Ade Oane's Key Ideas from When the Body Says No
by Gabor Maté, MD

Artistic expression by itself is only a form of acting out emotions, not a way of working them through.

If the expression of anger is harmful and so is its repression, how do we hope to attaint health and healing?

• in the repression the problem is a lack of release
• in the release the problem is with unregulated and exaggerated venting

Both repression and rage represents a fear of the genuine experience of anger.

...is an empowerment and a relaxation.

...is physiologic experience without acting out

When healthy anger is starting to be experienced, you don't see anything dramatic. What you do see is a decrease of all muscle tension. 

Most of people will describe anxiety: tightening of the voice, shallow breathing, muscle tension - signs of anxiety not rage. 

Anger triggers anxiety because it coexist with positive feelings, with love and the desire for contact. Anger leads to an attacking energy, it threatens attachment.  

Aggressive impulses are suppressed because of guilt, and the guilt exist only because of the simultaneous existence of love, of positive feelings.

Anger doesn't exist in a vacuum by itself: is incredibly anxiety-provoking and guilt-producing for a person to experience aggressive feelings toward a loved one. 

The acting-out, the yelling, the screaming and even the hitting serves as a defence against the experience of the anger.  So, we repress the anger. 

Repression and discharge are two sides of the same coin.