What is "self-inflicted stress"?

This personality type wants all to be happy and can sacrifice one’s own interests for what’s best for the group. Pleasers can become resentful and may feel under-appreciated.

Pleasers need to prioritize their schedule and manage time in a more balanced way, getting more done for themselves.

This personality type likes to be in charge, and needs to feel competent and wanted. They take on too much and feel stressed out and anxious. They need to wait a few minutes before deciding to take any new responsibilities.

Emotion-related inputs from the body to the brain could have generated the first traces of consciousness in our early ancestors. Being able to feel pain gives a survival advantage to animals, as they could have withdrawn from dangers and rested to promote recovery when injured or ill.

The development of awareness of body-related harms might have ultimately paved the road for the emergence of more advanced forms of conscious thought and processes, such as language, thinking, and reasoning. 

Our bodies signal our internal states to us, but it also often externalizes them too. And being able to track others’ inner states and goals might be one of the more advantageous capabilities.

Humans and many animals are adept at reading each other’s intentions, feelings, and goals from their behavior such as facial and bodily expressions. This promotes social cohesion by exchanging emotions and other mental states and presents evolutionary advantages a purely private consciousness wouldn’t have.

1. Resilience comes automatically to most of us.
2. It is part of a set of skills and behaviours and not a standalone concept.
3. Resilience is not an individual trait or quality, but dependent on many contextual factors like one’s upbringing, social factors and health conditions.
4. It is not a static concept but a flowing, dynamic process based on our life cycle and external conditions.
5. Resilience does not make a person a superhuman being, and the journey of suffering, misery and pain has to be undertaken.
6. Positivity is one-sided, and running away from negativity does not build resilience.

1. Don’t isolate yourself, but connect with others, and nurture your relationships. One can reach out to others, play and have fun by joining online or offline groups, or while going for a morning walk. One need not wait for a pandemic.
2. Accept what is happening to you(and others) and allow it to exist, while taking affirmative action towards stuff that is in your control.
3. Don’t avoid discomfort, but move towards it occasionally. It’s not always about comfort and convenience.
4. Distance yourself from your thoughts by practicing gratitude journaling, or simply writing on paper what is on your mind.
5. Find growth opportunities in adverse situations by reframing them as a new challenge, something known as Cognitive Reframing.