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Esther Perel's Blog - 5 Myths We Tell Ourselves When We’re Dating

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"There’s Only One Person Out There For Me"

Dating to find “The One” is extremely limiting—and often leads to major disappointment. There is never going to be one perfect person whose love is so powerful that it checks every box, heals all our wounds, and makes us want to delete all the apps. 

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People we love are not necessarily the same people we can make a life with. Life stories are not the same as love stories. It’s a different set of ingredients, different aspirations. 

Viewing marriage as the ultimate goal of a romantic connection reduces a complex set ...

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Love, desire, connection—all of the things that make us want to stay and go deeper with someone—are not induced by another person. They are co-created.

Instead of asking whether we’ve found the right person, learn what it would be like to be in a relationsh...

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We have a tendency to respond to disconnection by gripping tighter, even when we see that our behavior isn’t yielding our desired outcome. But there is a difference between trying harder and self-degradation. And no amount of self-degradation will provoke the true feeling of love in anoth...

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This is the voice of heartbreak. It conveniently highlights the good parts and disregards the shortcomings. Being realistic with ourselves about the shortcomings, however, can help us heal and determine what we want in future relationships.

The person who broke our heart wa...

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