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#1 Acknowledge Jealousy

“It is not greed that drives the world, but envy.

The first step to deal with an uncomfortable feeling is acceptance.

  • If you ever catch yourself feeling those burning envious feelings, say “I’m , and I get jealous.”
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#2 Talk to Yourself

Whenever you feel like punching someone, it’s useful to take a deep breath, pause, and ask yourself the following questions:

  • What emotions am I feeling now? Is it anger? Is it hurt? Is it jealousy?
  • What were the triggers that caused this emotion?
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#3 Practice the “100% Swap” Thought Experiment

Ask yourself:

“If I could swap my life completely for his/hers, including not just the good stuff, but all the bad things — would I?”

You don’t want someone else’s life. You just like fantasizing about it.

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#4 Count Your Blessings

Jealousy comes from feelings of inadequacy. Remember, if we feel like we’re not enough — that’s when we start looking outside at other people.

Gratitude is such a powerful tool that lots of researchers have studied it and proven one thing: it just makes people happier.

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Socrates

“The secret of happiness, you see, is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less.”

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#5 Reach out to the Object of Your Jealousy

Reach out to him/her and humbly ask to learn from them. And then, maybe we become friends. And eventually, the jealousy falls away to become something better — like respect.

In this world of mistrust, it’s not isolation that will save us — it’s dialogue and empathy.

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James Altucher

“When you envy someone, you put a wall up between yourself and the things about that person you envy.

If they have a good job, there’s now a new wall between you and getting a good job. Why? Because you are programming yourself to...

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#6 Talk It out — Get Support

We’re looking for here is someone who will listen and empathize with you. And then lend you some non-judgmental emotional support (plus a hug maybe?).

He/she doesn’t even need to give you advice on how to solve your problems. If it’s jealousy — technically, there’s no exter...

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#7 Overcome Insecurity — Build Your Self-Esteem

  1. Surround yourself with positive people, who will help build you up. 
  2. Become good at things that are important to you.
  3. Decide on your core values. And then make progress in that.

Loving yourself is the ultimate antidote for jealousy. Because then y...

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