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How to stop worrying & start living

How to stop worrying & start living

by Dale Carnegie


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William James

"Acceptance of what has happened is the first step in overcoming the consequences of any misfortune."

William James



Living One Day At A Time

Try to avoid getting nervous about the future. Just live each day until bedtime.

Only think about and focus on the current day. We cannot go back to the past or see the future. The future is today.


The Formula For Solving Worry Situations

The Formula For Solving Worry Situations
  1. Analyze the situation and figure out what is the worst that could possibly happen as a result of this failure.
  2. Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst-if necessary.
  3. Try to improve upon the worst scenario you have already mentally agreed to accept.


Analyze And Solve Worry Problems

  • Get the facts in an impartial manner.
  • Analyze the facts. It is much easier to analyze the facts after writing them down.
  • Arrive at a decision and then act on that decision. Do something about it.


Charles Kettering

"A problem well stated is a problem half solved."

Charles Kettering


Dealing With Business Worries

When you are faced with a worrisome business problem, write out and answer the following questions:

  • What is the problem?
  • What is the cause of the problem?
  • What are all possible solutions?
  • What is the best solution?


Breaking The Worry Habit

Breaking The Worry Habit
  • Keep busy. The worried person must lose himself in action, lest be wither in despair.
  • Don't allow yourself to get upset by small things.
  • Think about the actual probability of the event you worry about to happen.
  • Co-operate with the inevitable. You can either bend with the inevitable storms of life or you can resist them and break.
  • Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth and refuse to give it any more.
  • Let the past bury its dead.


Michel de Montaigne

"A man is not hurt so much by what happens, as by his opinion of what happens."

Michel de Montaigne


Cultivate Peace And Happiness

  • Choose thoughts of peace, courage, health, and hope.
  • Never try to get even with your enemies. Don't waste a minute thinking about people you don't like.
  • Dorry worry about ingratitude, expect it. Give only for the joy of giving.
  • Count your blessings, not your troubles.
  • Do not imitate others. Find your own voice.
  • Do the best you can with the resources you have at hand.
  • Try to create a little happiness for the others.


François de La Rochefoucauld

"The opinions of our enemies come nearer to the truth about us than do our own opinions."

François de La Rochefoucauld


Dealing With Criticism

  • Unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. It often is the consequence of jealousy and envy.
  • Do the very best you can and don't let the irrelevant criticism affect you.
  • Ask for unbiased, helpful, constructive criticism.


How To Deal With Insomnia

How To Deal With Insomnia
  • If yon can't sleep, get out of bed and work or read until you do feel sleepy.
  • Worrying about insomnia usually causes far more damage than sleeplessness.
  • Relax your body.
  • Get yourself so physically tired you can't stay awake.


Deal With Financial Stress

  • Get the facts down on paper.
  • Get a tailor-made budget for your needs.
  • Learn how to spend wisely.
  • Try to build credit, in the event you must borrow.
  • Protect yourself against illness, fire, and emergency expenses.
  • Teach your children a responsible attitude towards money.
  • Stay away from gambling.



Observe, Accept, and Reframe

Recognizing and accepting the fact you're being nervous before an important presentation will help you more than trying to fight those anxious feelings. Resistance creates even more angst.


Focus on Your Body

Instead of being swept in the spiral of negative thoughts like 'What if I fail? What will they think of me? try to be aware of your physical sensations: how your heart beats, how the air fills your lungs, the heat and sweat you feel.

This will anchor you in the present moment and calm your nerves.

Tips For Calming Your Nerves

  • Make sure you get a good night’s sleep, that you're hydrated and that you had a good meal before. 
  • Be careful with your caffeine intake before a big presentation so that your heart rate isn’t already elevated.
  • Strike a power pose. Research shows it can shift your mood and make you feel more confident. 
  • Own the space. If you can, get to the room early and really imagine owning it.

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Avoiding bad feelings doesn't work

Whenever you have the urge to avoid, you need to realize that’s an opportunity to weaken your worries. It’s a chance to practice more mindfulness. Shift your focus away from your thoughts and back to the concrete world.

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Write Down Your Worries

Getting your emotions down on paper can decrease anxieties, as you reassess them while writing. 

Engage In Forest Therapy

Spending time within a forest setting can reduce psychological stress, depressive symptoms, and hostility, while at the same time improving sleep, and increasing both vigor and a feeling of liveliness

20 minutes of walking in the woods and listening to the sounds of nature alter cerebral blood flow in a manner that indicated a state of relaxation and reduced stress hormone levels.