known as flow by modern psychological science, productive activity by humanist philosopher Erich Fromm, and the right effort by Buddha.

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Obsessive passion

Setting a goal and doing everything possible to pursue it is a great feeling.
However, often it is the very striving to be great that gets in the way of actually being great.

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The richer experience

When we are young and insecure, passion or striving often manifest as looking ahead and craving external validation (becoming a champion or lawyer or millionaire or whatever).

If we gain wisdom, the energy of our passion and striving becomes less about achieving the goal and more about where you are on the journey at present. It is about having a richer experience of the present moment. With this as a focus, you are more likely to achieve success.

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Experiencing lasting joy

Experiencing lasting joy

Setting a goal to meet a pinnacle can be great. However, if that is all you desire, you'll end up suffering.

But, if you are present for the journey, and sometimes forget about the end altogether, you'll experience lasting joy.

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Goal setting gives focus

Life is designed in such a way that we look long-term and live short-term. We dream for the future and live in the present. 

Setting goals provides long-term vision in our lives.

Practical goal setting

  • Evaluate and reflect. Regularly write down where you are right now, and if you are happy with your current level of satisfaction.
  • Define your dreams and goals. What do you want? Schedule some quiet “dream time” and think about what really thrills you. Then prioritise those dreams.
  • Make your goals S.M.A.R.T. (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time-sensitive)
  • Have accountability. Find someone to hold you accountable to your goals.

The 2 Models of Human Development

  • The 'Surrender Yourself' model dials up your levels of happiness as you progress from your basic needs (like food and good health) towards your achievements like recognized success, or ...

Self-Actualization

It implies acknowledging and respecting the sacredness and uniqueness of each kind of person. Self-Actualization also necessitates full access to information, full knowledge of the truth, and being able to choose without fear or social pressure.

The one thing left out of this theory is social psychology, as all the needs of a human being cannot be understood in isolation and social conditions are also necessary for personal growth.

Self-Transcendence

It involves advancing a cause greater and beyond the self, experiencing a drastic shift in perspective, beyond the confines of the self through the highest level of experience.

Self-transcenders have a completely selfless value system and are leaning towards serving humanity, with an eventual goal of transcending their ego.

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You don't find passion

You cultivate it. Expecting to find something that feels perfect right away may lead to the frustration of constant seeking. 

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Don’t quit your job too fast

Individuals who pursue their passions as side-gigs and gradually ramp up are much more successful in the long run. 

This is because there’s less pressure, so you can take more risks. 

The "Go big or go home" attitude

Taking small and consistent steps leads to big gains.

People with that “Go Big or Go Home” attitude tend to end up home. They get injured or burn out from doing too much, too fast, too soon.