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Intimacy is the key ingredient of love in a relationship. It requires a person to share his or her inner life, including the joys, quirks and vulnerabilities towards their partner and helping them reciprocate the same.
Intimacy is deeply connected to empathy and deep understanding so that the partner is able to share a painful experience.
People think they avoid intimacy as they are scared of becoming closer to other people, and in essence, avoiding showing their true selves to others. They are in effect hiding their true nature and personality from others.
People have to masquerade as someone they are not in order to get what they want and build trust among others, which may not be possible if they show their true selves beforehand.
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“A manipulator doesn’t believe there are any win-win situations. If someone else wins, that means they lose, and t..."
Manipulators do most of the manipulation unconsciously, as a survival mechanism.
Manipulation stems as a defense mechanism of an unwillingly twisted mind and these people need professional help. While you don’t have to judge these people, you should always try to keep a safe distance until they begin to truly trust you and drop the act.
Treats life as a contest in which they set the rules and frame the scoreboard in order to always win. He/she keeps tabs on owed favors and call them in when he/she wants to control you.
Manipulators become bullies when they intimidate or harms others, and pick on people they perceive as weaker. But standing up to bullies often cause them to retreat.
When a psychological manipulator insists on violating your boundaries, and won’t take “no” for an answer, deploy consequence.
Effectively articulated, consequence gives pause to the manipulative individual, and compels her or him to shift from violation to respect.
Diplomatically but firmly. A well articulated “no” allows you to stand your ground while maintaining a workable relationship.