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How to Find Happiness Within : zen habits

Where Happiness Comes From

Phenomena that happen outside of us don’t cause happiness. They might be correlated with happiness but it’s not a cause-and-effect relationship. 

The most important part is what happens in our brain between the external event (a good cup of coffee) and our state of happiness.

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How to Find Happiness Within : zen habits

How to Find Happiness Within : zen habits

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"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking."

"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking."

Where Happiness Comes From

Phenomena that happen outside of us don’t cause happiness. They might be correlated with happiness but it’s not a cause-and-effect relationship. 

The most important part is what happens in our brain between the external event (a good cup of coffee) and our state of happiness.

"We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have."

"We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have."

Finding Happiness Within

Things within us that to appreciate - they can make us happy, no matter what’s going on outside:

  • Being generous
  • Being loving and kind
  • Feeling compassion and empathy
  • Being skilled at something
  • Being a good listener
  • Knowing how to appreciate the beauty in nature and in others
  • Being determined
  • Being creative.

Appreciating All That’s Around Us

The key skill is to learn to notice, accept and appreciate everything around us, and everyone we see and interact with.

Often if we fail to see good in things or people around us (or ourselves), it’s a failure to pay close attention. All around us are examples of beauty, creativity, inspiration, triumph, pain, joy, life.

SIMILAR ARTICLES & IDEAS:

Marcus Aurelius

"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking."

Marcus Aurelius
Eleanor Roosevelt
Eleanor Roosevelt

"Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are able to give."

How to brighten your day
  • Reflect on what you appreciate and love about your partner, friends, or family members.
  • Express your appreciation to them.
  • Take the time to see how you can help someone out.
  • Slow down for 3 minutes. Let your thoughts and body also slow down while you pay attention to life around you.
  • Smile towards the people you meet.
  • Make someone else happy. Give him or her a gift of some kind.
  • Take fewer things for granted, like your food, the weather, or small gestures. It will inspire and motivate you.
  • Take action and create the day you wish to have.
  • Say yes to something new.
  • Say no to a should that isn't that important.
  • Take a 2-minute laugh-break.
  • Do what you deep down think is the right thing.
  • Stand still for a minute, close your eyes and simply enjoy the sun.
Joy

It's the emotion evoked by well-being, success, or good fortune or by the prospect of succeeding. It’s a simple and light-hearted spark that transcends through your body and leaves fee...

Happiness

It's a pleasurable emotion brought by a state of well-being and contentment. It’s usually accompanied by an attachment to an idea, a destination or experience. It often weighs profoundly heavier on our subconscious. 

Happiness Is a Destination; Joy An Attitude

The vision of the life you desire is a destination you shouldn’t ignore as it’s key to understanding your happy place.

If happiness is the destination, joy is the milestone that leads there. Joy comes and passes through without the heaviness of it being a “final destination” because joy is an attitude.

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Good relationships

Having good, supportive friendships, a strong marriage or close and loving relationships with our family members will make us much more likely to be happy. 

Action steps: T...

Optimism and self-esteem

These are some of the best indicators of people who lead happy lives. Happy people feel empowered, in control of their lives, and have a positive outlook on life. 

Action steps: Get into the habit of squashing all negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones.

Flow

People find greatest enjoyment not when they’re passively mindless, but when they’re absorbed in a mindful challenge. This is flow, when we're so immersed in our task that we lose track of time. 

Action steps: Find work  and hobbies that you’re passionate about and that fully engage you.

Happiness vs Joy

Happiness is dependent on outside circumstances to align with your expectations so that the end result is your happiness. It’s based on internal and external circumstances, thus unstable, wi...

Finding Joy

Happiness lies on transitory things, so simplify your life and possessions to get a clearer path to a better internal life. When stuff, people, and the problems they bring fall away, the resulting stillness allows you to find the self-sufficient joy that resides inside.

Joy comes when you make peace with who you are, where you are and why you are. When you need nothing but your truth to bring peace, then you have settled into unshakable abiding joy.

Map out your happy places

There are very few tools that can help us research, track and plan our own happiness. Online services now let users map out their happy places and discover where others have felt happy.

The significance

People should be able to track their happiness in a similar way they track their fitness goals. 

Apps tracking happiness effectively served as a glorified research project. The conclusion: people are happiest when they stop their minds from wandering.

Not just a feeling

Happiness isn't just a feeling that should be left entirely to chance. There are specific factors that influence your happiness, which can be easily tracked with the right tools.

Learn something new

... even if it's stressful. Mastering a new skill means more stress now but more happiness later.

The key is to choose the right new skill to master, a challenge to undertake, or ...

Friends near you

Geographically close friends (and neighbors) have the greatest effect on happiness.

Individual happiness cascades through groups of people, like contagion. So make friends with people who live near you.

Embrace opposing feelings

Happiness can come from noticing and embracing a wide spectrum of emotions--both good and bad. 

So don't ignore negative feelings. Embrace them--and then actively work toward overcoming whatever issues you face.

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Hedonic adaptation

Hedonic adaptation refers to people’s common tendency to return to a determined level of happiness regardless of life’s ups and downs.

Hedonic adaptation is often referred to as “the hedonic ...

Examples of Hedonic Adaptation
  • People who win the lottery are likely to revert to their original levels of happiness after the novelty of the win has worn off.
  • It is also true for those who are in major accidents. People generally tend to return to their pre-accident levels of happiness after a period.
  • Research has found that the first bite of something delicious is experienced as more pleasurable than the subsequent bites.
How Much Control We Have

Researcher Sonja Lyubomirsky has examined this set-point:

A full 50 percent of our happiness set-point is due to genetics. 10 percent is affected primarily by circumstances like where we were born and to whom. 40 percent is subject to our influence.

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3 kinds of happy lives
  • The pleasant life: you fill your life with as many pleasures as you can. This has hardly any contribution to lasting fulfilment.
  • The life of engagement, where y...
Habits Of Supremely Happy People
  • They surround themselves with other happy people.
  • They cultivate resilience.
  • They appreciate simple pleasures.
  • They devote some of their time to giving.
  • They get immersed in activities that bring joy.
  • They nix the small talk for deeper conversations. 
  • They make a point to listen. 
  • They look on the bright side.
  • They make exercise a priority.
  • They listen to good music.
  • They spend time in nature.
  • They laugh a lot.
Happiness and success

Happiness is a key driver and a precursor of success.

Positive feelings make the brain work better. They trigger the release of serotonin and dopamine, which significantly enhance moto...

Pursue meaningful engagement

Meaningful engagement as a key factor of happiness.

When we identify our greatest strengths and recraft our life to use them in our social and family interactions we gain more meaning. 

“One of the best ways of discovering this value is by nourishing our unique strengths in contributing to the happiness of our fellow humans.”

“One of the best ways of discovering this value is by nourishing our unique strengths in contributing to the happiness of our fellow humans.”

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Life is progress, not perfection

It doesn't work like a check-list: You can't check each item off, get to be happy and old for a couple of decades, then you die. Problems don’t go away, they change and evolve. And acce...

Taking responsibility

Blaming the world for your problems is the easy way out. 

It gives you short-term relief, you lie in your imagined victimhood, but ultimately it implies that you are incapable of controlling your own fate. 

Mark Manson
Mark Manson

"You can only fix your own imperfections and not the imperfections of others. So you may as well get to work on them."

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