How to Stop Worrying and Start Living Summary

Worry is important because it can help us to identify potential problems and to take steps to avoid them:

• When we worry about something, we are essentially thinking about the potential consequences of that event.
• Sometimes, worry can motivate us to take action & avoid a potential problem.
• When we worry about something that has already happened, we can learn from our mistakes and avoid making them again in the future. 

However, worry is not always helpful, and that it can be harmful to our physical and mental health if we allow it to consume us. Navigating our worries is a super-power.

1. Analyze the situation and figure out what is the worst that could possibly happen as a result of this failure.
2. Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst-if necessary.
3. Focus on the present: Don’t dwell on the past or the future. Focus on what you can control
4. Try to improve upon the worst scenario you have already mentally agreed to accept.

We should be living in the present moment instead of living in the past or the future. Live one day after another. Divide your life into units of days.

Pretend as if every day was the first and the last day that you are alive.

1. Analyse the situation & think what Worst can happen.

2. Assume that the worst has happened. 

3. Now devote your time and energy to trying to improve the worst. 

1. Live in “day tight compartments.”

2. How to face trouble:

a. Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can possibly happen?”

b. Prepare to accept the worst.

c. Try to improve on the worst.

3. Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health.

1. Get all the facts.

2. Weigh all the facts — then come to a decision.

3. Once a decision is reached, act!

4. Write out and answer the following questions:

a. What is the problem?

b. What are the causes of the problem?

c. What are the possible solutions?

d. What is the best possible solution?

1. Keep busy.

2. Don’t fuss about trifles.

3. Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries.

4. Cooperate with the inevitable.

5. Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth and refuse to give it more.

6. Don’t worry about the past.

It is not just a book but a manual for happy worry-free life. All the chapter deals with real world application of ideas to tackle the worry. The tools are so easy to understand and use that one may actually turn himself from worrier to a warrior.

Live each day until bedtime. Don't carry tension from yesterday to tomorrow. Live in day-tight compartment

Ask yourself about the troubles you're facing

• What worst could happen if you can't solve it?
• Prepare mentally for the worst case scenario
• Calmly try to improve upon the worst

Remind yourself what could happen to your health if you don't stop worrying.

1. Get the facts. Remember that half the worry in the world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision
2. After carefully weighing all facts, come to a decision
3. Once a decision is carefully reached, act! Get busy carrying out your decisions and dismiss all anxiety about the outcome
4. When you are tempted to worry about a problem, write out and answer the following questions:

• What is the problem?
• What is the cause of the problem?
• What are all possible solutions?
• What is the best solution?

RULE 1: Let's fill our minds with thoughts of peace, courage,

health, and hope, for "our life is what our thoughts make it."

RULE 2: Let's never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hun them. Let's do as General Eisenhower docs: let's never waste a minute thinking about people we don't like.

RULE 3: A Instead of worrying about ingratitude, let's expect it. Let's remember that Jesus healed ten lepers in one day--and only ooe thanked Him. Why should we expect more gratitude than Jesus gor?

B. Let's remember that the only way to find hap piness is not to cxpect gratitude--but to give for the joy of giving.

Take a short moment to read these few tips that helped me a lot

• Just take a deep breath, believe me it works, however big the problem is it will tend to reduce
• Do one thing at a time
• Stop adding more and more responsibilities to yourself, you are doing someone else work
• Just keep an another activity that improves your skill, like learning languages, etc.
• Just make sure you are 15 min alone, that means nothing else need to be done.

1.Just for today I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true, that "most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." Happiness is from within; it is not a matter of externals.

2.Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything to my own desires. I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit myself to them.

3. Just for today I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.

How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie, is one of the classics in Self-help and motivational genre, which analyses our day-to-day worries in everyone's life and shows us simple actionable suggestions to overcome. Despite the 'age' of the book (It was first published in 1948), the entire content is still current, usable, and easily applicable. No wonder why more than 16 Million copies are sold!.

Here’re my top-3 learning from the book:

Most of the worries come from either things that are entirely out of our control; or things that are far ahead (that’s anxiety). First, we must ask ourselves what kind of problem we have and whether we can do anything about it.

Often we aren't happy because we try to change things that we can't change. we should learn to identify those things and accept them as the first step, and look further to make the impact better. Also to focus just on today, do our best today, the future will take care of itself.

Worry gets into your mind, only when you’re “reactive”. When something starts to get you worried, be “proactive” and start gathering as many facts as you can about the situation, then use those facts to develop a plan of attack. Once the attack plan is in place, get them down into implementation without any anxiety about the outcome.