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5 Things to Do When You Feel Insecure
Consider it beautiful
Insecurity — the vulnerability of spirit — is essentially humility, which is a virtue.
Self-consciousness, apartness, an inability to join in, physical shame and self-loathing—they are not all bad.
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What Confidence Is
True confidence is a feeling of self-assurance that is grounded in an authentic experience of our own ability, perspective and sufficiency.
It’s a stable connection to the fact that we...
Why Confidence Matters
- Confidence is an amplifier of quality and success.
- Confidence is essential to influence and leadership.
- Confidence isn’t just about style. It’s also about substance.
- Confidence protects us. It's one of the greatest weapons we can develop.
Nonverbal communication
Confidence is expressed most profoundly through our bodies. No matter how well we speak, the way we feel about ourselves will always manifest in our posture, our hand movements and our facial features.
So commit to strong, positive body language and make a conscious effort to form habits that make your nonverbal communication automatic.
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Using Decision Trees
- Understand the different outcomes that could happen (both positive and negative)
- Calculate the expected return or loss of each outcome
- Attach a probability to each outcome ...
Use Decision Trees
Elon Musk uses decision trees to make big decisions (a tool that uses a tree-like graph or model of decisions and their possible consequences, outcomes, and resources). They are particularly useful for avoiding stupid risks and big bets that aren’t likely to succeed.
Most became a billionaire by making unlikely big bets, as their expected return statistically was much higher than safer bets.
Build Deep, Long-Term Relationships
One of the best ways to get information is not from just being better at searching Google, it’s from learning how to build a network and get the information you need through that network.
This network should include people’s lessons learned and hacks, topics that are too sensitive to talk about because they make someone look bad, and tacit knowledge (knowledge that people have but aren’t able to articulate).
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Feeling lazy
Some people do the least to get just enough benefit. They can work hard, but only for a short amount of time. They always procrastinate with everything from cleaning to...
You form your identity
You make messiness and procrastination part of your identity when you don't want to do something you have to do and use the excuse that it is just "who you are."
For example, you want to clean up after yourself, but you also don’t want to clean up, and then think, "This is me. Yes, I’m a lazy, procrastinating mess.”
Conflicted about your choices
As long as you're conflicted about your preferences and the ways you've chosen to identify yourself, you have a problem.
It could be that you don't want to disappoint yourself and clearing the lowest hurdles possible. You are choosing a lifestyle of avoidance and low expectations.