Take a moment to think about something that upsets you, that feels totally uncontrollable. Use the pandemic as your example – or something personal to you)
For each bubble, write a feeling, an emotion, an action, or result. There is no set pattern to this. Write what feels natural to you.
You don’t need to know how you will do this, but acknowledging how you see the world and what it does to you physically, emotionally and mentally, you can then decide “I’d like something better than this!”
For me, I like learning, so to boost my own, I’ve learned a new practice: Dialectical behavior therapy. In DBT, you learn the first thing to do when things are too much for you is to R.E.S.T – relax, evaluate, set an intention and take action.
Work out something that makes you stop in your tracks. Maybe it’s a song, playing hide and seek with the dog, mediation or something else. What might it be? Something where you stop thinking.
Ask yourself questions like:
We’ve all heard the saying a problem shared is a problem halved. Talking about something helps bring it to the front of our mind and work out what we want instead.
Control is not always about control but your perception of it. When you bring everyone together to a common goal , they are more likely to persevere and keep going for each other.
They help restore a sense of control if boundaries are respected and enforced . Everyone needs to create the rules and lives by them.
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