How to let go of a lifelong dream | Psyche Guides

As you let go of your dream, you may fear you're making a mistake.

• There's no calculus for knowing when to give up. If pursuing your dream comes at great personal cost to your relationships and other goals in life (which is different from a 'harmonious passion'), that would suggest it was wise to give it up.
• Success is not all or nothing. You may not have fulfilled your dream, but you likely learned much along the way, giving you a chance to redirect your energy and passions in new ways.

Giving up your dream will hurt, at least for a time. To drop this vision of your future-self is to drop a piece of you.

To help you move on, It helps to focus on the negative implications of your dream. If we are realistic, many of our dreams are romanticised. We may think of doctors as healing people, but their daily reality is far more mundane.

When letting go of an impossible dream, you're freeing yourself up for a potentially more rewarding project.

If you dreamed of playing professional football, you could become a coach (and still play for your local club at the weekends). Or you might find a completely different direction more appealing.

You can relieve the sense of regret you feel about giving up a dream by doing the following exercise:

• On the first day, spend some time writing about friends and peers you know have regrets about dreams they've let go.
• On day two, write about the external factors beyond your control that led to you giving up a dream.
• On day three, write about your new dreams, why they're exciting and enjoyable, and how they benefit others in your life or community.