Resolving Indecision - Albert Ellis Institute
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Unable to commit to an action
Indecision is the difficulty of committing to action once a preference is known. It is possible to have a choice in mind, but have difficulty with its implementation.
We can remain non-judgmental of preferences, as they are nearly always valid, but also that it is appropriate to critically examine actions and their consequences. From an interpersonal/emotional angle, criticism of preferences is almost always invalidating, while tactful criticism of behavior is rarely taken as an attack on one’s person.
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Decisions vs. Choices
It is best to think of choices as preferences that stem from subjective personal tastes. A decision, on the other hand, is a commitment to action that occurs after one becomes aware of their choice.
Any disconnect between what someone wants (choices) and what they are doing (decisions) causes a state of discomfort that is resolved only when behaviors, preferences, or both change. Stated simply, people who suffer from indecision are probably not committing to a course of action that is in line with their preferences, or are unable to commit to their preferences for any number of reasons.
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Resolving Indecision
So how do we resolve indecision and reduce negative emotions?
- Acknowledge your preferences without forcing yourself to commit to an action.
- Make a list of the possible decisions (courses of action) available to you that will give you a good shot at obtaining what you have chosen.
- Recognize that doing what you are already doing and doing nothing are both decisions with real consequences, and add these potential decisions to your list.
- Identify and critically evaluate the outcomes that may result from the decisions you have identified.
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