This Is How To Be Resilient

We have trouble dealing with feelings because the usual problem-solving rules don't really apply to them.

When faced with a problem, we can always avoid it or deny it. But attempting to resist negative feelings won’t work. Any attempt at suppression only amplifies them. We must go from avoidance to acceptance.

• Consciously notice how you’re feeling and study it as a scientist would.
• Label the feeling. But don't identify with them. It’s a thing you’re experiencing, not what you are.
• Make space for your feelings in your mind. Remember that trying to suppress them will not work.
• Turn your attention to the world around you. This way, the relative importance of your feelings will shrink.