These 5 words will open thousands of doors for you - Deepstash
The power of phrase .
  • Can I ask you for advice?" It is a simple and short phrase; easy to say, remember and repeat. It is a phrase that can be used constantly without losing its validity and, above all, has behind it the power of science to open the doors that until then were closed.
  • Using it at different times where it seems to be in a dead end; where you lack answers or in which you feel that you need to form a closer relationship .
  • It is not about magic, but about communication and science.

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The Ben Franklin effect.
  • The Ben Franklin effect is a known psychological effect to change the perception that others have of us by allowing them to do us a favor.
  • They must be favors that are not heavy, annoying or expensive.
  • Psychology : since considering ourselves worthy of their time and attention forces them to see ourselves in a more favorable light , as valuable and kind people.

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An elegant compliment
  • When it comes to asking for advice, we are asking for a favor as well as making a compliment.
  • We are telling the other person that they are smart, that they are brilliant, that we respect them, and that their opinion is important .
  • It is a gift to your own ego - a gift that no one will stop receiving. People, in general, like to be heard and taken into account.

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Let the other shine .
  • The key is to state the advice simply and clearly and then let the other speak, always respecting the 80/20 rule.
  • When it comes to asking for advice, we are placing the conversation firmly on the other person's court, letting them speak and express their own personality and history.
  • When you have asked for advice, do not make excuses or explanations. Answer the question they ask you, but soon return the voice to the other person.

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Peripatetic effect
  • When we ask another person for advice about something that interests us and we get them to be interested in it.
  • it is possible that due to the effect of mirror neurons , which generate empathy and neural alignment between two people, both can find a solution to a real problem.
  • This is not a manipulative system, but a method of thinking called peripatetic , in which, through questions, we can help other people reach conclusions that they feel as their own .

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Create real conversations.
  • Nobody asks for advice on worthless things. We ask for advice on things that matter and concern us, that can peek into our privacy or explore big issues.
  • Asking for advice is one of the five avenues of wealth in silence and will help you forge business, personal and friendship relationships that will pave the way for a better life.
  • So now you know. When you find a closed door, the best key is to ask for advice by creating real conversations.

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