Resolving Indecision

Indecision is the difficulty of committing to action once a preference is known. It is possible to have a choice in mind, but have difficulty with its implementation.

REBT theory suggests that we can remain non-judgmental of preferences, as they are nearly always valid, but also that it is appropriate to critically examine actions and their consequences. From an interpersonal/emotional angle, criticism of preferences is almost always invalidating, while tactful criticism of behavior is rarely taken as an attack on one’s person.

It is best to think of choices as preferences that stem from subjective personal tastes. A decision, on the other hand, is a commitment to action that occurs after one becomes aware of their choice.

Any disconnect between what someone wants (choices) and what they are doing (decisions) causes a state of discomfort that is resolved only when behaviors, preferences, or both change. Stated simply, people who suffer from indecision are probably not committing to a course of action that is in line with their preferences, or are unable to commit to their preferences for any number of reasons.